Thanks both!
SilverCat, I'm not sure about deferring, I don't think I ever considered that possibility! My fiance just finished her degree in education, and wants to be an elementary school teacher. Finding a position in CA is hard enough with the way public education budgets are right now, let alone trying to get a spot all the way across the country. Deferring would help us for a year by keeping us both local and close to family for the time being so we can help support them as best we can, but it would tough for my fiance to have to quit after a year and start over from scratch at the end of my deferred year..we'll have to think about it if things don't work out on the WL.
Guero, thanks for the support--it's scary to move into that position of supporting one's parents (or parents in-law, in this case)! And health/financial things are never fun to deal with. But yeah I'll write an email to the Dean today. fingers crossed!