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what do you guys think about attending a school you hate (well maybe hate is too strong but certainly dislike) if its what is likely best for your family? Im sorta debating as i really dislike this school (UCI) but i feel like for the sake of my wife and son its important for me to just take that acceptance and run. Im on the WL but i kinda feel like i need to make a decision soon since may 15th is on the way. JJ can attest to probably some of this but theres just a lot about UCI that i dont like the more i think about. I guess its still med school and i could probably be fine no matter where i go, i just really dont want to attend there. But if i do go here it means that my wife keeps her good paying job and my son can stay in the same school with the same therapists/teachers/friends etc etc...

I have no idea what i should decide but id be interested to get some opinions 🙂. Right now im in love with uc davis and ucla and would happily attend either of those over UCI. UCI just rubs me the wrong way on so many levels.
 
Elijah05 said:
what do you guys think about attending a school you hate (well maybe hate is too strong but certainly dislike) if its what is likely best for your family? Im sorta debating as i really dislike this school (UCI) but i feel like for the sake of my wife and son its important for me to just take that acceptance and run. Im on the WL but i kinda feel like i need to make a decision soon since may 15th is on the way. JJ can attest to probably some of this but theres just a lot about UCI that i dont like the more i think about. I guess its still med school and i could probably be fine no matter where i go, i just really dont want to attend there. But if i do go here it means that my wife keeps her good paying job and my son can stay in the same school with the same therapists/teachers/friends etc etc...

I have no idea what i should decide but id be interested to get some opinions 🙂. Right now im in love with uc davis and ucla and would happily attend either of those over UCI. UCI just rubs me the wrong way on so many levels.
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A couple of things to think about (that I'm sure you probably already have anyway, but oh well):

1) How tough is it to find work in your wife's field?
2) How old is your kid?
3) How much cheaper is Davis with the cost of living difference?
 
Elijah05 said:
what do you guys think about attending a school you hate (well maybe hate is too strong but certainly dislike) if its what is likely best for your family? Im sorta debating as i really dislike this school (UCI) but i feel like for the sake of my wife and son its important for me to just take that acceptance and run. Im on the WL but i kinda feel like i need to make a decision soon since may 15th is on the way. JJ can attest to probably some of this but theres just a lot about UCI that i dont like the more i think about. I guess its still med school and i could probably be fine no matter where i go, i just really dont want to attend there. But if i do go here it means that my wife keeps her good paying job and my son can stay in the same school with the same therapists/teachers/friends etc etc...

I have no idea what i should decide but id be interested to get some opinions 🙂. Right now im in love with uc davis and ucla and would happily attend either of those over UCI. UCI just rubs me the wrong way on so many levels.
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Wait, are you accepted to UCI and UCLA?
 
Elijah05 said:
what do you guys think about attending a school you hate (well maybe hate is too strong but certainly dislike) if its what is likely best for your family? Im sorta debating as i really dislike this school (UCI) but i feel like for the sake of my wife and son its important for me to just take that acceptance and run. Im on the WL but i kinda feel like i need to make a decision soon since may 15th is on the way. JJ can attest to probably some of this but theres just a lot about UCI that i dont like the more i think about. I guess its still med school and i could probably be fine no matter where i go, i just really dont want to attend there. But if i do go here it means that my wife keeps her good paying job and my son can stay in the same school with the same therapists/teachers/friends etc etc...

I have no idea what i should decide but id be interested to get some opinions 🙂. Right now im in love with uc davis and ucla and would happily attend either of those over UCI.
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you're on the WL? if i were you i'd just work super hard to get off the WL and then decide once you know if it's a viable option.

JJMrK said:
I really need to get all my finaid documents ready to go.
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i thought finaid was going to play the biggest role in your decision? or am i confusing you with someone else
 
That's a pretty tough situation, Elijah. At least you don't technically have to worry about it yet because you're still on the WL, right?

I'm not a huge fan of a lot of things LSU (I don't think I hate it), but I don't have the whole family thing to deal with either.
 
