Cramming... is this a lie?

[drmerbear]

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In my mind, I'm having minor issues with my roommate who is an MS1. Not sure how often she frequents sdn, but honestly I don't care if she ends up seeing this because I'll probably confront her about it. We've been living together and everything's been fine, but what really bothers me is that sometimes she makes very grade focused remarks. We had a small quiz today and she studied the night before and randomly made a remark that she did great despite her studying all the material last night. Other times, she would exclaim how well she did on a test such as announcing her grades. I do fairly well, but I never openly share my grades with others because I understand that as a sensitive topic to some. But with her, I did (shamefully) slip my grades out when she prodded the topic since I felt that if I had not announced what I got, she'd think I probably did poorly even though that is not the case.

I guess I'm frustrated because I always spend some time studying everyday whether it's learning new material or reviewing because I really want to retain the knowledge and not simply cram and forget. Since I live with her, for the most part I feel that she does not study as often and always enjoys her time with netflix(**** load)/family/bf. After her telling me how cramming worked for her, I simply replied that I could not do that since I would forget the material. And her response was that she never forgets and that she doesn't memorize - she just "gets it". Dafuq? It was borderline condescending. I guess my question is that is she lying?? Is she secretly studying? Because I'm having a difficult time believing that you can get away with cramming in medical school. And would you suggest confronting her about this? I do not find her remarks at all supportive, but instead subtly breeds a competitive environment where I'm growing annoyed at these unnecessary remarks... and in general how it's frustrating to see her seemingly so carefree whereas I feel like I have to put in more effort to do well. Thoughts? I don't want to make living with her awkward... I can tolerate a lot of things but I'm being more avoiding because I don't want to make this situation unbearable

To add (realizing that I'm using sdn to rant) another one of our classmates already confronted her about how condescending she was being when they studied together. In another instance, she was made aware that she is too forward about grades and her own academic performance. Yet these sly remarks still continue. Kinda pissing me off now tbh

 

[Law2Doc]

There are people with photographic/identic memories out there. Perhaps she is one. Or she's a gunner and studies on the sly to psych people out. No point worrying about others abilities. Your goal is for YOU to learn the material. Keep your eyes on your own plate.

 

[22031 Alum]

It was borderline condescending. I guess my question is that is she lying?? Is she secretly studying? Because I'm having a difficult time believing that you can get away with cramming in medical school. And would you suggest confronting her about this?

Answer this for me- if she is lying and secretly studying, how does that affect you? In short, why do you care?

Condescending people are annoying, but if you don't respond or let her see it gets a rise out of you, it will probably become less fun for her.

 

[itsogre]

she might be lying. people lie all the time about their grades. if her effort doesn't show her to be an A student.... she's probably not an A student... did she show you her physical grade report? otherwise, I wouldn't believe a word lol.

move out if you really start not getting along with her. it's a very female thing to do what she is doing btw, and it's common at my med school. It's a valid complaint on your part too, but you are also overreacting/being paranoid a bit. just ignore these comments, think about something else (like that sweet latte or several episodes of your fav show you're going to have or see after you perfect learning your material), and after she's seen that her comments don't have an effect on you, she'll move on to something else.

 

[drmerbear]

There are people with photographic/identic memories out there. Perhaps she is one. Or she's a gunner and studies on the sly to psych people out. No point worrying about others abilities. Your goal is for YOU to learn the material. Keep your eyes on your own plate.

That's very true - Thank you I will keep that in mind.

Answer this for me- if she is lying and secretly studying, how does that affect you? In short, why do you care?

Condescending people are annoying, but if you don't respond or let her see it gets a rise out of you, it will probably become less fun for her.

