Don't You Dare Judge a Book by It's Cover!!!

[KelliJelliBeans]

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Hey Everyone 🙂
I know that my topic sounds a bit mean, but I am a real mellow, cool, easy going gal. 😎 . I am just getting sick feeling like an odd ball! I am a spanish female who lives in New York City, Manhattan. I might not look like your average medical student, but who gives you the right to judge me by my looks. Lots of people veiw me as "pretty". 😡 Is that it? 😡 They fail to reconize that there is more to me than meets the eye.

I did not grow up in the best neighborhood, sadly I live in a community where teenage pregnacy seems to be the new tend! Most of my old friends did not even consider continuing their educations(some do not even finish high school). Many of them landed themselves in jail, or ended up with children(in some cases more than once).
So why am I the odd one, cause I am not married and because I do not have children? Should I wait around for a man to offer me the world and make me his wife because he finds me "pretty". HELL NO !!!

I need to hear that I am not the only one, whether you have been judged on looks(especially the ladies) or something else, post it up.
THANK YOU ALL FOR LETTING ME BLOW SOME STEAM.
Hope to hear from you soon :wink:

 

[Doctora Foxy]

haha welcome to SDN. As my name implies ( :wink: ) I've gone through that stuff too. People just think I'm a dumb blonde! I feel like I always have to watch what I say so people don't think I'm a ditz.....but that's life.

Just don't worry if people think you are different for not looking like an average premed....just prove them wrong by getting into med school! 😀

~Foxy Mamasita

p.s. This thread will probably be moved to the lounge.

 

[westsidespartan]

You girls are full of yourselves!

 

[snowballz]

I live for the day when women can begin to realize our worth is within ourselves and has nothing to do with the way we appear.

It's funny..the way some women seem to think no matter what we may achieve it is still important to look "pretty" or we won't have any worth.

To identify and think one is oppressed for being pretty should stop identifying themselves as one of the beautiful people. Then you won't find it so bad.

Sounds like a lot of self righteous fiddle playing to me.

Alicia

 

[Doctora Foxy]

•••quote:•••Originally posted by westsidespartan:
•You girls are full of yourselves!•••••that's right!

J/K ...It's just that people judge me before they know me. I'm not full of myself! That's not what this thread is about. It's about pre-conceived notions about someone based on looks....I feel it could hurt me in the admissions process, that's all (but hopefully it won't)

•••quote:•••To identify and think one is oppressed for being pretty should stop identifying themselves as one of the beautiful people. ••••And I didn't identify myself that way.

 

[KelliJelliBeans]

•••quote:•••Originally posted by snowballz:
•I live for the day when women can begin to realize our worth is within ourselves and has nothing to do with the way we appear.

It's funny..the way some women seem to think no matter what we may achieve it is still important to look "pretty" or we won't have any worth.

To identify and think one is oppressed for being pretty should stop identifying themselves as one of the beautiful people. Then you won't find it so bad.

Sounds like a lot of self righteous fiddle playing to me.

Alicia•••••WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE?
I WONDER WHAT KIND OF PERSON YOU MUST BE?
NO ONE EVER SAID THEY WERE "FULL OF THEMSELVES"
AND I NEVER SAID I WISH I WASN'T "PRETTY" <img border="0" alt="[Pity]" title="" src="graemlins/pity.gif" />

ALL I WANTED TO DO WAS SHED SOME LIGHT ON HOW MANY OF OUR ARE JUDGED!
AND YOU ARE JUST ONE OF THE EXAMPLES OF THESE PEOPLE!
THANK YOU FOR HELPING ME STATE MY POINT !!!

 

[Doctora Foxy]

Jalbrekt, you look very hot in your pictures!

 

[Scooby Doo]

Ummm...yea...Stop whining for being pretty. We appreciate your beauty...both inner and outer...

Men especially like the "outer" beauty 🙂

My advice: Take a chill pill.. (aka. scooby snack)and get a good night sleep. Come back here in the morning and check up on us. We'll still be here.

Oh, and that name "eagerbeaver"...there's only one thing I really think of when I hear that...but ya know, you chose it...so yea...

Men don't have their heads in the gutter...we LIVE in the gutter...

