Do you think you will meet the one you may marry during medical school?

[monkeyMD]

Or it could be someone you knew from before you started med school (but we all know long distance relationships suck). I would assume if you select one of the "yes" options, you are currently not in a relationship.

Take poll and discuss.

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[hrandani]

Why on earth is marry in scare quotes? Is this now a metaphor for something, or are you a five year old girl

 

[Brain Bucket]

Everyone knows your first marriage is just a practice run.

 

[Instatewaiter]

Med school is not some magical or terrible time. You life will go on. Unfortunate people will still be unfortunate. Normal people will still be normal. People will date. Since 24-30 is the time most people get married, lots of people will meet the one they will marry or get married while in med school.

 

[maybemed2013]

I am plan to date in med. school. Probably go out with a random guy once a week, to give my mind a break from the books. I don't plan on being serious with any of the guys but, you never know what life has planned for you.

 

[EMDO2018]

I have major trust issues when it comes to women, because of this I don't think I will ever get married, but hopefully I can get laid a few times. I've accepted my inevitable life alone.

 

[scorm]

I have major trust issues when it comes to women, because of this I don't think I will ever get married, but hopefully I can get laid a few times. I've accepted my inevitable life alone.

You sound like someone who's never had sex. I'm sorry.

 

[studentp0x]

Whenever 2 career people get married, it raises huge issues in terms of how their children will be raised. Can't imagine how it's possible to raise kids and supervise teenagers when yourself and your spouse are working 50+ hours a week.

 

[zeppelinpage4]

I'd like to meet someone while I'm in med school...but I had hoped to meet someone in college and I'm coming out of undergrad single lol, so honestly, I have no clue whether or not I will. I rarely get time to see people outside of school, and most people in our class are in relationships, so the odds aren't in my favor, but a guy can hope. Anyhow, I'm pretty happy with life right now, and I am more worried about passing my classes and being able to stay in school at the moment.

From what I gather, you can never predict when or how you'll meet that special person, could be in med school, could be years after. Just try to make the most out of life and go with the flow.

 

[KinesiologyNerd]

Classmate and I have been dating almost since class started. So far so good.

 

[studentp0x]

You sound like someone who's never had sex. I'm sorry.

I don't think you should judge someone based off a vague post like that. I know plenty of people who have had A LOTT of partners and have major trust issues and actually avoid relationships for that one reason alone.

It's a legitimate issue and saying "you have to trust someone etc." is normally terrible advice. Tons of men and women cheat on their partner and never even give off mild suspicion let alone get caught. Their partners who get cheated on, will happen to trust them. Those who investigate and lack trust, will find out and save themselves time.

Personally, 2 year relationship (has gotten better and better from the start) and still going, me and my gf text all day basically. Having actually seen very trustworthy type of people (people who come off as extremely trustworthy) cheat and lie, I can't imagine how couples can go hours without texting.

Anyway, didn't want to get off topic, just saying his post was very valid.

 

[KinesiologyNerd]

Personally, 2 year relationship (has gotten better and better from the start) and still going, me and my gf text all day basically. Having actually seen very trustworthy type of people (people who come off as extremely trustworthy) cheat and lie, I can't imagine how couples can go hours without texting.

So if your girlfriend doesn't text you, they're cheating? Makes sense. No trust issues there.

 

[studentp0x]

So if your girlfriend doesn't text you, they're cheating? Makes sense. No trust issues there.

I didn't say I'm going to assume she's cheating. I said it's going to raise suspicion. Of course, I may be biased, since I'm hung out with (several) both guys and girls (not manwhores or sluts either) who have cheated, and have gotten away with it due to their partner trusting them fully.

http://www.statisticbrain.com/infidelity-statistics/

Generally speaking, you have a greater chance of being cheated on at some point than NOT being cheated on.
Consider the bottom stats where almost 3 in 4 people would have an affair if they wouldn't get caught. And keep in mind, this doesn't include a casual one time experience (which would obviously be worse) but strictly talks about long term affairs.

 

[KinesiologyNerd]

I didn't say I'm going to assume she's cheating. I said it's going to raise suspicion. Of course, I may be biased, since I'm hung out with (several) both guys and girls (not manwhores or sluts either) who have cheated, and have gotten away with it due to their partner trusting them fully.

Wow... dude... that's... that's just sad.