Elijah05 said:
what do you guys think about attending a school you hate (well maybe hate is too strong but certainly dislike) if its what is likely best for your family? Im sorta debating as i really dislike this school (UCI) but i feel like for the sake of my wife and son its important for me to just take that acceptance and run. Im on the WL but i kinda feel like i need to make a decision soon since may 15th is on the way. JJ can attest to probably some of this but theres just a lot about UCI that i dont like the more i think about. I guess its still med school and i could probably be fine no matter where i go, i just really dont want to attend there. But if i do go here it means that my wife keeps her good paying job and my son can stay in the same school with the same therapists/teachers/friends etc etc...

I have no idea what i should decide but id be interested to get some opinions 🙂. Right now im in love with uc davis and ucla and would happily attend either of those over UCI. UCI just rubs me the wrong way on so many levels.
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did you get in or still on the waitlist? either way you'll be in cali so yayy for that but as far as your wife and kid i'd say try to look up what the situation would be if you end up moving to davis/sac or LA and see how it'd play for your fam and maybe it wouldnt be that bad to move from Irvine :xf:
 
JJMrK said:
A couple of things to think about (that I'm sure you probably already have anyway, but oh well):

1) How tough is it to find work in your wife's field?
2) How old is your kid?
3) How much cheaper is Davis with the cost of living difference?
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though about all that. COL davis is cheaper barring scholarships. havnt got fin aid packages from either. But cost i dont think will matter in the end as its the same. kid is starting kindergarten next year...its somewhat hard for her to find a job. She just tells me do what i think is best...its like great that doesnt help me at all haha...


dw2158 said:
you're on the WL? if i were you i'd just work super hard to get off the WL and then decide once you know if it's a viable option.

i thought finaid was going to play the biggest role in your decision? or am i confusing you with someone else
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Well cost is going to be the same at all my schools likely now that ive recieved some aid packages. Also am i wrong in that after may 15th, if i get in off the WL dont i sorta have to take it no matter what over my current acceptances? Im confused....i thought at that point by staying on the WL you were basically saying its past may 15th and id rather go to this school over my current one? 😕
 
Elijah05 said:
Well cost is going to be the same at all my schools likely now that ive recieved some aid packages. Also am i wrong in that after may 15th, if i get in off the WL dont i sorta have to take it no matter what over my current acceptances? Im confused....i thought at that point by staying on the WL you were basically saying its past may 15th and id rather go to this school over my current one? 😕
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Nope, you can turn down an acceptance if you get in off the waitlist
 
Elijah05 said:
Well cost is going to be the same at all my schools likely now that ive recieved some aid packages. Also am i wrong in that after may 15th, if i get in off the WL dont i sorta have to take it no matter what over my current acceptances? Im confused....i thought at that point by staying on the WL you were basically saying its past may 15th and id rather go to this school over my current one? 😕
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my cost Q was directed at JJ. but anyway... i don't think WLs are like that. at least i hope not! you are still given a week or two to decide at most places if they accept you from the WL. i'd stay on if i were you.
 
metallica81788 said:
You can tell a school no if you get in after May 15th, but you have a shorter window of time to decide (1-2 weeks).
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hmm but at that point you would be holding 2 acceptances? I just dont want to screw myself, i thought that they called the other school to let me know basically to fill another spot as they would be offering you admission?
 
dw2158 said:
my cost Q was directed at JJ. but anyway... i don't think WLs are like that. at least i hope not! you are still given a week or two to decide at most places if they accept you from the WL. i'd stay on if i were you.
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eh w/e i dont read closely i guess😛
 
Elijah05 said:
hmm but at that point you would be holding 2 acceptances? I just dont want to screw myself, i thought that they called the other school to let me know basically to fill another spot as they would be offering you admission?
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no, you definitely have the short window where you can hold multiple spots. getting in off a WL is kind of an exception to that rule.
 
metallica81788 said:
I guess I should call tomorrow.