I suppose it really shouldn't affect me and I guess it's hard for me to not compare myself. It definitely would not be an issue for me if I didn't physically live with her I suppose. This just happened so I'm at the peak of my annoyance but I'll get over it.

she might be lying. people lie all the time about their grades. if her effort doesn't show her to be an A student.... she's probably not an A student... did she show you her physical grade report? otherwise, I wouldn't believe a word lol.

move out if you really start not getting along with her. it's a very female thing to do what she is doing btw, and it's common at my med school. It's a valid complaint on your part too, but you are also overreacting/being paranoid a bit. just ignore these comments, think about something else (like that sweet latte or several episodes of your fav show you're going to have or see after you perfect learning your material), and after she's seen that her comments don't have an effect on you, she'll move on to something else.

In one case we graded our exam sheets together I did see her score, so I don't think she is lying.. idk. Thanks for your insight! Yes, I am probably thinking a little more to it. I think I've just had enough of it. Like she's made nagging comments about her scholarships and how fast she finishes exams... you can only take so much after awhile haha. This one time she literally mentioned that she's going to a scholarship lunch like 3 freaking times. Great! Like no ones really gives two sh*ts about where you're going for lunch. Funny thing is one time she mentioned that she is humble. Scratching my head on that one.

 

[itsogre]

In one case we graded our exam sheets together I did see her score, so I don't think she is lying.. idk. Thanks for your insight! Yes, I am probably thinking a little more to it. I think I've just had enough of it. Like she's made nagging comments about her scholarships and how fast she finishes exams... you can only take so much after awhile haha. This one time she literally mentioned that she's going to a scholarship lunch like 3 freaking times. Great! Like no ones really gives two sh*ts...

sounds like she's insecure and looking for validation from you. She is smart, but a pain and not fun to be around (and other people will notice this very fast too). don't let it get to you.

 

[Stagg737]

In one case we graded our exam sheets together I did see her score, so I don't think she is lying.. idk. Thanks for your insight! Yes, I am probably thinking a little more to it. I think I've just had enough of it. Like she's made nagging comments about her scholarships and how fast she finishes exams... you can only take so much after awhile haha. This one time she literally mentioned that she's going to a scholarship lunch like 3 freaking times. Great! Like no ones really gives two sh*ts about where you're going for lunch. Funny thing is one time she mentioned that she is humble. Scratching my head on that one.

Sounds like she doesn't have much confidence in herself and needs validation from others to feel worthy. Maybe she is that smart, some people are. I've met one or two people that study/read everything once and usually get A's. They are not the norm. As the others have already said, focus on what you need to do to keep yourself successful and don't measure your goals/success based on others. I get that it's annoying to have it constantly thrown in your face, but at the end of the day it's just about how you let it impact you.

Edit: Ogre beat me to it, but agree with him 100%

 

[Donald Juan]

Some people can look at material once and know it all the next day. It is possible that they aren't "secretly studying." I'm not that smart; I wish I was but I'm not.

You can't let this stuff worry you. Being able to study for a test in one night doesn't make you the best doctor in the world, it just makes the preclinical years easier. If this person is as obnoxious as you are describing then she will find her shortcomings in M3-4, and maybe you will shine.

 

[22031 Alum]

It's possible that she is super smart, but is insecure because she's not accustomed to being around so many other smart people. If she spent high school and college as the smartest person in her "group," it may be tough to no longer have being really smart as her "thing."

 

[Merely]

You should confront her and tell her to stop lying about not studying lol

 

[WedgeDawg]

People study and learn differently. What's important is what works best for you. If you can figure out how to ignore your roommate that's probably best, else I would recommend just being like "wow that's great I'm glad that worked for you!"

 

[neontetras]

Sounds like classic gunner duck syndrome. She is probably waiting until you shut off your lights at night to wake up and study. JK.

Just be glad your mental health is probably in a way better state than hers. I would recommend staying away from her and just finding other people to be in your study group.

Sorry your roommate is condescending. They may be that way now but once they start on the floors, they're going to run into trouble with residents/attendings who don't take attitude for nothing.

