A few days out from match day and I am feeling a whole lot better. I am still disappointed in the results of match day but I know that I can reach my goals in my program. Getting emails with Dr. ____ on them made me look back at the fact that I am very lucky to be in the position I am in.
Also surrounding myself with non-medical people who have no idea what the match is and think its just awesome that I'm a doctor has helped tremendously. I still think I will have a hard time being around my classmates, as objectively my program is awesome, but when I compare myself to others I still feed bad and feel that this was an injustice.
I am reaching the "acceptance" stage of my grieving process and it only took a few days. I knew I would get here but when you're in the middle of it you just feel awful and it feels like you'll feel like this for a long time.
This is a little late, but I'm also extremely disappointed about where I matched. I'm coming from a top 15 medical school and not going into a very competitive field. My top two choices were very competitive academic programs and subsequent choices were not so competitive. I made the mistake of ranking a community program that I thought seemed nice as my third, and above other less competitive but still respected academic programs. Of course, I ended up matching at my third choice, and now I am kicking myself. Not that I have anything against IMG's, but half my class is composed of them, and coming from a top 15 MD school, I can't help feeling that I short-changed myself. I am kicking myself for not having ranked other programs higher. I am scared now because I am afraid I won't be competitive for any fellowships. Everytime I think about it I get sick to my stomach and wish I could go back and change how I ranked.
Part of the reason I ranked this way was because my signficant other liked this location. I never thought I'd end up at this program, so I agreed to rank it third, now I find myself resenting my SO.
I feel like my situation stinks. I went from expecting to get into a really strong academic program into an unranked, essentially community program. I feel embarassed to talk to my friends about the match, because they all ended up at reputable places or at their top choice.
There was obviously a reason why you ranked this program #3. I think you will come I am kicking myself for putting a few top tiers under my#6 program because they had more undesirable locations. I did not expect to go past #5 on my list (would have been thrilled with 1-3, and ok with 4-5) so my reasoning was for my personal and social life not for the program. Even though I'm feeling bad about it now, I made that decision for a reason.
Your SO might have had something to do with it but if you felt that strongly that you disliked that program, you probably would not have ranked it so highly. In the moment it is hard not to question all the decisions you have made through the process - did I not apply to enough programs? Should I have expanded the locations I applied to? Should I have gone to some of the interviews that I cancelled? Should I have ranked a top tier with a bad location over a middle tier with a great one?
I completely understand feeling embarrassed. I feel the same way. Especially seeing my classmates at other programs that I ranked higher and didn't match to and knowing that certain classmates know this must have been very low on my list. There are probably many more people disappointed at the match day results than you think. Most people hide it. I'm sure many people matched at their home program were disappointed but there is no way you can show that. The reason I started this thread is because I knew that it is a bad idea to go around telling people how terrible you feel about your situation when some are celebrating and you don't want to ruin their fun or others are in a situation that is worse. I wanted to just know people were out there in my same situation, commiserate, and do it completely anonymously. Because to the world I need to look thrilled about this.
My situation doubly stings because I didn't get my top choice, but also because I ended up at a place that was probably one of the weakest programs on my list. Can I recover from this? Will I be able to get a job?
Have you considered meeting with one of your deans or faculty at your institution to discuss it? There is no way anyone can answer on this board without knowing the program. The best thing you can do is look at the fellowship matches and career paths of previous grads of your program.
Of course you're disappointed, but there has got to be a reason this was high on your list. Try to remember why. Then figure out how you're going to be the best resident you can be there and thrive. If you liked the location great - are you looking at apartments and getting excited about your life outside the hospital? Can you identify a mentor for your desired career path or for research? Accepting the program and trying to find out the ways it will help you (instead of the ways you feel it wasn't good for you) is the only thing you, and I, can do at this point.