couples matching quick q

[bowlofmushypeas]

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I've been told for couples matching to contact respective programs right about now if only one of the two have heard back. Does anyone know if we're supposed to contact the PC or PD? Also, any advice on phrasing would be great!

 

[NotAProgDirector]

Contact either, and simply state that you're couple's matching and one of you has been offered an interview and were wondering about the status of your application. It's a completely reasonable question.

 

[bowlofmushypeas]

Contact either, and simply state that you're couple's matching and one of you has been offered an interview and were wondering about the status of your application. It's a completely reasonable question.

Thanks for the quick response!

It wouldn't make sense to email the program I've received an invite to in order to check the status on my partner's application to a different program though, right? I'm not sure how I would tactfully ask my program to check with another program -- or again, whether the PC or PD does this.

 

[franniemeow07]

Thanks for the quick response!

It wouldn't make sense to email the program I've received an invite to in order to check the status on my partner's application to a different program though, right? I'm not sure how I would tactfully ask my program to check with another program -- or again, whether the PC or PD does this.

I have the same question. My yield for contacting the PC's has been 1/5 and my yield for contacting PD's has been 1/1. So...I'm not sure if I should have contacted the PD in retrospect. For the ones where I contacted the PC and never heard anything back, would it be reasonable to email the PD 3 weeks after contacting the PC without having heard anything??

 

[NotAProgDirector]

Thanks for the quick response!

It wouldn't make sense to email the program I've received an invite to in order to check the status on my partner's application to a different program though, right? I'm not sure how I would tactfully ask my program to check with another program -- or again, whether the PC or PD does this.

I would have your partner check with their program. Simply tell them that their partner has an interview offer, and they are looking for an update on their status. If you've tried that and it didn't get you an answer, then asking your program would be reasonable..

I have the same question. My yield for contacting the PC's has been 1/5 and my yield for contacting PD's has been 1/1. So...I'm not sure if I should have contacted the PD in retrospect. For the ones where I contacted the PC and never heard anything back, would it be reasonable to email the PD 3 weeks after contacting the PC without having heard anything??

Yes, if you haven't heard I'd call or email the PD.

 

[bowlofmushypeas]

I would have your partner check with their program. Simply tell them that their partner has an interview offer, and they are looking for an update on their status. If you've tried that and it didn't get you an answer, then asking your program would be reasonable..



Yes, if you haven't heard I'd call or email the PD.

Can you be pretty blatant and ask the PD to check on the application? It's probably just my Midwestern modesty 🙂 but it feels awkward. I'm hoping there's a more tactful way to introduce this topic. It's been very natural at interviews I go to since the PDs have all told me before I asked that they would do this, but it seems forward to ask the PDs to check on the status of an application otherwise. Tips on phrasing?

Also, for other's reference, I had initially emailed a PC who seemed very perplexed. She was very kind and did provide the contact info for the PC of the other program. In short, it may be best to directly contact PDs in these cases.

 

[NotAProgDirector]

Can you be pretty blatant and ask the PD to check on the application? It's probably just my Midwestern modesty 🙂 but it feels awkward. I'm hoping there's a more tactful way to introduce this topic. It's been very natural at interviews I go to since the PDs have all told me before I asked that they would do this, but it seems forward to ask the PDs to check on the status of an application otherwise. Tips on phrasing?

Also, for other's reference, I had initially emailed a PC who seemed very perplexed. She was very kind and did provide the contact info for the PC of the other program. In short, it may be best to directly contact PDs in these cases.

If you would not interview at this site unless your partner gets an interview, then you really have nothing to lose. If your partner already has an interview in the same city / area, then I wouldn't rock the boat too much. In all cases, contacting the program that hasn't informed your partner is the better option.

 

[Jubears09]

Can you be pretty blatant and ask the PD to check on the application? It's probably just my Midwestern modesty 🙂 but it feels awkward. I'm hoping there's a more tactful way to introduce this topic. It's been very natural at interviews I go to since the PDs have all told me before I asked that they would do this, but it seems forward to ask the PDs to check on the status of an application otherwise. Tips on phrasing?

Also, for other's reference, I had initially emailed a PC who seemed very perplexed. She was very kind and did provide the contact info for the PC of the other program. In short, it may be best to directly contact PDs in these cases.

I had a very awkward phone convo with a pc last week because I assumed pcs would be used to "check on my so's application requests" after a pc from another place offered to do so in a matter of fact manner when inviting me to interview.

Felt like an idiot and asked a bunch of advisors about this, for what it's worth, the consensus at my institution is it's best for the SO to tell his/her dept about your interview rather than you getting yours to contact theirs. I'd be interested to hear the thoughts of some PDs on here, but I think the logic is they want the applicant to express interest for themselves rather than passively let others do it for them. Do this the earlier the better (in retrospect I'd say partner b should let them know the day partner a schedules the interview) because it's another reason for them to offer and the main inter-dept communication happens when they make rank lists.

With an n=1, my SO did this for a program that already sent out a wave of invites without her despite me having already interviewed at the same institution and the pc in my dept checking in twice (and she was an obviously competitive applicant), and got an invite a few days later.

 

[bowlofmushypeas]

Thanks guys, very helpful!