 

[Psai]

You should spend a lot of time thinking about other people if you want to make yourself miserable

 

[operaman]

Yeah I heard a few myths like that floating around my class - the people who supposedly only studied for a day and aced the exam. Funny that none of them showed up in AOA or or managed to distinguish themselves academically in any visible way. There may be some people out there who can truly do that, but it's rare and it doesn't matter. If you both learn it but it took you longer, who cares? So the other person got to binge watch a little extra Netflix - not a big deal.

I always tell people that if you surveyed 100 medical students, you would find 100 different ways of studying. What works for you is almost as unique as a fingerprint and would be just as idiotic to judge against someone else's.

I think people who try to take the easy way out - even if they have the mental chops to do it - are setting themselves up for trouble later. The reality is that much of med school and medicine itself doesn't reward fleeting spurts of genius, but rather sustained effort over a long period of time. The art of practicing medicine, like any other art, is not something you can cram. Even those innately gifted for it must still put in the time to practice and develop their craft. We all crammed and regurgitated in undergrad. Most of us give that up during first year. All of us have to give it up eventually. It's just a question of when.

 

[petyr_baelish]

she might be lying. people lie all the time about their grades. if her effort doesn't show her to be an A student.... she's probably not an A student... did she show you her physical grade report? otherwise, I wouldn't believe a word lol.

move out if you really start not getting along with her. it's a very female thing to do what she is doing btw, and it's common at my med school. It's a valid complaint on your part too, but you are also overreacting/being paranoid a bit. just ignore these comments, think about something else (like that sweet latte or several episodes of your fav show you're going to have or see after you perfect learning your material), and after she's seen that her comments don't have an effect on you, she'll move on to something else.

Oh no you didn't...

 

[petyr_baelish]

You should spend a lot of time thinking about other people if you want to make yourself miserable

This is 100% true. But being around toxic people can really get to you even as you try to avoid them and focus on yourself.

 

[NontradCA]

I think people who try to take the easy way out - even if they have the mental chops to do it - are setting themselves up for trouble later. The reality is that much of med school and medicine itself doesn't reward fleeting spurts of genius, but rather sustained effort over a long period of time. The art of practicing medicine, like any other art, is not something you can cram. Even those innately gifted for it must still put in the time to practice and develop their craft. We all crammed and regurgitated in undergrad. Most of us give that up during first year. All of us have to give it up eventually. It's just a question of when.

You talk about different ways of learning, but then go ahead and knock those who don't "try as much", whatever that means. If you didn't have to study as much, you wouldn't. That's the truth.

 

[Psai]

You talk about different ways of learning, but then go ahead and knock those who don't "try as much", whatever that means. If you didn't have to study as much, you wouldn't. That's the truth.

You missed the point of his post. Reread it

 

[jdh71]

In my mind, I'm having minor issues with my roommate who is an MS1. Not sure how often she frequents sdn, but honestly I don't care if she ends up seeing this because I'll probably confront her about it. We've been living together and everything's been fine, but what really bothers me is that sometimes she makes very grade focused remarks. We had a small quiz today and she studied the night before and randomly made a remark that she did great despite her studying all the material last night. Other times, she would exclaim how well she did on a test such as announcing her grades. I do fairly well, but I never openly share my grades with others because I understand that as a sensitive topic to some. But with her, I did (shamefully) slip my grades out when she prodded the topic since I felt that if I had not announced what I got, she'd think I probably did poorly even though that is not the case.

I guess I'm frustrated because I always spend some time studying everyday whether it's learning new material or reviewing because I really want to retain the knowledge and not simply cram and forget. Since I live with her, for the most part I feel that she does not study as often and always enjoys her time with netflix(**** load)/family/bf. After her telling me how cramming worked for her, I simply replied that I could not do that since I would forget the material. And her response was that she never forgets and that she doesn't memorize - she just "gets it". Dafuq? It was borderline condescending. I guess my question is that is she lying?? Is she secretly studying? Because I'm having a difficult time believing that you can get away with cramming in medical school. And would you suggest confronting her about this? I do not find her remarks at all supportive, but instead subtly breeds a competitive environment where I'm growing annoyed at these unnecessary remarks... and in general how it's frustrating to see her seemingly so carefree whereas I feel like I have to put in more effort to do well. Thoughts? I don't want to make living with her awkward... I can tolerate a lot of things but I'm being more avoiding because I don't want to make this situation unbearable

