Searched through other threads and couldn't find anything that specifically addressed this...
My SO and I started dating last year. In the haze of 3rd year and our powers of suppression we avoided thinking about what this meant for matching -- we discussed it briefly when we started but at the time it was just kind of a mood killer.
Now it's late into the game, and we're both beginning to feel very anxious because the relationship is going very well but we have several concerns about matching and what it might mean for our future.
At this point I think we are both willing to potentially settle for programs that weren't as good of a fit if it means we can be closer, but we're concerned that linking this late would confuse the PDs (we mentioned we may couples match to some), hurt both of us as realistically we can only rank 8 that are meaningfully close to each other, and may cause other damages that are unseen to me as couples matching wasn't something I fully researched (I'm doing as much as I can now). The other side of the coin would be matching independently (with a geographic overlap in a few boarding states) and bank that we can hold it long term.
I know this is a very personal choice that needs to be our decision but if anyone can speak from experience or offer advice towards our situation, we would be very appreciative. We're planning to make some kind of meaningful decision by the end of the week. Thanks!
Other facts:
Both AMGs, good step scores/clinical evals/no red flags, applying for non-competitive programs (family and IM)
My SO and I started dating last year. In the haze of 3rd year and our powers of suppression we avoided thinking about what this meant for matching -- we discussed it briefly when we started but at the time it was just kind of a mood killer.
Now it's late into the game, and we're both beginning to feel very anxious because the relationship is going very well but we have several concerns about matching and what it might mean for our future.
At this point I think we are both willing to potentially settle for programs that weren't as good of a fit if it means we can be closer, but we're concerned that linking this late would confuse the PDs (we mentioned we may couples match to some), hurt both of us as realistically we can only rank 8 that are meaningfully close to each other, and may cause other damages that are unseen to me as couples matching wasn't something I fully researched (I'm doing as much as I can now). The other side of the coin would be matching independently (with a geographic overlap in a few boarding states) and bank that we can hold it long term.
I know this is a very personal choice that needs to be our decision but if anyone can speak from experience or offer advice towards our situation, we would be very appreciative. We're planning to make some kind of meaningful decision by the end of the week. Thanks!
Other facts:
Both AMGs, good step scores/clinical evals/no red flags, applying for non-competitive programs (family and IM)