....well, didnt like the fact that I went to college either(that is a whole other story). Here is the situation. I have debated posting for almost a month now, but I really need advice. Ok, first I live about 2 1/2 hours away from home. I am the first to go to college, let alone medical school. In college I was able to go home about once a month. Now it is impossible to get home but every few months. I have not been home since March spring break and every time I talk to my dad on the phone, he asks "so when are you coming home?" Even though I told him the week before that It would be after my finals in May. Most of my classmates never have this pressure from their family. For instance, during spring break my friends went to the beach, I went home for the full week. When I tell my dad that I have to study for an exam, he doesnt belive me. He even says to come home and study because he thinks Im spending the time with my boyfriend who lives about 45 mins away. This makes the situation worse b/c I AM studying and never get to see my boyfriend..and he totally refuses to believe me!!! In addition, my boyfriend is so understanding about med school, but I know he wishes he could see me more. I try to see him at least one night on the weekend, but not during exams. It has been 2 weeks now since we have seen eachother, and that was just for one day. My relationship with him is very important. We have been dating 4 years this summer!! So the current problem is that exams end Wed. I will go home from Wed till Sat, then from Sat till Monday with my Bfriend. This is because his birthday is on Sunday and mine was last week, and we are going to spend one night together and the other night his parents are taking us out. I planned a vacation for next weekend in Daytona. Finally a break. I have been in school for 2 years strait without a break, including the summer before med school and the two summers befor that. I mentioned this to my dad a long time ago but I know that when I tell him agian he will be mad that I am not spending the time at home since I never go home. He bought me a car last summer and uses this against me saying that the reason he bought it was so that I would come visit him. He bought tickets for us to go to a gospel concert at a church one weekend withought asking my schedule. It happened that I had 2 exams that monday. I of course didnt go home, and I passed the one exam by only 2 points. I told him this after he gave me such a guilt trip about it and he acted like it was no big deal. I have tried everything, and I need to know if I am in the wrong here? What can I do to make my dad understand that Medical School takes alot of studying and that I am working so hard as it is? I understand his view, he is alone (mom passed away 5 years ago) and I know he misses me, but I cannot sacrifice my grades for this? or should i? I know this is an odd situation. Many cannot belive that my dad and I fought throughout my whole undergrad years about me going to college (he said it was a waste of time and money). He says it is time for me to grow up and get out of school, get a job like everyone else my age (Of course that is only in the small red neck town that I am from where eveyone is married by 19, kids by 24...just turned 24 last week..and Yes, spent the whole day in the library studying for exams). I am asking for any advice here. I have one more exam on Wed, and this is all I can think about. It is really putting more stress on me, and i should be studying right now, not worried about this!