I am new to posting, but have been following SDN since grad school and always find the advice very helpful so am hoping for some help here. My husband and I are both in psychology--he is currently on internship and I am on postdoc and we live in different states. We did the year apart thing last year too and that was fine but then within the first month of starting postdoc we discovered, much to our surprise, that we are expecting our first child. Rather than be super excited as I'd like to be, I find myself torn between my values. I always imagined my partner being alongside me through the pregnancy to share in it, but our distance only allows us to see each other a couple times per month (neither internship or postdoc have tons of schedule flexibility of course). I am struggling with whether to stay at my postdoc or move back to live with my husband (since he obviously can't leave internship without sacrificing his degree). I will add that I know absolutely no one in the state I just moved to--the closest emergency contact I could come up with for my doctor is about 250 miles away. I just don't know what my options would be if I do not complete my postdoc, since licensure hours would not be earned. I could, however, considered being licensed in a state with no postdoc requirement (like Washington or Alabama), and that would allow me to have at least an unrestricted license to work in a VA (though I would not meet most state licensure requirements without on the job experience). Has anyone else ever dealt with this particular issue or know a colleague who has? I would really like to get to the celebrating part of this news and move on from the job logistics worries!