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sweetlenovo88

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I took the comlex today...

And found out when I came home that my wife of 3.5 years has made her final decision to leave me.

I am heart broken.

Looking through the five stages of grief, I am in denial and depression.

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sweetlenovo88 said:
I took the comlex today...

And found out when I came home that my wife of 3.5 years has made her final decision to leave me.

I am heart broken.

Looking through the five stages of grief, I am in denial and depression.

🙁
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Sorry to hear that. Do you know why? any chance you two can talk about it and work through whatever is going on? I'm sure that med school and the whole process is very wearing on a spouse.
 
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sweetlenovo88 said:
I took the comlex today...

And found out when I came home that my wife of 3.5 years has made her final decision to leave me.

I am heart broken.

Looking through the five stages of grief, I am in denial and depression.

🙁
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Oh man. So sorry.

Lucky, or nice of her to wait till after the test. Your heart may be broken, but you haven't hurt other parts of your life.

I hope what follows is not ugly. And nothing anyone says will help. I just encourage you to get your support system together and be ok getting psychological help if the depression lasts longer than you feel would be appropriate.

Don't drink.... too much....
 
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sweetlenovo88 said:
I took the comlex today...

And found out when I came home that my wife of 3.5 years has made her final decision to leave me.

I am heart broken.

Looking through the five stages of grief, I am in denial and depression.

🙁
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That really sucks...I took COMLEX yesterday too, and I would've been really upset if my husband told me he wanted a divorce right after than 8 hour beast of a test. But like someone else said, at least she told you AFTER the test, not before. Hopefully 3rd year will help you get your mind off of it. It's rough getting through a breakup, but once you get past the initial hurt it's an opportunity for growth.
 
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Not to compare to marriage but I had break up in the beginning of second year with my girlfriend. It was awful just to think about it. Weird thing was that I just spent more time studying and did better in those courses. It is very painful. For the first month I was just thinking maybe she would call etc.. never happened actually found out she got engaged to someone else.

You have to think that this all for the better (even if you can't see that right now). If she couldn't tolerate what was going on now for whatever the reason, residency is much harder on the spouse with 24 hour shifts. You are going to need a strong women, one who can tolerate the demanding lifestyle of a medical student and resident.

Keep your head up, you have a bright future on your way to becoming a doctor. You will find someone who you will be able to make a connection with again. It took some time for me but it did happen. she will have a deep appreciation for the work you are going to be doing. That is what you need and deserve.

You should watch some humor movies. Even go on to You Tube watch who's line is it anyway. Many of the things they do are funny. You need the laughter.

You also need time to talk it out. Talk it over with a friends and family. At the end of the day you will always have them. You need to vent. It very frustrating. You will need time to cry it out too. That is perfectly normal.
 
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Watch Swingers...best guy break up movie ever.

Hope everything works out for you. I guess for now just hang in there, seek help if you need it from family/friends/counselors, and realize your future is bound to be bright. We just had an amazing lecturer today at NYCOM who reminded us how important it is to have emotional support throughout our careers and lives. Kappy knows who I'm talking about 🙂
 
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jp104 said:
Watch Swingers...best guy break up movie ever.

Hope everything works out for you. I guess for now just hang in there, seek help if you need it from family/friends/counselors, and realize your future is bound to be bright. We just had an amazing lecturer today at NYCOM who reminded us how important it is to have emotional support throughout our careers and lives. Kappy knows who I'm talking about 🙂
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You're so money right now and you don't even know it.
 
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jp104 said:
Watch Swingers...best guy break up movie ever.

Hope everything works out for you. I guess for now just hang in there, seek help if you need it from family/friends/counselors, and realize your future is bound to be bright. We just had an amazing lecturer today at NYCOM who reminded us how important it is to have emotional support throughout our careers and lives. Kappy knows who I'm talking about 🙂
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Yes I do. I definitely think every school should have a lecture like it.
 
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jp104 said:
Watch Swingers...best guy break up movie ever.

Hope everything works out for you. I guess for now just hang in there, seek help if you need it from family/friends/counselors, and realize your future is bound to be bright. We just had an amazing lecturer today at NYCOM who reminded us how important it is to have emotional support throughout our careers and lives. Kappy knows who I'm talking about 🙂
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Yes I do. 😉 I definitely think every school should have a lecture like it. Medical school is stressful enough without having life's pressures added into the equation. The story we heard was awful. Don't do anything that will end up screwing up your career.

You may need some time off just to deal with this emotionally. Many schools will give you that option. Definitely speak to your school, if you feel that you are not able to handle the clerkship while going through this difficult time. Most residencies will applaud you for it. They will see that you knew where your limits are. If you start the clerkship and then are unable to finish it that will look a lot worse. Try to evaluate this before you start. They can see you as an asset to help out members of the medical team that have had similar problems.

I think you are feeling something like this now. :diebanana::boom::slap:+pissed+
 
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