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Hey guys,
I am a girl and I started dating a boy during my gap year. I will start medical school in August and we talked about the future of our relationship today. He tells me that he is absolutely never going to get married to anyone, never going to have children. He also feels a strong dislike for God, and he finds every opportunity to reminds me of that. Marriage, children, and my religion are 3 of the most important things to me. He also told me that if we break up, then he won't feel sad (maybe 3 days maximum). That made me cry... my biggest fear is that when I start medical school, one of 2 things will happen #1) boys will only date me when I am fun, young, and successful, but then they will leave me when bad situations happen #2) no boy will date me because I will be so stressed out and busy. This boy cares about me when I get sick, spends appropriate amount time to hang out with me, and listens to my problems. I am just curious as to how dating works in medical school. Will girls have plenty of opportunity to date, or are all the guys taken already? Any other advice will be helpful too... thanks
You have really low self esteem.Hey guys,
I am a girl and I started dating a boy during my gap year. I will start medical school in August and we talked about the future of our relationship today. He tells me that he is absolutely never going to get married to anyone, never going to have children. He also feels a strong dislike for God, and he finds every opportunity to reminds me of that. Marriage, children, and my religion are 3 of the most important things to me. He also told me that if we break up, then he won't feel sad (maybe 3 days maximum). That made me cry... my biggest fear is that when I start medical school, one of 2 things will happen #1) boys will only date me when I am fun, young, and successful, but then they will leave me when bad situations happen #2) no boy will date me because I will be so stressed out and busy. This boy cares about me when I get sick, spends appropriate amount time to hang out with me, and listens to my problems. I am just curious as to how dating works in medical school. Will girls have plenty of opportunity to date, or are all the guys taken already? Any other advice will be helpful too... thanks
I mean, I guess. It doesn't make a difference what anyone on here says. No matter what, she's gonna stay with him unless he breaks up with her first.Ouch some harsh responses on this thread😱
OP, a boyfriend is someone who should support you in everything you do, and that gels or at least tolerates with the things you value the most. This guy doesn't so in my humble opinion I dont think he is worth your time.
When you get to med school you will be busy yes, but many people before you have gone to med school single and eventually settled down. Unless you are some sort of serial killer I think you will be fine
Essentially: Focus on yourself and pursue people who complement you, and bring you up rather than down.🙂
Hey guys,
I am a girl and I started dating a boy during my gap year. I will start medical school in August and we talked about the future of our relationship today. He tells me that he is absolutely never going to get married to anyone, never going to have children. He also feels a strong dislike for God, and he finds every opportunity to reminds me of that. Marriage, children, and my religion are 3 of the most important things to me. He also told me that if we break up, then he won't feel sad (maybe 3 days maximum). That made me cry... my biggest fear is that when I start medical school, one of 2 things will happen #1) boys will only date me when I am fun, young, and successful, but then they will leave me when bad situations happen #2) no boy will date me because I will be so stressed out and busy. This boy cares about me when I get sick, spends appropriate amount time to hang out with me, and listens to my problems. I am just curious as to how dating works in medical school. Will girls have plenty of opportunity to date, or are all the guys taken already? Any other advice will be helpful too... thanks
Also wtf is this...? Sorry if this is harsh but that is just not rational thinking at all.my biggest fear is that when I start medical school, one of 2 things will happen #1) boys will only date me when I am fun, young, and successful, but then they will leave me when bad situations happen #2) no boy will date me because I will be so stressed out and busy
Hey guys,
I am a girl and I started dating a boy during my gap year. I will start medical school in August and we talked about the future of our relationship today. He tells me that he is absolutely never going to get married to anyone, never going to have children. He also feels a strong dislike for God, and he finds every opportunity to reminds me of that. Marriage, children, and my religion are 3 of the most important things to me. He also told me that if we break up, then he won't feel sad (maybe 3 days maximum). That made me cry... my biggest fear is that when I start medical school, one of 2 things will happen #1) boys will only date me when I am fun, young, and successful, but then they will leave me when bad situations happen #2) no boy will date me because I will be so stressed out and busy. This boy cares about me when I get sick, spends appropriate amount time to hang out with me, and listens to my problems. I am just curious as to how dating works in medical school. Will girls have plenty of opportunity to date, or are all the guys taken already? Any other advice will be helpful too... thanks
You date boys, not men. That's your problem.#1) boys will only date me when I am fun, young, and successful, but then they will leave me when bad situations happen
Family members will comfort you when you're stressed out, take care of you when you're sick, spend time with you unconditionally, listen to your problems... You're not going to find someone that fulfills all of these things. That's a relationship you're going to have to build over the course of years. . . I hope that tempers your expectations.#2) no boy will date me because I will be so stressed out and busy. This boy cares about me when I get sick, spends appropriate amount time to hang out with me, and listens to my problems. I am just curious as to how dating works in medical school. Will girls have plenty of opportunity to date, or are all the guys taken already? Any other advice will be helpful too... thanks
♫You've got to know when to hold 'em
Know when to fold 'em
Know when to walk away
And know when to run♫
Just a comment to all in this thread. The maturity and emotional experience of those from high school thru young adult can vary widely and as prospective physicians you have some awareness and sensitivity to this fact. This may apply even more so who have spent much of their college years being a serious student and not being in many serious relationships. Additionally, as most girls will tell you, guys seem to mature behind women in their teen years. Right now I am advising a 16 female year old college junior (yes 16 years old) who has the maturity of woman who has been through 3 divorces. Last year I had a 30 plus year old advisee who was actually a divorcee in a 10 year marriage with the first man she ever dated. She had never done any "real" dating and was completely clueless on how to do so. BTW, the latter just met the love of her life in her first year of medical school, a lawyer, go figure.