That's so freaking stupid! You would think after all the crap you fill out on FAFSA they would have all the info they need. This financial aid process is some of the dumbest **** ever...
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every school im in or WL at wants signed copy of tax forms and several other documents that are basically copies of whats on my fafsa.....stupid but yah
 
OneMCATAway said:
do we have to go through the same finaid forms every year? :annoyed:
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yeah probs. but it's only one school so it will be simpler! i had a spreadsheet to keep track of which forms to fill out for which schools.
 
dw2158 said:
no, you definitely have the short window where you can hold multiple spots. getting in off a WL is kind of an exception to that rule.
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oh thansk dw i didnt know that...i guess ive been worrying over nothing nevermind then lol.
I guess ill ask that question if i get in then 🙂

OneMCATAway said:
do we have to go through the same finaid forms every year? :annoyed:
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yes at least at the few schools im looking at you do. fafsa and tax forms each year yay -_-
 
Well the LSU fin aid website says I just need the FAFSA, MPN, and entrance counseling.

VCU says they "may ask for tax returns", but they're kind of complicated - they want a credit report. They also want immunization records sent in by May 14th - :wtf:
 
metallica81788 said:
Well the LSU fin aid website says I just need the FAFSA, MPN, and entrance counseling.

VCU says they "may ask for tax returns", but they're kind of complicated - they want a credit report. They also want immunization records sent in by May 14th - :wtf:
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oy, i forgot about the possibility of having to get immunization records. i hope my undergrad has them on file, because lord knows i am not in touch with my pediatrician's office anymore...
 
dw2158 said:
yeah, i hear that. i've been in that position before, and it sucks-- forces you to reckon with how serious the relationship is before you would have otherwise. or maybe you're in a different place with that than i was... i'll shut up.
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no you're completely right

metallica81788 said:
I could only imagine. Of course, my top two schools are so close I wouldn't even care, but the whole relocation thing for you makes things more complicated.
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i need you to get into baylor.

Elijah05 said:
wow 50k a year...well if it was me id go to duke as long as its free for all 4 years guaranteed. Regardless good luck. Im having a similar decision to make with my schools because of family/SO issues.
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yeah it's four years guaranteed full tuition, as long as i don't fail out or get caught killing people on craigslist.

thanks for the support, you guys!

Elijah05 said:
what do you guys think about attending a school you hate (well maybe hate is too strong but certainly dislike) if its what is likely best for your family? Im sorta debating as i really dislike this school (UCI) but i feel like for the sake of my wife and son its important for me to just take that acceptance and run. Im on the WL but i kinda feel like i need to make a decision soon since may 15th is on the way. JJ can attest to probably some of this but theres just a lot about UCI that i dont like the more i think about. I guess its still med school and i could probably be fine no matter where i go, i just really dont want to attend there. But if i do go here it means that my wife keeps her good paying job and my son can stay in the same school with the same therapists/teachers/friends etc etc...

I have no idea what i should decide but id be interested to get some opinions 🙂. Right now im in love with uc davis and ucla and would happily attend either of those over UCI. UCI just rubs me the wrong way on so many levels.
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from your other posts it sounds like your wife is super supportive. and moving when your child is about to enter kindergarten is probably as good a time as any if you're going to move your family around at all...he hasn't started school yet, right?

if you're unhappy for four years, they will be unhappy for four years too
 
dw2158 said:
oy, i forgot about the possibility of having to get immunization records. i hope my undergrad has them on file, because lord knows i am not in touch with my pediatrician's office anymore...
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I have no idea how to deal with that stuff. In this situation, I resort to asking my mom. :laugh:
 
will baylor tell you your ranking on their waitlist if it comes to that?
 
met me and you are going to be waiting till like august to see if WL pan out lol..🙁. I hope WL is ranked at baylor. Unranked WL drive me crazy
 
Elijah05 said:
met me and you are going to be waiting till like august to see if WL pan out lol..🙁. I hope WL is ranked at baylor. Unranked WL drive me crazy
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meh, i think all WLs are secretly ranked.
 
dw2158 said:
meh, i think all WLs are secretly ranked.
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it's logical and efficient to rank them, or to at least tier them (and not in the phony way that penn puts 80% of their interviewees onto tier 1 waitlist).
 
jla314 said:
will baylor tell you your ranking on their waitlist if it comes to that?
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Hellz no. :laugh:

Waitlist emails should probably be coming out sometime this week.