To add (realizing that I'm using sdn to rant) another one of our classmates already confronted her about how condescending she was being when they studied together. In another instance, she was made aware that she is too forward about grades and her own academic performance. Yet these sly remarks still continue. Kinda pissing me off now tbh

I'd suggest refinding your testicles/ovaries and quit caring what she says or does. You do you. She can do her. Seriously. Why did you even start a thread about this? Grow up.

 

[drmerbear]

Thanks all for the constructive replies.

I'd suggest refinding your testicles/ovaries and quit caring what she says or does. You do you. She can do her. Seriously. Why did you even start a thread about this? Grow up.

Obviously. It gets slightly annoying when she is getting in the way of me doing me. I'm like trying to do me while she be like all up in my face. Get what I mean?
Clearly, I started this thread out of transient frustration after an encounter with her and wanted some validity in my suspicions for reassurance. Better up your reading game and EQ.

 

[jdh71]

Thanks all for the constructive replies.



Obviously. It gets slightly annoying when she is getting in the way of me doing me. I'm like trying to do me while she be like all up in my face. Get what I mean?
Clearly, I started this thread out of transient frustration after an encounter with her and wanted some validity in my suspicions for reassurance. Better up your reading game and EQ.

Reassurance for what? That you are so emotionally weak you'll let some blowhard bother you? Did everyone really cosign that or something?

 

[drmerbear]

Reassurance for what? That you are so emotionally weak you'll let some blowhard bother you? Did everyone really cosign that or something?

I think you seem to have missed the point that this blowhard lives with me and that's something that I can't realistically change at the moment - hence the frustration. And reassurance that she's probably just BS. Doesn't matter - I got what I needed. Thanks for your very conducive input. 😉

 

[jdh71]

I think you seem to have missed the point that this blowhard lives with me and that's something that I can't realistically change at the moment - hence the frustration. And reassurance that she's probably just BS. Doesn't matter - I got what I needed.

The validation of others? The same thing that you think you're roommate is screaming for? I hope you weren't planning on feeling superior.

 

[drmerbear]

The validation of others? The same thing that you think you're roommate is screaming for? I hope you weren't planning on feeling superior.

That was quite a stretch, don't you think? I'm not asking for validation for views of myself. I'm asking for validation on views of her. Now I hope that you weren't planning on feeling superior.

 

[Moose A Moose]

I don't think she's toxic. She's just socially inept with a huge chip on her shoulder.

Have you ever just told her, "good job"?. Seriously, maybe no one ever has.

 

[jdh71]

That was quite a stretch, don't you think? I'm not asking for validation for views of myself. I'm asking for validation on views of her. Now I hope that you weren't planning on feeling superior.

When you are asking for validation of views on her, you're trying to get others to cosign onto your own views.

I'm not sure what you were suggesting I feel superior about.

 

[ortnakas]

1) Tell her you don't like talking about grades. If she assumes it's because you have bad grades, that's her problem.
2) Like @Moose A Moose said, there's a chance she's just looking for validation. You could throw her a bone and give it to her.
3) How she studies and how much she studies aren't your problem.
4) People often lie about both how much they study and their grades.
5) I know people who study with TV as background noise. Doesn't work for me and I don't recommend it, but maybe she's one of those people.
6-99) Ignore other people talking about how much they study and/or their grades.
100) Be happy and save energy by only worrying about how YOU are doing.

 

[drmerbear]

I don't think she's toxic. She's just socially inept with a huge chip on her shoulder.

Have you ever just told her, "good job"?. Seriously, maybe no one ever has.

