Family hid sister's diagnosis from me

[RogueBanana]

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Hey guys,

So today I found out my sister was diagnosed with a possible early stage degenerative autoimmune condition (don't wanna say too much)

She had been going to specialists for over a year but my family hid it from me because they didn't want me to worry about it while I was going through the med school application process.

Idk I just wanted to say it out loud. I wish they had told me, I'm worried about her.

Her prognosis is good, which I'm grateful for, and the diagnosis isn't definite unless she has another episode. But it's still a rough situation.

 

[deleted480308]

I'm sorry, that sucks. I wish your sister well

 

[Astra]

hey man, sending you good vibes. Know that you aren't alone. If you need to ever talk to someone, you got us.

 

[RogueBanana]

Thanks guys,

Everyone's trying to keep it a secret so this is my only outlet to talk about it

 

[CharlieBillings]

I'd probably feel a bit betrayed tbh

 

[jowblow997]

I'm sure this is a hard time for both you and your family, sending you all positive wishes. I know it's frustrating when family members do these kinds of things, but they meant well.

Hoping for the best, stay strong.

 

[Matthew9Thirtyfive]

Prayers.

 

[sliceofbread136]

Good luck man, don't be too upset at your family

 

[bannie22]

its not uncommon for humans to tell white lies to one another to protect the people they love

 

[Neurodoct]

Prayers and best wishes to you and your family.

Stay strong!

 

[NotYou20]

Sorry to hear buddy. I feel you on the family stuff, it's misguided but comes from a good place. Best wishes to your sister

 

[RogueBanana]

Thanks for the support. I'm not angry, they're good people and I understand why they did it. But I do feel a little betrayed. Her boyfriend and her boyfriend's father were even told before me.

 

[Frank S]

Thanks for the support. I'm not angry, they're good people and I understand why they did it. But I do feel a little betrayed. Her boyfriend and her boyfriend's father were even told before me.

That's because they thought that you care more about your sister than her boyfriend or her boyfriend's father do.

 

[gamieg]

that's really tough, and I hope that penning it down helped at least a little. I think a lot of times good intentions can give rise to hurtful decisions, and it's okay to feel conflicted even if you understand logically.

sending positive thoughts your way, and definitely wishing your sister the best.

 

[787593]

Prayers.

Same here

 

[673441]

Hey guys,

So today I found out my sister was diagnosed with a possible early stage degenerative autoimmune condition (don't wanna say too much)

She had been going to specialists for over a year but my family hid it from me because they didn't want me to worry about it while I was going through the med school application process.

Idk I just wanted to say it out loud. I wish they had told me, I'm worried about her.

Her prognosis is good, which I'm grateful for, and the diagnosis isn't definite unless she has another episode. But it's still a rough situation.

They had your best interests at heart. Don't blame them for not distracting you. I would understand if you were in medical school, but application process lol? My ******* brother told me some troubling news before my neuro practical. Failed that ****.


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[libertyyne]

That sucks. PM me if you need someone to talk to .

 

[Frogger27]

Prayers to your sister and family...

My mom has done the same thing to me before... my father had a heart attack and she did not tell me until a week later because she did not want me to worry during finals week.

I know it sucks because you wish you knew right away so that you could help/offer support, but know that your families intention in keeping this from you was good. You can only control what is in your power and this is in the past. Move on and be the most supportive brother/family member you can

PM if you want to talk

 

[precisiongraphic]

Stay strong and Frogger's right - it's in the past. Best wishes to your family RB and I hope your sister's health condition goes into remission and stays there.

 

[Stagg737]

Depending on the situation I'd probably be pissed, but that's just me. I'm really sorry to hear about your situation OP, but glad that the news at least has some silver linings. If it's really bothering you, you may want to sit down/call and talk to your family about it. After all, you know about it now so there's no reason for them to keep the secret. It might be good to let them know how you felt about it and discuss if you thought if it was handled appropriately.

 

[Goro]

Very sorry to hear this. I can understand your families point of view. Right now, the best you can do is be a good sibling, and stay on top of the literature for her illness. Talk to your Immunology and.or Rheumatology (or Neurology or GI, etc) Faculty about the cutting edge of treatments these days.

Hey guys,

So today I found out my sister was diagnosed with a possible early stage degenerative autoimmune condition (don't wanna say too much)

She had been going to specialists for over a year but my family hid it from me because they didn't want me to worry about it while I was going through the med school application process.

Idk I just wanted to say it out loud. I wish they had told me, I'm worried about her.

Her prognosis is good, which I'm grateful for, and the diagnosis isn't definite unless she has another episode. But it's still a rough situation.

 

[dpmd]

Been on the receiving end of this as well and it doesn't feel good, but your family did it because they care about you and figured it was the best way to be supportive of your goals. Try not to let the betrayal feeling fester. Talk to them and let you know that you would prefer to hear bad news as it happens even if it happens at bad times during your training.

 

[RogueBanana]

Thanks for the support everyone! She had an MRI last week and gets the results Monday. We'll see how things are then...

I totally understand my family's reasoning, it still hurts a little though

 

[JJlina]

Sorry to hear this. Had a similar situation with my dad happen to me when I was applying to Med School. It sucks and hurts but you know the hearts where always in the right place. Thoughts and Prayers tho to you and your family.