You may have already heard of it, but I thought WikEM was a pretty good resource. It's often got flowcharts and tables as well as just little blurbs. I used that pretty frequently and got good feedback about my differentials and plans. It's not perfect and your attending/resident may not always agree with it, but it's a decent place to start. If my superior disagreed with my plan, they wouldn't dock me as long as it was pretty reasonable and I could defend it.
There's plenty of other podcasts/websites out there to help shore up your knowledge (EMBasic, EMCrit, RebelEM, emDOCS, etc.) although some of these require a basic foundation. Since you seem to recognize that you lack that foundation, try the EM Clerkship podcast. It's made for students rotating in EM. Each episode is about 10 minutes and goes into some basic details about mostly high yield topics. I made cheatsheets from the podcast (and WikEM) which I referred to frequently when on rotation.
I also had a book called "The Chief Complaint: Emergency Medicine Handbook" which you may find useful.
In general, you want to keep your differential broad. You obviously want to think of the worst case scenarios because it's the ED. Young lady who is healthy but has chest pain with SOB? Worst case scenarios include ACS, PE, dissection, pneumothorax. Is it likely for a young healthy woman to have an ACS? Probably not as likely as an older man with HTN, DM, HLD, but it's your job to think of it and check for it. Don't forget your less-threatening causes of chest pain (muscle strain, costochondritis, anxiety, etc.) either.
For your plan, you need to figure out what you're supposed to help investigate your differential. What are you going to do to evaluate for the chest pain to make sure you don't miss an MI or something? EKG, troponins, chest x-ray. Your history, physical, and clinical judgement will help add or subtract to your plan. Your patient happens to have unilateral leg swelling and is a smoker with recent surgery? PE is now much more likely. Probably should add a D-dimer or CTA.
Emergency medicine is a disposition based specialty so you also need to think about what to do with your patient as part of your plan. What are you going to do if everything is negative and she has a low HEART score? What if her EKG shows ST elevation in II, III, avF? What if her CXR shows air bronchograms and opacity in the right lower lobe? What if her D-dimer is elevated? You don't necessarily need to tell your attending what to do in each of these scenarios during your initial presentation, but you better know what you'll do in each scenario. Again, WikEM kind of has the basics for it, but you're right in that there is no quick fix.
Keep reading and keep thinking. You'll get better with repetition. I've got a long ways to go, but I (and my attendings) noticed improvement from day 1 to day 20 because I made sure to read up on at least 1 topic a day.