Hmm that's really interesting. I thought about it and it makes it more tolerable to view her with compassion in a sense. Such as looking at her as not toxic but rather as a little girl working on a coloring book or something. Or a puppy playing fetch. Stupid examples, but I hope someone can resonate with me on that one.

 

[drmerbear]

When you are asking for validation of views on her, you're trying to get others to cosign onto your own views.

I'm not sure what you were suggesting I feel superior about.

Sure, I'm looking for validations of my views. Who doesn't? Don't tell me you've never done such a thing in your life.
And they are views of her, not me - totally unrelated to me being emotionally weak. Not quite sure what you were going with that one. Like I'm fine. I'm doing great and getting honors. I'm simply ranting about this little noise in my background that is starting to bug me. It's like having an itch. You can only go so long without scratching. Not scratching doesn't mean you're emotionally weak. Scratching doesn't mean you're emotionally resilient.

Similarly, I'm not sure what you were suggesting about what I felt superior about.

 

[jdh71]

Sure, I'm looking for validations of my views. Who doesn't? Don't tell me you've never done such a thing in your life.
And they are views of her, not me - totally unrelated to me being emotionally weak. Not quite sure what you were going with that one. Like I'm fine. I'm doing great and getting honors. I'm simply ranting about this little noise in my background that is starting to bug me. It's like having an itch. You can only go so long without scratching. Not scratching doesn't mean you're emotionally weak. Scratching doesn't mean you're emotionally resilient.

Similarly, I'm not sure what you were suggesting about what I felt superior about.

So "fine" you started your own thread? If you were emotionally strong this wouldn't bother you.

You can have the last word.

 

[kenjixshadow]

Oh hey, I am in a familiar but opposite from your position. My roommates study 10+ hrs a day outside of lecture and they always make me feel guilty for not putting as much effort as them. I feel quite annoyed about it honestly. I don't cram like your roommate though and am solely focusing on my own pace. Btw, I recommend of not bickering with an attending. You won't win.

 

[drmerbear]

So "fine" you started your own thread? If you were emotionally strong this wouldn't bother you.

You can have the last word.

Fine in that I'm not whining about how poorly I'm doing compared to her given the different lifestyles and that I don't think that I suck compared to her, which would be the emotional response in this situation. My complaint is that I can't control her comments and I am inquiring on ways to tolerate it more than I already am. Do you get it now?

And what is it to you that I made this thread? Clearly, it's elicited some strong emotional response - so strong enough that you felt the need to post something that makes you appear emotionally robust, something that I suspect is just a facade. Someone's feeling a little superior hiding all his own insecurities behind his "attending" status.

 

[drmerbear]

Oh hey, I am in a familiar but opposite from your position. My roommates study 10+ hrs a day outside of lecture and they always make me feel guilty for not putting as much effort as them. I feel quite annoyed about it honestly. I don't cram like your roommate though and am solely focusing on my own pace. Btw, I recommend of not bickering with an attending. You won't win.

I wonder if she feels that way with me haha that's interesting insight.
Thanks for the tip. I'm wondering whether or not when I am an attending if I'll get automatic win over bickering on the internet. Literally has no utility at all

 

[IsWhat]

In a few short years you will be responsible for people's lives and well-being. I would recommend you stop worrying about your roommates grades/study habits and start focusing on your own learning. It hasn't happened yet, but a cardiac arrest patient is waiting for you on the other side of medical school. That realization should put things into perspective for you.

 

[jw3600]

Roommate doesn't even sound condescending.

If OP thinks grades are too sensitive of a topic then they shouldn't discuss them.

Frankly OP sounds petty and the exact kind of person who is healthy to avoid in medical school.

Agree with JD.

 

[jw3600]

Sure, I'm looking for validations of my views. Who doesn't? Don't tell me you've never done such a thing in your life.
And they are views of her, not me - totally unrelated to me being emotionally weak. Not quite sure what you were going with that one. Like I'm fine. I'm doing great and getting honors. I'm simply ranting about this little noise in my background that is starting to bug me. It's like having an itch. You can only go so long without scratching. Not scratching doesn't mean you're emotionally weak. Scratching doesn't mean you're emotionally resilient.