Hey guys,
I am a girl and I started dating a boy during my gap year. I will start medical school in August and we talked about the future of our relationship today. He tells me that he is absolutely never going to get married to anyone, never going to have children. He also feels a strong dislike for God, and he finds every opportunity to reminds me of that. Marriage, children, and my religion are 3 of the most important things to me. He also told me that if we break up, then he won't feel sad (maybe 3 days maximum). That made me cry... my biggest fear is that when I start medical school, one of 2 things will happen #1) boys will only date me when I am fun, young, and successful, but then they will leave me when bad situations happen #2) no boy will date me because I will be so stressed out and busy. This boy cares about me when I get sick, spends appropriate amount time to hang out with me, and listens to my problems. I am just curious as to how dating works in medical school. Will girls have plenty of opportunity to date, or are all the guys taken already? Any other advice will be helpful too... thanks
What?... Are you sure you're even mentally ready to date anyone period with that thinking?Hey guys,
I am a girl and I started dating a boy during my gap year. I will start medical school in August and we talked about the future of our relationship today. He tells me that he is absolutely never going to get married to anyone, never going to have children. He also feels a strong dislike for God, and he finds every opportunity to reminds me of that. Marriage, children, and my religion are 3 of the most important things to me. He also told me that if we break up, then he won't feel sad (maybe 3 days maximum). That made me cry... my biggest fear is that when I start medical school, one of 2 things will happen #1) boys will only date me when I am fun, young, and successful, but then they will leave me when bad situations happen #2) no boy will date me because I will be so stressed out and busy. This boy cares about me when I get sick, spends appropriate amount time to hang out with me, and listens to my problems. I am just curious as to how dating works in medical school. Will girls have plenty of opportunity to date, or are all the guys taken already? Any other advice will be helpful too... thanks
Dating in med school works pretty much like dating anywhere else. It sounds like you're keeping this guy around because you are afraid of being alone more than anything, which is not healthy. You two are clearly not on the same page, and trying to force this square peg of a relationship into the round hole that is marriage or something long term is really going to end poorly. There's plenty of other fish in the sea, find one that actually likes you for you damn it.Hey guys,
I am a girl and I started dating a boy during my gap year. I will start medical school in August and we talked about the future of our relationship today. He tells me that he is absolutely never going to get married to anyone, never going to have children. He also feels a strong dislike for God, and he finds every opportunity to reminds me of that. Marriage, children, and my religion are 3 of the most important things to me. He also told me that if we break up, then he won't feel sad (maybe 3 days maximum). That made me cry... my biggest fear is that when I start medical school, one of 2 things will happen #1) boys will only date me when I am fun, young, and successful, but then they will leave me when bad situations happen #2) no boy will date me because I will be so stressed out and busy. This boy cares about me when I get sick, spends appropriate amount time to hang out with me, and listens to my problems. I am just curious as to how dating works in medical school. Will girls have plenty of opportunity to date, or are all the guys taken already? Any other advice will be helpful too... thanks
sorry to say this, but are you really emotionally ready to become a physician?Hey guys,
I am a girl and I started dating a boy during my gap year. I will start medical school in August and we talked about the future of our relationship today. He tells me that he is absolutely never going to get married to anyone, never going to have children. He also feels a strong dislike for God, and he finds every opportunity to reminds me of that. Marriage, children, and my religion are 3 of the most important things to me. He also told me that if we break up, then he won't feel sad (maybe 3 days maximum). That made me cry... my biggest fear is that when I start medical school, one of 2 things will happen #1) boys will only date me when I am fun, young, and successful, but then they will leave me when bad situations happen #2) no boy will date me because I will be so stressed out and busy. This boy cares about me when I get sick, spends appropriate amount time to hang out with me, and listens to my problems. I am just curious as to how dating works in medical school. Will girls have plenty of opportunity to date, or are all the guys taken already? Any other advice will be helpful too... thanks
Geez..sorry to say this, but are you really emotionally ready to become a physician?
Kind of my point: Instead we should listen to what is presented and respond appropriately without placing expectations of assumed levels of maturity, experience, etc. Go to your patient's point of view not your own. And yes, this SDN, student doctor network. Occasionally you should remember that you are all prospective physicians and perhaps applying a little of that here to people who present a personal emotional issue.
