Hi there,
Just wondering--how do you guys seem to always remember my posts--needlestick and career? I never seem to remember who posted what. How is that? Just wondering.
Anyhow, as to the career, I've always had a hard time separating my self-worth from my career activities. I don't know why, maybe because like Alison suggested, I don't really have much of an outside life out of my job at the moment, since my hubby is so occupied and I haven't made many friends here (just acquaintances.) I've tried so hard to make friends, I've posted lots of posts on Craig's List, right now I'm trying to organize a women's running group, but it just seems that most people in a particular city already have support networks in place, and it seems rare to move somewhere (like I did) not knowing anyone but your partner.
Anyhow, what do other people do to cope with the lonliness when their spouse/ partner is on call? I guess I haven't been very good lately dealing with the lonliness, esp. since I don't have any good girlfriends to go out with or talk to at those times. Plus, my job is so mindless that it doesn't occupy my thoughts either at work or afterwards. I'm trying to find a new job right now, but, it's really hard, since I'm applying for jobs in areas I'm not trained for (I used to be an artist, now I'm looking for jobs in science.) Like swimming upstream, sometimes.
I know I often only post here when I have something negative to discuss, like needlesticks, etc.
but I'm a really fun and interesting person to be around. I just wish I could find some female friends to hang with or, like someone mentioned, a consuming hobby. My current hobbies aren't very consuming--reading, movies, hanging out at Borders, playing with our many animals, interior design, cooking. What would be something more consuming, that's not a sport, that could take up lots of my free time (because I have way too much free time.) Or maybe I should get a second job--one full time plus one part time job to get me through the remainder of residency?
What coping tactics to other spouses/ sig o's of residents use? Esp. when they live in a city with no family and just a few acquaintances? Do you ever feel lonely and if so what do you do about it? By the way, I'm a recent newlywed.
Thanks,
-BB