 

[SMW]

Hey, I wanna see Jalbrekt's pictures, but "the service is temporarily unavailable." 🙁

Does anyone else think this is a troll post?

 

[Doctora Foxy]

keep trying..haha i'm gonna make his pics my computer wallpaper

jk

 

[KelliJelliBeans]

•••quote:•••Originally posted by Doctora Foxy:
•keep trying..haha i'm gonna make his pics my computer wallpaper

jk•••••LOL
LOL
LOL
<img border="0" alt="[Laughy]" title="" src="graemlins/laughy.gif" />

 

[Doctora Foxy]

•••quote:•••Originally posted by SMW:
•
Does anyone else think this is a troll post?•••••I caught your edit 🙂

At first I did, but I think it would have been received differently if it were posted in the lounge instead of this forum.

Jamier2 help us out!

 

[djipopo]

Whoo Hoo, Jalbrekt is a hottie!

But he looks like he knows it 🙄 (How's that for judging a book by it's cover?!) :wink:

Anyway, being a URM and a female, I know all about being judged and/or stereotyped all too well. Most feel people don't feel comfortable until they can categorize you and fit their idea of who you are into a neat little box. When they can't they're afraid of and avoid interacting with you.

But that's not so bad, actually you have to admit that it's human nature, we all do it.

It DOES become a problem when people don't care to discover more about the people that they meet and interact with.

Depending on the circumstance, I usually go out of my way to communicate with someone who I think has judged me unfairly. Find some common bond and go with it. We'll all have to deal with this as physicians, learn how to overcome it now, it can only help you later.

My .02

 

[Scooby Doo]

Nice one Jalbrekt..what happened to your post???

You DELETED IT!!!!!!!! awww <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="frown.gif" />

 

[Jalby]

Wow. I'm blushing. How did this become the jalbrekt is so hot thread???? (j/k) I don't know what to say.
I'd first like to thank my parents, for giving me the genes to become a tall white male. Next I would like to thank Kenesha, Kelly, and Kia for not giving me the time of day in high school and making me feel like **** every day and making life miserable. Without you three, I wouldn't have been so determined to go to the gym every day for the last 5 years trying to wipe out the painful memories of high school.
Honestly, I'm not as arrogant as I have been accused. I'm actually scared to walk up to girls most of the time.

As to putting me up as wallpaper, Foxy you been mine for about three weeks now.

 

[Doctora Foxy]

•••quote:••• As to putting me up as wallpaper, Foxy you been mine for about three weeks now. ••••haha, too bad it's shakira or britney and not the real me! but we can always pretend it's me :wink:

 

[Jalby]

•••quote:•••Originally posted by Doctora Foxy:
• •••quote:••• As to putting me up as wallpaper, Foxy you been mine for about three weeks now. ••••haha, too bad it's shakira or britney and not the real me! but we can always pretend it's me :wink: •••••Ok, Shakira is now no longer my wallpaper.

 

[KelliJelliBeans]

QUOTE]Ok, Shakira is now no longer my wallpaper.

Jalbrekt
did you get my messages? I am tring to put some pictures up but I am clueless, Can someone help me.

 

[Doctora Foxy]

I have a real pic in my profile! Finally I figured it out! (I have a better one that I have to go scan....)

 

[Jamier2]

•••quote:•••Originally posted by Doctora Foxy:
•Jamier2 help us out!•••••Ask and ye shall receive. 😀

To the Lounge.

 

[matthew0126]

jalbrekt, i like your arizona cap ;]

•••quote:•••Originally posted by Jalbrekt:
•Wow. I'm blushing. How did this become the jalbrekt is so hot thread???? (j/k) I don't know what to say.
I'd first like to thank my parents, for giving me the genes to become a tall white male. Next I would like to thank Kenesha, Kelly, and Kia for not giving me the time of day in high school and making me feel like **** every day and making life miserable. Without you three, I wouldn't have been so determined to go to the gym every day for the last 5 years trying to wipe out the painful memories of high school.
Honestly, I'm not as arrogant as I have been accused. I'm actually scared to walk up to girls most of the time.

As to putting me up as wallpaper, Foxy you been mine for about three weeks now.•••••

 

[brandonite]

Wow, Foxy.... 😀 😀 😀 😀

You're really hot, if you don't mind me saying so... 😀