Similarly, I'm not sure what you were suggesting about what I felt superior about.

The hypocrisy is juicy. You can almost substitute it for a Capri sun.

 

[ZPakEffect]

There are people with photographic/identic memories out there. Perhaps she is one. Or she's a gunner and studies on the sly to psych people out. No point worrying about others abilities. Your goal is for YOU to learn the material. Keep your eyes on your own plate.

There really is no well-documented evidence of people with these abilities. Pretty much a myth.

 

[Tenk]

I crammed all throughout medical school, never went to class, slept in til like noon every day, scored great on boards, matched into EM, and now have a sweet job, with a sweet house, and a brand new badass truck.

Not once did I ever care about how anyone else studied. I did what worked for me and that's all that mattered.

I highly suggest you do the same, so you too can own a badass truck one day instead of wondering how people perceive the way you study.

 

[datpremedgirl]

I think you seem to have missed the point that this blowhard lives with me and that's something that I can't realistically change at the moment - hence the frustration. And reassurance that she's probably just BS. Doesn't matter - I got what I needed. Thanks for your very conducive input. 😉

No offense, OP, but this thread is useless. What do you want us to say? "Oh yeah, your roommate is DEFINITELY full of BS. No way she could ace a test with just cramming." And if we said that, how would you feel? Superior probably, because you'll think that your own study methods are the "correct" way to study. Even though you say you're only asking for validation of your opinion on your roommate, you're in turn also implicitly looking for validation of yourself and your own study methods.

But seriously, no one on here (most likely) knows your roommate. How do you expect us anonymous SDN users to make any conclusions on her? No one knows whether or not she really is lying. Idk, maybe she really does have photographic memory. Hate to break it to you, but there are people like that out there. It seems you have your own study methods, and kudos to you for finding an effective way to do well in school. But your way =/= everyone else's. The whole point of you creating this thread was asking for reassurance that your opinions are correct, which only shows your own arrogance seeping through. And arguing with @jdh71 really does not help your case. He has a point, but it seems you're just too confident and strung up in your own views to even get what he's saying.

 

[Stagg737]

There really is no well-documented evidence of people with these abilities. Pretty much a myth.

There are people who have it, but the number of people who truly have eidetic memories is greatly over-exaggerated. From what I've seen, there's evidence of about 15-20 of them currently living. Idk if you've seen the documentary on this guy, but he's a British artist (autistic at that), who draws things from memory after seeing them for a very brief period of time:

 

[Affiche]

I had a friend like this in college and it drove me crazy. One day I just snapped and told her that she talks about her grades/honors/whatever way too much and asked if she noticed it was all she talked about. She honestly didn't. Turns out she didn't have a lot going on outside of school that she could talk about so her comments were always about school. I told her it annoyed me and made her seem kind of snobby and competitive so to talk to me about something else. I probably could have handled it better but she became painfully aware of how obnoxious she was being and cut it out...at least around me. She still has some validation issues but as long as they don't result in being a gunner idgaf. Problem was resolved and we're still great friends.

 

[NontradCA]

 

[Strongman1]

Cramming may be effective for some people, but only if the objective is to score well on an exam taken immediately after the cramming. For long-term retention, cramming is worthless. And if your roommate implies that she has a "photographic memory" (if such a thing even exists), it's a pretty safe bet she doesn't. My advice is to do your best ignoring her, and relish in the knowledge that, while she may or may not be achieving wonderful grades now, your long-term retention of what you're studying will most likely be better.

 

[styphon]

Why do you care so much how others study?

A simple fact in life: there will always be people who are smarter, faster, and richer than you. This means some people can learn/memorize in hours what others take days to do.

If you come to this realization, you will have less stress over things that cannot be changed.

 

[Giovanotto]

The cake is a lie.

