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So what can we pre-med hopefuls do? With regard to Elsium's post, I still don't understand how we can even be bare-bones good parents and average doctors and decent wives. I think all we can do is be average at all three. Is that good enough for our conscionces (sp?) ? I don't know.
My hubby is a resident works 12 hour days, studies at night, and I never see him. We spend 15 minutes of "us" time per day and he just has me right now to deal with. How could I be even an average mom, and average doc, and an average wife if I had these conditions (paritcularly the studying?) How can you even see your own kids of 15 minutes a day when you're doing all three? I can't sacrifice sleep or I turn into a non-functioning imbicile.
I have the brain, and I want a high-powered career, I crave it, but I also don't want to be racked by guilt that my marriage is falling apart and my kids run to the nanny with their mother's day card. I can't be 100% sure about going into medicine b/c of these worries as a married, 28 year old woman with some life experience right now.
But I also have guilt about "not living up to my potential." I want to make the best use of my brian and talents that I can, and medicine is the only high-powered career where I can see that happening (i.e. law, i-banking, finance, consulting is not for me.) What other high-powered careers are there, where you have tons of responsibility, help people, is intellectually challenging, and make a 6-figure salary? Can anyone think of anything besides these areas above and maybe engineering or something?
Will I have the energy in my 30's to do all this stuff--med school and residency? I'm pretty energetic now, but how will taking call every 4th night in residency be at age 35?
But if I don't go, I'll always regret that decision and my self-esteem will always take the hit. I will never be able to live with myself, in a way. B/c being a doctor is the only thing I've ever wanted to do. It's the only job out there for me. Everything else will always be way second on the totem pole for me. I've already experienced a grad degree and two other careers, and a ton of career exploration. Nothing makes me as happy as being in the hospital, helping people, working with patients, and being around medicine.
What I do regret, is making the life choices that I did that led me to the point where now I'm 28 years old and having to decide whether to apply. If I was 25 and deciding whether to apply, this would be a no-brainer=medicine all the way. How can I reconcile this regret??????
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My hubby is a resident works 12 hour days, studies at night, and I never see him. We spend 15 minutes of "us" time per day and he just has me right now to deal with. How could I be even an average mom, and average doc, and an average wife if I had these conditions (paritcularly the studying?) How can you even see your own kids of 15 minutes a day when you're doing all three? I can't sacrifice sleep or I turn into a non-functioning imbicile.
I have the brain, and I want a high-powered career, I crave it, but I also don't want to be racked by guilt that my marriage is falling apart and my kids run to the nanny with their mother's day card. I can't be 100% sure about going into medicine b/c of these worries as a married, 28 year old woman with some life experience right now.
But I also have guilt about "not living up to my potential." I want to make the best use of my brian and talents that I can, and medicine is the only high-powered career where I can see that happening (i.e. law, i-banking, finance, consulting is not for me.) What other high-powered careers are there, where you have tons of responsibility, help people, is intellectually challenging, and make a 6-figure salary? Can anyone think of anything besides these areas above and maybe engineering or something?
Will I have the energy in my 30's to do all this stuff--med school and residency? I'm pretty energetic now, but how will taking call every 4th night in residency be at age 35?
But if I don't go, I'll always regret that decision and my self-esteem will always take the hit. I will never be able to live with myself, in a way. B/c being a doctor is the only thing I've ever wanted to do. It's the only job out there for me. Everything else will always be way second on the totem pole for me. I've already experienced a grad degree and two other careers, and a ton of career exploration. Nothing makes me as happy as being in the hospital, helping people, working with patients, and being around medicine.
What I do regret, is making the life choices that I did that led me to the point where now I'm 28 years old and having to decide whether to apply. If I was 25 and deciding whether to apply, this would be a no-brainer=medicine all the way. How can I reconcile this regret??????
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