Cant stand my classmates. Will things get better

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Current second year, this year has been absolutely horrible for me because my class is very clique-y and exclusive and lot of old friends in this class are doing the "silent treatment" with me. There are some good people at this school but its very competitive with a lot of high school level drama. Do things get better next year in third year? Would I be able to meet new people in third year to start fresh? This year is really dragging along and miserable so I'm hoping for a change of pace
 
Probably not. The cliques will just look different, be hospital employees, and have the ability to make your life suck if you don't play nice.

So be professional, don't be a jerk, and make friends where you can. You'll be all right.
 
Probably not. The cliques will just look different, be hospital employees, and have the ability to make your life suck if you don't play nice.

So be professional, don't be a jerk, and make friends where you can. You'll be all right.

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Third year is different. You'll probably find yourself boxed in with some of the same people but different surroundings. Make friends, or don't. Who cares, honestly, just enjoy your life. Maybe your classmates and you just don't have a lot of common ground, maybe they're just not your kind of people. As you move forward in medicine, you'll find that certain fields tend to attract certain personality types. Gravitate toward a field that has people you get on with a bit better, or, if you find medical culture in general to not be for you, just forget about it and cultivate your life outside of your career like many outside of medicine do.
 
I love the blissful look of ambivalence the nontrads have passing by the high school drama of younger classmates. The nontrads don't care, and don't have a socially awkward bone in their body because they know this is professional school, where you're paying to be the best doctor possible, not to make friends. They probably also have a decent idea of what they want out of life, and it doesn't involve impressing these cliques. While the setting will certainly be different 3rd year, I obviously can't say if you'll escape these peers or not, I would just be friendly with everyone, regardless of their response, and remember why you're there. If you're looking for new friends try reaching out to new people to study with, volunteer/get involved in interest groups, or download bumble.
 
Third year is different. You'll probably find yourself boxed in with some of the same people but different surroundings. Make friends, or don't. Who cares, honestly, just enjoy your life. Maybe your classmates and you just don't have a lot of common ground, maybe they're just not your kind of people. As you move forward in medicine, you'll find that certain fields tend to attract certain personality types. Gravitate toward a field that has people you get on with a bit better, or, if you find medical culture in general to not be for you, just forget about it and cultivate your life outside of your career like many outside of medicine do.

I agree with you at lot, so it's not super shocking I'm agreeing with you on this one.

I just want to add that third year is weird because you end up with a new social environment pretty much every four weeks. You might get a repeat resident or co-student every once in a while, and you likely run into the same people over and over again at didactics, but for the most part, you're spending your time with new people every rotation. I guess it's a good thing if you really like meeting new people or if you end up in a group you don't like for a bit (you can handle anybody for a month, I promise), and getting exposure to all the different fields and their personality types is great, but it can be hard if you're a shyer person and/or the "new kid" feeling stresses you out. There's definitely pros and cons.

Edit to add: not trying to have any commentary on rotations changing every month-ish which is absolutely necessary for our education, just wanted to mention that socially it's kind of an odd experience
 
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