 

[ChillDawg]

In my mind, I'm having minor issues with my roommate who is an MS1. Not sure how often she frequents sdn, but honestly I don't care if she ends up seeing this because I'll probably confront her about it. We've been living together and everything's been fine, but what really bothers me is that sometimes she makes very grade focused remarks. We had a small quiz today and she studied the night before and randomly made a remark that she did great despite her studying all the material last night. Other times, she would exclaim how well she did on a test such as announcing her grades. I do fairly well, but I never openly share my grades with others because I understand that as a sensitive topic to some. But with her, I did (shamefully) slip my grades out when she prodded the topic since I felt that if I had not announced what I got, she'd think I probably did poorly even though that is not the case.

You care way too much about what other people think of you, OP.

 

[cbrons]

You should spend a lot of time thinking about other people if you want to make yourself miserable

You might be the SDN king of one-liners since sideways got banned.

 

[Redpancreas]

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[SeldomSleeping]

Sounds like classic gunner duck syndrome.]

Gunner Duck Syndrome? LOL!

 

[rodmichael82]

In my mind, I'm having minor issues with my roommate who is an MS1. Not sure how often she frequents sdn, but honestly I don't care if she ends up seeing this because I'll probably confront her about it. We've been living together and everything's been fine, but what really bothers me is that sometimes she makes very grade focused remarks. We had a small quiz today and she studied the night before and randomly made a remark that she did great despite her studying all the material last night. Other times, she would exclaim how well she did on a test such as announcing her grades. I do fairly well, but I never openly share my grades with others because I understand that as a sensitive topic to some. But with her, I did (shamefully) slip my grades out when she prodded the topic since I felt that if I had not announced what I got, she'd think I probably did poorly even though that is not the case.

I guess I'm frustrated because I always spend some time studying everyday whether it's learning new material or reviewing because I really want to retain the knowledge and not simply cram and forget. Since I live with her, for the most part I feel that she does not study as often and always enjoys her time with netflix(**** load)/family/bf. After her telling me how cramming worked for her, I simply replied that I could not do that since I would forget the material. And her response was that she never forgets and that she doesn't memorize - she just "gets it". Dafuq? It was borderline condescending. I guess my question is that is she lying?? Is she secretly studying? Because I'm having a difficult time believing that you can get away with cramming in medical school. And would you suggest confronting her about this? I do not find her remarks at all supportive, but instead subtly breeds a competitive environment where I'm growing annoyed at these unnecessary remarks... and in general how it's frustrating to see her seemingly so carefree whereas I feel like I have to put in more effort to do well. Thoughts? I don't want to make living with her awkward... I can tolerate a lot of things but I'm being more avoiding because I don't want to make this situation unbearable

To add (realizing that I'm using sdn to rant) another one of our classmates already confronted her about how condescending she was being when they studied together. In another instance, she was made aware that she is too forward about grades and her own academic performance. Yet these sly remarks still continue. Kinda pissing me off now tbh

What she does or doesn't do has absolutely nothing to do with you. I had a room mate during M1 year who did the same stuff. He/She would study quietly with the doors locked and pretend like they studied a little bit. In the beginning it used to piss me off that gunner techniques were being used but in the end of the day who the F cares?
If the other person wants to be condescending and pretend like they are a genius that studies 1 hour before the exam again who the F cares?
You do you and stop worrying about others including your room mate. Some will study 80 hours a week and some will study 10 hours a week in the end of the day you all will be M.Ds so seriously who the F cares?

I stopped caring about what others say in the middle of M1 year. I didn't care what they thought of themselves or thought of me. Hence why during M2 year even though I'd study 20 hours a week, I just started telling people I was studying 80-100 hours a week . Some of my classmates were like damn dude do you just not get it? are you struggling? I was like yeah I am struggling, while I was constantly pulling first quartile on every exam. In the end you can't care about what others think... seriously. I know medical students have this competitive nature and want to prove something to others but you'll only be happy when you stop thinking like that.