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So have you ever had an incident in your life that in one fell swoop both knocks you on your ass, and makes you realize just how much of a mess you are?
this is a little off topic. and i see now it rambles alot, but bare with me, it might end up relevant. if nothing else i can get it off my chest.
So I think I'm an ok guy. Smart, hard working, creative. I've been with a great women for 3 years now. You think your in a great relationship on the way to medical school, getting ready to settle down and maybe even start a family; in short its coming together, and the future looks bright. Then one day you wake up and she is moving out, sighting a long long long list of the wrongs you committed, your deficiencies as a partner, and deep character faults as a human being.
And the really scary thing is everything she says is so right, so on target, you can't believe you never noticed these things till now, as she is driving away. And if you had, you would of course tried to do something about them, but you didn't and now like some form of silent cancer they have grown and spread. Even worse as you play back the tape of the relationship you realise she had been trying to tell you these things for years, but your ego is too big to have let them register, and you have been too focused of yourself and your selfish needs to have ever truly considered hers.
Then as you sit in the ruin of your life and ponder your next move, your only real buttress against the growing clouds of depression is the fact your are going to medical school next year with or without her, the real kicker hits you: what the F. kind of doctor are you going to make if you cant even care for and listen to the one person in your life that you proclaim to mean more then anything to you? That you have been so focused on getting yourself there, through a B.S., a Ph.D., mcat reviews, the applications...oh the endless applications, interviews, and finally into school, that you have horribly neglected aspects of your personality, and while you are in the top 6% based on mcat scroes, you in all likelihood have the emotional development of a infant and no easily discernible morals or ethics.
Something like that ever happen to you? 'Cause it just has to me and I am seriously doubting what kind of man I've become, and what kind of doctor I will be. If it wasn't so bone crushing true, it could almost be funny, or at least tragic. It is so sad I'm almost afraid to sign my name to.
majikbob (with alot less majik now)
this is a little off topic. and i see now it rambles alot, but bare with me, it might end up relevant. if nothing else i can get it off my chest.
So I think I'm an ok guy. Smart, hard working, creative. I've been with a great women for 3 years now. You think your in a great relationship on the way to medical school, getting ready to settle down and maybe even start a family; in short its coming together, and the future looks bright. Then one day you wake up and she is moving out, sighting a long long long list of the wrongs you committed, your deficiencies as a partner, and deep character faults as a human being.
And the really scary thing is everything she says is so right, so on target, you can't believe you never noticed these things till now, as she is driving away. And if you had, you would of course tried to do something about them, but you didn't and now like some form of silent cancer they have grown and spread. Even worse as you play back the tape of the relationship you realise she had been trying to tell you these things for years, but your ego is too big to have let them register, and you have been too focused of yourself and your selfish needs to have ever truly considered hers.
Then as you sit in the ruin of your life and ponder your next move, your only real buttress against the growing clouds of depression is the fact your are going to medical school next year with or without her, the real kicker hits you: what the F. kind of doctor are you going to make if you cant even care for and listen to the one person in your life that you proclaim to mean more then anything to you? That you have been so focused on getting yourself there, through a B.S., a Ph.D., mcat reviews, the applications...oh the endless applications, interviews, and finally into school, that you have horribly neglected aspects of your personality, and while you are in the top 6% based on mcat scroes, you in all likelihood have the emotional development of a infant and no easily discernible morals or ethics.
Something like that ever happen to you? 'Cause it just has to me and I am seriously doubting what kind of man I've become, and what kind of doctor I will be. If it wasn't so bone crushing true, it could almost be funny, or at least tragic. It is so sad I'm almost afraid to sign my name to.
majikbob (with alot less majik now)