 

[Missorleans]

Whenever 2 career people get married, it raises huge issues in terms of how their children will be raised. Can't imagine how it's possible to raise kids and supervise teenagers when yourself and your spouse are working 50+ hours a week.

Not every doctor works 50+ hours a week. And when they do, grandparents are helpful. Several of my friends have two doctors for parents and none got pregnant or became juvenile delinquents. Any specialty you can think of, there's probably a doc with a family doing it.

 

[Missorleans]

I didn't think I'd meet the guy I'm going to marry in med school. Figured it would be some time after once I'd figured my career out completely, or maybe in residency. But I got engaged in July to a classmate, we'd been dating since about two months into 1st year. I wasn't even looking for anyone to date at the time. Guess that person comes along when you least expect it. You never know.

 

[studentp0x]

Wow... dude... that's... that's just sad.

You can go ahead and trust whoever you like, just be cautious and be ready for disappointment.
Trusting someone =/= them doing as you wish.

 

[studentp0x]

Not every doctor works 50+ hours a week. And when they do, grandparents are helpful. Several of my friends have two doctors for parents and none got pregnant or became juvenile delinquents. Any specialty you can think of, there's probably a doc with a family doing it.

Well it's well known doctors tend to work long hours.. Surgery.. many subspecialties.. all work long hours. Even FM with it's 8-5 thing, you'll be home at like 6?
But honestly, there's a potential issue with any family where both parents are career oriented and work 40+ hours.

Growing up in day care is one thing, then there's lack of supervision and freedom for the teenagers. Not everyone has relatives to watch the kids..

 

[KnuxNole]

I don't think you should judge someone based off a vague post like that. I know plenty of people who have had A LOTT of partners and have major trust issues and actually avoid relationships for that one reason alone.

It's a legitimate issue and saying "you have to trust someone etc." is normally terrible advice. Tons of men and women cheat on their partner and never even give off mild suspicion let alone get caught. Their partners who get cheated on, will happen to trust them. Those who investigate and lack trust, will find out and save themselves time.

Personally, 2 year relationship (has gotten better and better from the start) and still going, me and my gf text all day basically. Having actually seen very trustworthy type of people (people who come off as extremely trustworthy) cheat and lie, I can't imagine how couples can go hours without texting.

Anyway, didn't want to get off topic, just saying his post was very valid.

I can. I'd be annoyed as **** if I keep getting texted by someone I'm dating. Personal space is quite nice at times 😀

Then again, I'm nowhere near paranoid, so I'm not concerned about cheating if I don't hear from him in *gasp* 5 hours. After all, everyone has busy and active lives, noone just sits around and does nothing, or roams around and cheats. If someone thinks everyone they are dating will cheat on them, they need to take chill pills or something haha.

 

[KnuxNole]

Well it's well known doctors tend to work long hours.. Surgery.. many subspecialties.. all work long hours. Even FM with it's 8-5 thing, you'll be home at like 6?
But honestly, there's a potential issue with any family where both parents are career oriented and work 40+ hours.

Growing up in day care is one thing, then there's lack of supervision and freedom for the teenagers. Not everyone has relatives to watch the kids..

There are a TON of American families who are career oriented and work 50+ hours a week. After all, any good job has people working solid hours. Unless they work crappy dead end jobs, or are baristas at Starbucks for life. 😛

 

[studentp0x]

I can. I'd be annoyed as **** if I keep getting texted by someone I'm dating. Personal space is quite nice at times 😀

Then again, I'm nowhere near paranoid, so I'm not concerned about cheating if I don't hear from him in *gasp* 5 hours. After all, everyone has busy and active lives, noone just sits around and does nothing, or roams around and cheats. If someone thinks everyone they are dating will cheat on them, they need to take chill pills or something haha.

Did you see the stats I posted? About 3 in 4 people would cheat if they wouldn't be caught. Close to half of people have cheated at some point.
While some people don't text often, the vast majority of people I know expect texts frequently. Being "busy" doesn't mean you can't text fairly often.

 

[KnuxNole]

I read those "stats", but that doesn't really change anything. Some people are just more paranoid than others I suppose

And it's not about really being busy haha. I'm not a fan of overly clingy people. If someone expects texts every half hour or hour, that seems a little excessive. After all, if we had a LONG hour conversation, that is a lot of quality time 😀

Unless that person who expects frequent texts is ok with some one or two word answers haha.

