Engagement, MPH, MD?

[publichealth06]

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Hi all,

I recently got engaged to my long-time boyfriend. I will be entering an MPH program in the fall, and he will be entering an MBA program. We plan to wed after we have both finished our Master's Degrees (in two years).

I'm thinking about going to medical school after I get my MPH, and my fiance is very supportive of me and wants me to pursue my dreams. He has said repeatedly, he is willing to make sacrifices if that is what I want.

But my BIG questions are:

What's it like to be a married woman in medical school, and when would having kids come into the picture??

I'm 22 right now, will be 23 when I finish my MPH and get married, will be 27 when I finish med school, 30 when I finish residency. My fiance is 4 years older than me. Would we have to wait until I'm 30 and he's 34 to have our first child? Has anyone had kids while in med school or residency? Could you please share your experiences?

Thank you!!!

 

[mshheaddoc]

mommd.com is a great site for this and yes MANY women on here have shared experiences of having children either before entering med school, during school, as well as residency and beyond. There is no "good" time to have kids. They just sort of happen. I got my MBA and I will be applying at the age of 29 in 2 years to medical school. I understand your apprehensive nature about when to apply and when to have kids. I have been advised both ways (to have kids then apply when they are in school or to have kids in between years).

If you search at the top of the forum by clicking the search menu for the whole site (as well in the non-traditional forum as there was a big discussion there as well as on this forum). Everyone's situation is different and having a support structure in place is important while having children. But know it can be done and many people share your worries.

:luck

 

[thirdunity]

Speaking as someone who's been married (and soon to be divorced), it's easier to be married than to be in a nonmarried relationship. Marriage has its own complications, but if your husband-to-be is as supportive as he sounds, that's already a good start. Being in a nonmarried relationship always feels a little insecure, like one foot is out of the pool. Just don't have kids until you're ready.