Hey guys,
I am a girl and I started dating a boy during my gap year. I will start medical school in August and we talked about the future of our relationship today. He tells me that he is absolutely never going to get married to anyone, never going to have children. He also feels a strong dislike for God, and he finds every opportunity to reminds me of that. Marriage, children, and my religion are 3 of the most important things to me. He also told me that if we break up, then he won't feel sad (maybe 3 days maximum). That made me cry... my biggest fear is that when I start medical school, one of 2 things will happen #1) boys will only date me when I am fun, young, and successful, but then they will leave me when bad situations happen #2) no boy will date me because I will be so stressed out and busy. This boy cares about me when I get sick, spends appropriate amount time to hang out with me, and listens to my problems. I am just curious as to how dating works in medical school. Will girls have plenty of opportunity to date, or are all the guys taken already? Any other advice will be helpful too... thanks
Hey guys,
I am a girl and I started dating a boy during my gap year. I will start medical school in August and we talked about the future of our relationship today. He tells me that he is absolutely never going to get married to anyone, never going to have children. He also feels a strong dislike for God, and he finds every opportunity to reminds me of that. Marriage, children, and my religion are 3 of the most important things to me. He also told me that if we break up, then he won't feel sad (maybe 3 days maximum). That made me cry... my biggest fear is that when I start medical school, one of 2 things will happen #1) boys will only date me when I am fun, young, and successful, but then they will leave me when bad situations happen #2) no boy will date me because I will be so stressed out and busy. This boy cares about me when I get sick, spends appropriate amount time to hang out with me, and listens to my problems. I am just curious as to how dating works in medical school. Will girls have plenty of opportunity to date, or are all the guys taken already? Any other advice will be helpful too... thanks
An excellent match! Listen, he's going to be a doctor!
Definitely not the Jack they're looking for
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Good luck and stay optimistic kittycat, you've got better and grander things ahead of you!Hey guys, thanks for all of your comments. I just broke up with him today. We have been arguing nonstop in the past 2 weeks and I have been crying every other day. But starting today, I will focus on other things for a while. Just spent a good hour talking to someone from my medical school about genetics and nutrition!
Ex boyfriend offered to go on a road trip with me next week as "friend" but with "benefits", because he does not believe in a "title", but he's reluctant about the "benefits" because I appear to be stressed from working so much in my gap year job. I am not going with him any more. I also won't attend his graduation. I will go on this trip by myself or with other friends. Your encouragements have greatly helped with my dilemma and I was able to see the situation with a more clear perspective.
I think @Mad Jack is already taken, anyway.Yeah you guys don't want MJ, he's a handful
+eleventyIf misc has taught me anything it's that no contact is vital during this newly minted post relationship stage
Hey guys, thanks for all of your comments. I just broke up with him today. We have been arguing nonstop in the past 2 weeks and I have been crying every other day. But starting today, I will focus on other things for a while. Just spent a good hour talking to someone from my medical school about genetics and nutrition!
Ex boyfriend offered to go on a road trip with me next week as "friend" but with "benefits", because he does not believe in a "title", but he's reluctant about the "benefits" because I appear to be stressed from working so much in my gap year job. I am not going with him any more. I also won't attend his graduation. I will go on this trip by myself or with other friends. Your encouragements have greatly helped with my dilemma and I was able to see the situation with a more clear perspective.
Hey guys, thanks for all of your comments. I just broke up with him today. We have been arguing nonstop in the past 2 weeks and I have been crying every other day. But starting today, I will focus on other things for a while. Just spent a good hour talking to someone from my medical school about genetics and nutrition!
Ex boyfriend offered to go on a road trip with me next week as "friend" but with "benefits", because he does not believe in a "title", but he's reluctant about the "benefits" because I appear to be stressed from working so much in my gap year job. I am not going with him any more. I also won't attend his graduation. I will go on this trip by myself or with other friends. Your encouragements have greatly helped with my dilemma and I was able to see the situation with a more clear perspective.
sounds like a great boyfriend. It sounds like you already know the answer to your issue. Find the guts to make the decision. Asking SDNers for relationship advice is like asking a neurologist to cure Alzheimer's-- you know that it is futile yet you are so desperate you accept any BS they have to offer. And I say that respectfully =DHey guys,
I am a girl and I started dating a boy during my gap year. I will start medical school in August and we talked about the future of our relationship today. He tells me that he is absolutely never going to get married to anyone, never going to have children. He also feels a strong dislike for God, and he finds every opportunity to reminds me of that. Marriage, children, and my religion are 3 of the most important things to me. He also told me that if we break up, then he won't feel sad (maybe 3 days maximum). That made me cry... my biggest fear is that when I start medical school, one of 2 things will happen #1) boys will only date me when I am fun, young, and successful, but then they will leave me when bad situations happen #2) no boy will date me because I will be so stressed out and busy. This boy cares about me when I get sick, spends appropriate amount time to hang out with me, and listens to my problems. I am just curious as to how dating works in medical school. Will girls have plenty of opportunity to date, or are all the guys taken already? Any other advice will be helpful too... thanks