 

[EMDO2018]

Wow. The thing is, I would NEVER cheat. I always keep my word and I value being honest. Most people are not like this,a nd given the chance to cheat, they would do it in a heart. I honestly feel this makes me more decent than most people. Will I get married? Probably not I have trust issues.

 

[studentp0x]

There are a TON of American families who are career oriented and work 50+ hours a week. After all, any good job has people working solid hours. Unless they work crappy dead end jobs, or are baristas at Starbucks for life. 😛

Yea but we also have a ~50$ divorce rate.... lmao..
I'm not saying people should work less, just pointing out issues. And western families have many issues that's causing such a high failure rate.
Honestly every scenario has its risks. If you're a high earning husband and have a stay at home wife, well your kids can get raised really well but if something goes wrong, you're gonna be paying a lottt of alimony. On the other hand, you can have equal incomes, but your kids will be raised by day cares and then their peers (with no supervision from you).

 

[studentp0x]

I read those "stats", but that doesn't really change anything. Some people are just more paranoid than others I suppose

And it's not about really being busy haha. I'm not a fan of overly clingy people. If someone expects texts every half hour or hour, that seems a little excessive. After all, if we had a LONG hour conversation, that is a lot of quality time 😀

Unless that person who expects frequent texts is ok with some one or two word answers haha.

But it changes everything. If you have a 50% chance of catching a disease in the hospital, you have every right to be paranoid. If you have a 5% chance, then there isn't a need to be overly paranoid. Unfortunately, being cheated on falls within the former, where there's every right to be. And if you're ever been in a proper social scene and known lots of people, you're going to be very paranoid due to what you have witnessed.

As for texting, that depends on the people. I text my gf every 3-20 mins and she responds the same. I know tons of people like that as well.

 

[EMDO2018]

you know, she can text and hae sex at the same time right?

 

[KnuxNole]

EVERY 3 mins? Holy crap...that seems like a lot :O

 

[metopic]

But it changes everything. If you have a 50% chance of catching a disease in the hospital, you have every right to be paranoid. If you have a 5% chance, then there isn't a need to be overly paranoid. Unfortunately, being cheated on falls within the former, where there's every right to be. And if you're ever been in a proper social scene and known lots of people, you're going to be very paranoid due to what you have witnessed.

As for texting, that depends on the people. I text my gf every 3-20 mins and she responds the same. I know tons of people like that as well.

That's crazy. Co-dependent people hang together I guess?

As for the original post, physician/physician marriages don't have a high success rate...

 

[514901]

No, my aim has been to get laid as much as possible by as many hot women as possible

 

[Anastomoses]

No, my aim has been to get laid as much as possible by as many hot women as possible

You should put that on a t-shirt and wear it around while you're doing that.

 

[Missorleans]

That's crazy. Co-dependent people hang together I guess?

As for the original post, physician/physician marriages don't have a high success rate...

They have a higher success rate than physician/non-physician.

 

[KinesiologyNerd]

Did you see the stats I posted? About 3 in 4 people would cheat if they wouldn't be caught. Close to half of people have cheated at some point.
While some people don't text often, the vast majority of people I know expect texts frequently. Being "busy" doesn't mean you can't text fairly often.

Stop clinging to stats and live your life.

 

[exitonly29]

Stop clinging to stats and live your life.

Studentp0x lives in any of the forums about relationships as the almighty advice giver of people cheat and if you SO isn't texting back immediately they are cheating. I don't mean to sound cynical but he sounds like a 19-20 year old kid who hasn't outgrown a high school relationship

 

[Macias]

I rarely get time to see people outside of school and most people in our class are in relationships, so the odds aren't in my favor, but a guy can hope.

Anyhow, I'm pretty happy with life right now, and I am more worried about passing my classes and being able to stay in school at the moment.Tons of men and women cheat on their partner and never even give off mild suspicion let alone get caught. Their partners who get cheated on, will happen to trust them. Those who investigate and lack trust, will find out and save themselves time.

 

[askamsky51]

While some people don't text often, the vast majority of people I know expect texts frequently. Being "busy" doesn't mean you can't text fairly often.

I grew up in that strange era known as "before texting." I find it absolutely annoying to do--and I pity the souls who have no down time from the constant neediness of their s/o.

I love my girlfriend very much--but that doesn't mean we need to constantly smother each other.

