Fear Of Failure

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I guess you could say that I am at the infancy of my pre-med career and I can't help but notice that I am plagued with fears of failure. I know that in most cases fear is an illogical feeling but I can't help but realize how easy it is to screw up as a pre-med. I guess my question is if anyone else is going through this or has gone through this? Also, for those of you who are further along in your careers, was there ever a point where you realized that you were going to make it and get into medical school?
 
I guess you could say that I am at the infancy of my pre-med career and I can't help but notice that I am plagued with fears of failure. I know that in most cases fear is an illogical feeling but I can't help but realize how easy it is to screw up as a pre-med. I guess my question is if anyone else is going through this or has gone through this? Also, for those of you who are further along in your careers, was there ever a point where you realized that you were going to make it and get into medical school?


I'm a little farther along than you are, and trust me buddy, I am sure everyone feels like this at some point. But to be honest, at the end of the day, when you think about it, you got to treat these feelings like another challenge you need to overcome- just like the good grades, the ECs, and the negative people. It is easy to screw up , and I know I've definitely screwed up already a bit, but despite all this talk about perfection on these forums, I think in real life, it's much more apparent that people will screw up, but even if they screw up, there's always more to it. It ain't black and white, and in my opinion, the different shades of grey are what make one an interesting person. So what am I saying? Forget perfection. Don't freak out if you screw up, except if it's really bad. Enjoy your undergaduate time, but remember that you have goals and do that which you need to do in order to reach them.
 
You will make mistakes and you have points where you think you were never make it medical school but use your failures to your advantage! There is no better way to learn than to fail. 😀 (failing your classes is a different issue haha)

"Fail, Fail Again, Fail Better" - Samuel Beckett
 
To take a quote from my favorite hillary duff movie : a Cinderella story

never let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game =)
 
I'm applying in a few months and everyday I feel like there's something I'm not doing, that I'm behind, that I haven't volunteered enough, that I'm going to do bad on my mcat, (insert a thousand different things I feel like I'm doing wrong). Even though I feel like this, I know that I still have worked really hard and have done a lot and that just because I feel like I may fail, doesn't mean I am. I think it's really just the nerves kicking in.
 
I'm a little farther along than you are, and trust me buddy, I am sure everyone feels like this at some point.

From someone who's also a little farther along: the MCAT was the first thing that really made me iffy. Medical school itself, back when we first started, is what really had me saying, "oh hell, what if I just blow it?"

The application cycle can be unnerving because you're spending so much time, money, and effort for the chance of an acceptance, but that's the name of the game. And that's why conventional wisdom is to apply broadly.

But of course, as is typically the case, people with an otherwise decent head on their shoulders don't "blow it" -- they realize what they're doing is senseless, and they get back on their game. I made it, thousands made it before me, and thousands will make it after me. The same is true for you in the premedical sense -- just relax! Get done what you need to get done, accept that you will inevitably make mistakes (which is fine so long as you learn from them), and toe that line between being "productive" and enjoying your time in college.

Now of all times is NOT when you need to be worried about screwing up. 👍
 
I guess you could say that I am at the infancy of my pre-med career and I can't help but notice that I am plagued with fears of failure. I know that in most cases fear is an illogical feeling but I can't help but realize how easy it is to screw up as a pre-med. I guess my question is if anyone else is going through this or has gone through this? Also, for those of you who are further along in your careers, was there ever a point where you realized that you were going to make it and get into medical school?

First off, it's good to differentiate failure as an individual/person from failure to achieve an objective (med school matriculation). One can fail at the latter but be very successful as a person. I think it's VERY important for people in general to appreciate this and more so for premeds. We do invest tremendous time, effort and sacrifice in the quest for med school acceptance and falling short can be a severe blow. However, and for the sake of one's sanity it's critical not to conflate failure to achieve this objective with personal failure, doing so can invites self-doubt, low self esteem, depression etc etc. It's important to bear this is mind bcos only a minority of freshmen premeds actually make it through the prereqs, ECs etc (and if they r still interested in medicine), to successfully apply and matriculate into medicine. So the majority of premeds will have to contend with this "failure" issue and for some it's a blessing in disguise.

