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Hi all,
My partner and I have been together for about a year now. We started dating right after I completed undergrad, and when she just started undergrad. Since then we've lived in the same city for a year until I just recently (a month ago) moved to a nearby city (1.5hr away).
I am currently waiting to hear back from my only in-state school in a few weeks (I'd say it's about a 50/50 chance for admission). Aside from that, I am accepted in a school on the opposite side of the country.
The relationship has been great. We care for each other very much, though we are both in our early 20's and marriage/family/kids is not anywhere in our minds. There has also been a lot of tension and frustration between us this month since we're both adjusting to semi-long distance and not seeing each other for long periods of time. It's a transition period for us right now, while we are figuring out how to adjust to new changes.
Here's my concern:
I am having difficulty determining if we should stay together if I move OOS. It is an issue her and I recently agreed we would think about more, since we're both on the fence.
So SDN: what is your experience with this? Any one in a similar boat? How did you/your S.O. deal with it?
Most importantly, has anyone had to make this decision? How did it work out in the end?
Thanks ~
PS- I've received advice from friends in very similar scenarios and they suggest we try it, rather than don't try and ask "what if...". Thoughts on this? Does it just end up prolonging heartache?
My partner and I have been together for about a year now. We started dating right after I completed undergrad, and when she just started undergrad. Since then we've lived in the same city for a year until I just recently (a month ago) moved to a nearby city (1.5hr away).
I am currently waiting to hear back from my only in-state school in a few weeks (I'd say it's about a 50/50 chance for admission). Aside from that, I am accepted in a school on the opposite side of the country.
The relationship has been great. We care for each other very much, though we are both in our early 20's and marriage/family/kids is not anywhere in our minds. There has also been a lot of tension and frustration between us this month since we're both adjusting to semi-long distance and not seeing each other for long periods of time. It's a transition period for us right now, while we are figuring out how to adjust to new changes.
Here's my concern:
I am having difficulty determining if we should stay together if I move OOS. It is an issue her and I recently agreed we would think about more, since we're both on the fence.
So SDN: what is your experience with this? Any one in a similar boat? How did you/your S.O. deal with it?
Most importantly, has anyone had to make this decision? How did it work out in the end?
Thanks ~
PS- I've received advice from friends in very similar scenarios and they suggest we try it, rather than don't try and ask "what if...". Thoughts on this? Does it just end up prolonging heartache?