 

[studentp0x]

Studentp0x lives in any of the forums about relationships as the almighty advice giver of people cheat and if you SO isn't texting back immediately they are cheating. I don't mean to sound cynical but he sounds like a 19-20 year old kid who hasn't outgrown a high school relationship

Oh please, use the age card (falsely) lmao it doesn't give credit to what you're saying nor does it discredit what I say.

 

[studentp0x]

Stop clinging to stats and live your life.

Disregard logic acquire emotions?

 

[KnuxNole]

I grew up in that strange era known as "before texting." I find it absolutely annoying to do--and I pity the souls who have no down time from the constant neediness of their s/o.

I love my girlfriend very much--but that doesn't mean we need to constantly smother each other.

Seriously. Clingy guys are a HUGE turnoff, and usually get kicked to the curb. Which takes longer than it should be...some can be persistent or think "just friends" still equals "sexy time"

 

[KnuxNole]

Also, who Are all these people that text every 20 mins...I assume everyone you know must be out of college, and people don't act like that. Do you know how insanely frequent every 10-20 mins are? I'd get sick of the person after 2 days. Also, would introduce them the concept of personal space haha

 

[studentp0x]

Seriously. Clingy guys are a HUGE turnoff, and usually get kicked to the curb. Which takes longer than it should be...some can be persistent or think "just friends" still equals "sexy time"

Being clingy means wanting more than the other person. If it's mutual, it's not classified as clingy.

 

[studentp0x]

Also, who Are all these people that text every 20 mins...I assume everyone you know must be out of college, and people don't act like that. Do you know how insanely frequent every 10-20 mins are? I'd get sick of the person after 2 days. Also, would introduce them the concept of personal space haha

I dont know.. I see people texting a lot in class.. at work.. if you pay attention, it seems the same way.

Anyway, texting frequency isn't really the main deal. Rather, knowing what your partner's up to is key. You can text a lot, but there can still be gaps in time. Knowing what they're doing and seeing inconsistencies is what leads to people getting caught.

 

[KnuxNole]

Meh, being a busy resident, the person I'm dating better not over analyze why It took me 2 hours to reply with a one word response...sorry the baby being pushed out of a vajajay took up texting time :O

 

[catalysts]

Meh, being a busy resident, the person I'm dating better not over analyze why It took me 2 hours to reply with a one word response...sorry the baby being pushed out of a vajajay took up texting time :O

Wanna grab some dinner tonight?

 

[THP]

As for texting, that depends on the people. I text my gf every 3-20 mins and she responds the same. I know tons of people like that as well.

If my wife texted me that frequency all day long that would make me more angry than if she actually cheated on me.

 

[Restart13]

I've been dating my gf for 3+ years, starting in undergrad. She now goes to the same university's Pharmacy school. So far it's been good as we both need to study a lot and we don't get too mad when we don't get to see each other alot.

 

[askamsky51]

I dont know.. I see people texting a lot in class.. at work.. if you pay attention, it seems the same way.

Anyway, texting frequency isn't really the main deal. Rather, knowing what your partner's up to is key. You can text a lot, but there can still be gaps in time. Knowing what they're doing and seeing inconsistencies is what leads to people getting caught.

If the only thing holding your relationship together and keeping him/her from cheating is your constant "knowing what they're up to"-- I think that relationship was doomed beforehand and shouldn't be kept up anyhow.

If I get cheated on that blows hard. Though I don't want to be in a relationship where I feel really insecure in anyhow. Nor one that was that fragile.

 

[studentp0x]

If the only thing holding your relationship together and keeping him/her from cheating is your constant "knowing what they're up to"-- I think that relationship was doomed beforehand and shouldn't be kept up anyhow.

If I get cheated on that blows hard. Though I don't want to be in a relationship where I feel really insecure in anyhow. Nor one that was that fragile.

This is more so about peace of mind. However, the no texting issue has come up in every single cheating case I've seen or heard of (relationships only, not marriages).

 

[Brain Bucket]

Have you tried the three little words?

 

[KnuxNole]

See, that is why I date normal, sane people. So I don't have to think about being "peace of mind" on a day to day basis.

 

[studentp0x]

See, that is why I date normal, sane people. So I don't have to think about being "peace of mind" on a day to day basis.

Most of the cheaters I've seen were very much sane and seemed very trustworthy, nothing sketch at all.
Given the stats, I believe someone has to be out of their mind to blindly trust someone without further inquiring.