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[cherubb3]

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I asked my current boyfriend out, and he tells me he loved it. But if you're going to be the one asking, you have to be very cognizant of whatever answer he gives you. If he is lukewarm or not particularly enthusiastic about it (like turning you down for a study session on a Friday night), drop it and move on. I think that girls are so used to receiving attention that they lose all common sense when they get turned down or ignored. It's okay if a guy isn't into you.

 

[Dr.Kat]

I asked my current boyfriend out, and he tells me he loved it. But if you're going to be the one asking, you have to be very cognizant of whatever answer he gives you. If he is lukewarm or not particularly enthusiastic about it (like turning you down for a study session on a Friday night), drop it and move on. I think that girls are so used to receiving attention that they lose all common sense when they get turned down or ignored. It's okay if a guy isn't into you.

that's good advice - i agree!

 

[aalamruad]

Second update: So I casually asked around my circle of friends to see if anyone is looking for a girlfriend, and one of my best friends from high school told me that he is. He is in another medical school nearby and we both have realistic expectations on how challenging it can be to balance medical school with relationship. But hey at least we laugh at the same stupid jokes.

After talking about our dating philosophy on the phone, I realized that
1) currently we both have common goals in life
2) neither of us believe in "the one" and we both want to work on the relationship and our individual issues
3) even though he is studying for step 1 test, he is prioritizing being there for me...
4) we are willing to stay in the same location if things work out - very important when MATCH comes!
5) he has the same timeline for engagement, marriage, and children as me. He has realistic expectations in what he looks for in a partner.
6) he has a history of keeping his words as best as he could

We are going to start dating in April officially and hopefully grow closer as time goes on. I really hope this would be better than the previous relationship.

Edit: Lol nvm

 

[wagonwheel23]

@kittycat007 How important is romance to you? You seem to have ironed out logistics, but what about... love, spark, admiration, [insert effusive adjective to describe the kind of relationship where you talk about the future]?

 

[BeddingfieldMD]

Hey all,

So my previous boyfriend and I broke up due to long distance and his inability to deal with my medical school schedules. The relationship has been dead for a few months but we dragged it out. No chance of rebound happening, but I want to wait for a month before making any decisions. Would it be acceptable to ask out a guy in my medical school class to go on a date with me after breaking up with boyfriend for a month? I think he might like me but I am not too sure. He is currently single. I like being straightforward with my intentions as a "date" but my friends told me it might be less pressure to just "hang out". I won't get offended or weird if he says no, but I am worried that he might get upset or never talk to me again. I don't think he will spread rumors and tell the whole school.

Male medical students, how would you feel if a female classmate asks you out? Would you give her a chance?

You're a grown woman in med school, not high school. If you like him and want to go out on a date with him, just ask. Unless your med school class consists of 15 people, I can't imagine any awkwardness that would follow such a simple, adult request.

 

[McRibs]

Second update: So I casually asked around my circle of friends to see if anyone is looking for a girlfriend, and one of my best friends from high school told me that he is. He is in another medical school nearby and we both have realistic expectations on how challenging it can be to balance medical school with relationship. But hey at least we laugh at the same stupid jokes.

After talking about our dating philosophy on the phone, I realized that
1) currently we both have common goals in life
2) neither of us believe in "the one" and we both want to work on the relationship and our individual issues
3) even though he is studying for step 1 test, he is prioritizing being there for me...
4) we are willing to stay in the same location if things work out - very important when MATCH comes!
5) he has the same timeline for engagement, marriage, and children as me. He has realistic expectations in what he looks for in a partner.
6) he has a history of keeping his words as best as he could

We are going to start dating in April officially and hopefully grow closer as time goes on. I really hope this would be better than the previous relationship.

I think you're forgetting the part where this process is supposed to be fun.

 

[Lozzo]

I'm trying to imagine being like "Let me pencil you in to my calendar to start officially dating in April. Then in precisely 18 months we can schedule an engagement date."

This is blowing my mind...