Psycho Doctor said:
It depends on the relationship. I'd opt for contacting the parents or some other person close to the cutter rather than a counselor.
That could be the worst thing one could do. What if the parents are the problem or have abused their child in the past?
However when there is no one else available and if I felt the cutter was a piotential danger to herself I would contact someone in authority at the school. Once someone at the school knows about it some action must be taken.
That is a betrayal of trust and could result in serious repercussions for your friend. Would you go behind the back of someone who smokes cigarettes to cope? No? Well, self-injury isn't necessarily more harmful than cigarette smoking, in someone with no suicidal ideations who knows how to cut without severing blood vessels. Most cutters are very good at what they do and know how to protect themselves.
It seems to me like Psycho would be inclined to go authorities because this disturbs
him, not necessarily because it would be absolutely necessary for his "friend's" health. That's not really fair, and although cutting is disturbing, it's not up to you to decide that your friend should be monitored by the school. People do self-destructive things all the time; just because you're disturbed by one person's way of coping doesn't mean that they are worse off than any other person. It also doesn't mean they're okay. But if you're going to be a doctor
then you have to put aside your discomforts to do what's right for your patients and others you are trying to "help."
Psycho said:
Hey I wrote an essay once in college that was perceived as if i was suicidal and the next thing I knew I was forced into in a meeting with the prof, dean and psychiatrist. They don't want to take any chances and do not take these things lightly.
Cutting does not equal suicide.
Cutting does not equal suicide.
Cutting does not equal suicide.
I know you're thick-headed and you claim not to be reading this, but people have posted many times about how cutting is not equal to wanting to kill yourself. It can be related; in many (most) cases, it is not.
Psycho said:
I extremely doubt the issue would be dropped. The therapist can not force one to seek help but the school can if they feel the person is experiencing severe or potentially serious psychological issues. And yes the SI might feel they lost their trust in you; however in the long run they will finally come to terms that the operson reporte dit out of true concern and love.
Or maybe they'll feel like you stuck your nose into something that didn't need to be put into their permanent school file. That you exposed a private part of them and opened their life up to prejudicial feelings regarding what cutting means.
I have worked with many, many cutters. You think you know best, Psycho. You always think you know best. You're rarely right, and in this case, you're wrong. Unless someone has expressed suicidal ideation, going above their head to school authorities because they cut is a great way to make that "friend" feel betrayed, judged, and treated unfairly.