Elijah05 said:
met me and you are going to be waiting till like august to see if WL pan out lol..🙁. I hope WL is ranked at baylor. Unranked WL drive me crazy
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We can be waitlist buddies, just for different schools.

All I'm doing now is wait for the May 15th-22nd week. That's what I'm waiting for now. Then I may have a glimmer of hope into the middle of June and that's when it won't happen anymore. Baylor starts at the end of July, so at least I won't be waiting into August.
 
dw2158 said:
meh, i think all WLs are secretly ranked.
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they most def are, its just the fact that they wont tell you that makes no sense. They know who they like and who has no chance...but i guess w/e. Im getting really excited its all about to be done! in like 3 months its off to anatomy :scared:. That class scares me as its the 1st class i take at the school im likely going to attend. I want to be eased in with like doctoring 101 or something lol
 
jla314 said:
it's logical and efficient to rank them, or to at least tier them (and not in the phony way that penn puts 80% of their interviewees onto tier 1 waitlist).
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agreed. and i don't understand why schools can't be more open about it... i'd withdraw from columbia right now if i knew my chances weren't good. and i'd feel a lot better being 100% committed to sinai.
 
metallica81788 said:
Hellz no. :laugh:

Waitlist emails should probably be coming out sometime this week.



We can be waitlist buddies, just for different schools.

All I'm doing now is wait for the May 15th-22nd week. That's what I'm waiting for now. Then I may have a glimmer of hope into the middle of June and that's when it won't happen anymore. Baylor starts at the end of July, so at least I won't be waiting into August.
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Met and Elijah, i am pulling so hard for you guys!! :xf::xf::xf:
 
What bugs me about Baylor is that with their "transparent" ranking system, I was (at one point) in the top 50 of all applicants, since I got the first interview date.

So what happened after that - did I drop off the face of the earth? Did my interviews go so horribly that my score fell enough to not even get me considered? Did everybody else pass me up once the mid to late applying people interviewed?

So frustrating...

[end Baylor rant for the week]
 
so ive been trying to learn how to cook before i start med school (As now i cant even make a sandwhich or an egg right)...and somehow i just failed at boiling noodles....they are all messed up and kinda gross 🙁.......

when my wife doesnt cook i either go out to eat, but thats getting so expensive so i just like dont eat or eat something frozen lol its sad.

Jolt21 said:
i think unless you're engaged/married/committed to starting a family together, a significant other should not be a factor. too many variables with your future profession.
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qft. So many people make this mistake. I mean married couples barely make it through this process, so how will two people who are barely committed do it. But to each their own 🙂
 
jla314 said:
i think a big part of wanting to stay in Boston has to do with my boyfriend. HST is a fantastic program and i loved revisit, but Duke can offer pretty much the same.
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i think unless you're engaged/married/committed to starting a family together, a significant other should not be a factor. too many variables with your future profession.
 
Elijah05 said:
so ive been trying to learn how to cook before i start med school (As now i cant even make a sandwhich or an egg right)...and somehow i just failed at boiling noodles....they are all messed up and kinda gross 🙁.......
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too soft?

fry them. thats how I eat ramen. cook it,then fry them in a pan with a touch of olive oil.
 
Jolt21 said:
i think unless you're engaged/married/committed to starting a family together, a significant other should not be a factor. too many variables with your future profession.
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on a logical level, i totally agree with you. it's just hard to really let that sink in.
 
Jolt21 said:
too soft?

fry them. thats how I eat ramen. cook it,then fry them in a pan with a touch of olive oil.
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yah too soft...i was going to make spagheti because it seemed easy. And frying, that is just wayyy beyond me right now. Im trying something simple but apparently i need something simpler lol
 
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