Having said this (and I'm sure u meant failure as in med school matriculation but I want to state the above regardless bcos I think it's important), fears of failure to matriculate are common especially when faced with challenges (academic, financial, family etc) that can hamper ur admission chances. It's good to determine if ur fears are specific or generic (failing p chem VS damm the road ahead is very daunting). If it's specific deal with it head on and get help if needed and if it's generic, divide out the things u need to do into manageable chunks and focus on one chunk at a time.

Also it's critical to realize that you don't need a perfect application to get it, if u have shortcomings in certain areas and they are reasonable and u explain them (PS, interviews), they won't hinder ur admissions (all else, equal). The best policy to inform urself on admission requirements, stats etc this way u have a realistic picture of what is takes (on avg) to get in and the distribution of stats for the acceptees.

Finally it's good to air out ur feelings/concerns to friends, family and SDN (i guess), sometimes just talking to people and getting support/reassurances is all what's needed.

Goodluck!!
 
Just go fail at something to get over it.

I suggest a relationship. Failing that one gets so many things out of the way so you can focus on more important things.
 
honestly, i wish to hell i felt the same failure now as i did when i started off my undergrad career. It was so much more fun, there was so much more on the line with each exam. That makes each moment SO MUCH MORE EXHILERATING

near my senior year, it became a complete burden. If I got A's, it wasn't because i had reached some goal, it was because I was supposed to and i just avoided failure. I did what i was supposed to. there was no extrinsic or intrinsic reward for achieving the goals that I wanted. it was ****ing torture.

honestly, cherish these times. You'll never forgetem.
 
I just want to thank everyone that posted. Your replies were very insightful especially for me because I'm just at the beginning and havent made many connections with other pre-meds yet. Thank you.
 
The only time you actually fail is if you don't even try. Otherwise, its just a learning experience. Chin up!
 
This is totally normal. I wasn't 'sure' I was going to med school until I actually got into med school. It's definitely a marathon, but just keep reminding yourself of the end goal and you'll get there 🙂
 
Everyone fears failure. No one is immune, trust me. Everyone's been in your shoes. I believe in you OP. You have great potential like myself.
 
I think that you should always be aware of the possibility of failure whenever setting out on a new venture. If you don't, you become cocky and failure, rather than the idea of it, becomes real.

I was hella scared when I first started college about messing up my chances of getting into med school. It only motivated me to work harder. My work ethic at the beginning of freshman year has been my peak. However, lots of good grades lead to confidence and arrogance and ultimately, poor grades. I recovered and did well and continued on my journey with the very real possibility of failure in my mind.

You're not going to stop being scared about getting into med school until you get into med school. That is pretty much fact. I know people with 35 + Mcats and 3.8 + GPAs, amazing ECs, and the whole nine yards who were scared and applied VERY BROADLY regardless of how qualified everyone told them they were. They felt very fortunate for every acceptance they received.

Now that I'm accepted, I'm afraid of failing out of med school. I think "fear of failure" keeps you motivated to work harder. Just don't let fear control you.

You'll be fine. good luck and I hope that you matriculate somewhere in a few years :luck:
 
every fails at some point. those who refuse to don't let failure defeat them are those who really want to achieve their goals.
 
every fails at some point. those who refuse to don't let failure defeat them are those who really want to achieve their goals.

👍 exactly. I was devastated when I epically failed my first real MCAT and had self-doubt that I could make it to med school. But my mom told me "Medicine is made for humans. It's something anyone can do with determination." So I cracked down on studying for MCAT#2 and a few months later: acceptance. You can do it! 🙂
 
So, what are your greatest strength and weakness? :meanie:
 
You will make mistakes and you have points where you think you were never make it medical school but use your failures to your advantage! There is no better way to learn than to fail. 😀 (failing your classes is a different issue haha)

"Fail, Fail Again, Fail Better" - Samuel Beckett


+1 one too this guy, I'm a huge believer in learning by making mistakes.
 
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