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Well I find myself dealing with a strange situation and in the spirit of learning the material in my ethics class (haha) I've decided to "consult my colleagues".
I'm a first year, so lately I find myself asking lots of questions of my profs. Whether it's about award deadlines or what an acronym means, I would like to think that my classes present an environment where I can ask those kinds of things and learn... that's what I'm here for right?
Well lately I've noticed one of the individuals in my cohort will answer questions I ask that are directed at the prof. Usually it doesn't bother me 'cause it's meant to help (I think), but today I asked my prof what an acronym meant because it was a really important part of what the prof was telling me to do. The person from my cohort overheard and said something to the effect of "Oh yeah, I know what that means. That's pretty important". Maybe I'm being overly sensitive because of lack of sleep and food, but it really hurt my feelings. I'm really new to the particular kind of research that we're doing and this person has had years of experience. I don't want it to be rubbed in at every opportunity.
Coming from a music background, I have lots of experience dealing with all kinds of egos, but it's really important for me to have a good relationship with my cohort so I'm not sure what to do. Do I tell the person that their comment sounded condescending and it hurt my feelings, or do I let it go and chalk it up to everyone feeling insecure since it's only our first month? It seems to be a pretty stable trait, I've noticed it quite a few times over the past 3 weeks.
It just seems such a shame to have to deal with these interpersonal glitches since the curriculum itself is challenging enough right now.
I'm a first year, so lately I find myself asking lots of questions of my profs. Whether it's about award deadlines or what an acronym means, I would like to think that my classes present an environment where I can ask those kinds of things and learn... that's what I'm here for right?
Well lately I've noticed one of the individuals in my cohort will answer questions I ask that are directed at the prof. Usually it doesn't bother me 'cause it's meant to help (I think), but today I asked my prof what an acronym meant because it was a really important part of what the prof was telling me to do. The person from my cohort overheard and said something to the effect of "Oh yeah, I know what that means. That's pretty important". Maybe I'm being overly sensitive because of lack of sleep and food, but it really hurt my feelings. I'm really new to the particular kind of research that we're doing and this person has had years of experience. I don't want it to be rubbed in at every opportunity.
Coming from a music background, I have lots of experience dealing with all kinds of egos, but it's really important for me to have a good relationship with my cohort so I'm not sure what to do. Do I tell the person that their comment sounded condescending and it hurt my feelings, or do I let it go and chalk it up to everyone feeling insecure since it's only our first month? It seems to be a pretty stable trait, I've noticed it quite a few times over the past 3 weeks.
It just seems such a shame to have to deal with these interpersonal glitches since the curriculum itself is challenging enough right now.