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[osubum]

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I think my biggest frustration in this whole application is interacting with pre’s (dent, med, an even pharm). They inevitably bring up the money aspect. It’s the biggest difference between a pre and a something. I would like to address this by first being cliché as possible; you better not be getting in to this for money because liking your job is a paycheck everyday.

Now I will address the spouse issue; these degrees require years of work to attain and an enormous amount of money. While one has the ability to earn that money back, it will take quite some time to do so. I am looking at 10 years from now, my acceptance to school, until I can bring home positive income. All the while my beautifully caring and understanding significant other is waiting patiently.

I would have to be the biggest ingrate-jerk in the world to think that I am making my partner’s life the leaps and bounds better I keep hearing about. Bread winner-HA! While my partner may not make a lot of money currently, I am about to pull us way into the negative for some time.

I challenge everyone getting into school that has a significant other to remember how much that person is investing in you…all of the lunches made for you to save you time, laundry cleaned so they can spend quality time with you, bills paid because you are broke, maybe even movies they will take you to, or at the least that shoulder to lean on when things are getting a little tough etc.

 

[PChemGrad]

I think my biggest frustration in this whole application is interacting with pre’s (dent, med, an even pharm). They inevitably bring up the money aspect. It’s the biggest difference between a pre and a something. I would like to address this by first being cliché as possible; you better not be getting in to this for money because liking your job is a paycheck everyday.

Now I will address the spouse issue; these degrees require years of work to attain and an enormous amount of money. While one has the ability to earn that money back, it will take quite some time to do so. I am looking at 10 years from now, my acceptance to school, until I can bring home positive income. All the while my beautifully caring and understanding significant other is waiting patiently.

I would have to be the biggest ingrate-jerk in the world to think that I am making my partner’s life the leaps and bounds better I keep hearing about. Bread winner-HA! While my partner may not make a lot of money currently, I am about to pull us way into the negative for some time.

I challenge everyone getting into school that has a significant other to remember how much that person is investing in you…all of the lunches made for you to save you time, laundry cleaned so they can spend quality time with you, bills paid because you are broke, maybe even movies they will take you to, or at the least that shoulder to lean on when things are getting a little tough etc.

I currently dont get along with my g/f so I am going to Dental school to get away from her. besides i wanted to go to dental school before I meet her, but this is just a perk.

 

[LauraT]

I currently dont get along with my g/f so I am going to Dental school to get away from her. besides i wanted to go to dental school before I meet her, but this is just a perk.

ha ha ha

 

[CSI Dentist]

relationships are crap.. especially the ones that drag u down. If he/she is not supportive of what u want to do, then don't drag it out and try to wait to see if things will work themselves out. No they won't. U will find someone in dental school who knows exactly what you are all about, and what you are going through.

 

[ladybug123]

"I challenge everyone getting into school that has a significant other to remember how much that person is investing in you…all of the lunches made for you to save you time, laundry cleaned so they can spend quality time with you, bills paid because you are broke, maybe even movies they will take you to, or at the least that shoulder to lean on when things are getting a little tough etc."

I agree with you osubum. I can't imagine what the next 4+ years of my life would be like if I didn't have my significant other to rely on. No doubt we will be going through some financial hardships in the beginning. Luckily, he will be my source of sanity through all the challenging times and be a constant reminder of what I am working so hard to achieve- not only a rewarding and successful career, but a happy family and homelife for our future.

 

[WSDriller]

Let me pose this question to those who have a sig. other. What choice would you make between choosing your #1 school with a lesser support system for your spouse, or choosing your #2 school where your spouse will be around friends and family for help (in my case, I have 2 kids)?

 

[Ex_EE]

Let me pose this question to those who have a sig. other. What choice would you make between choosing your #1 school with a lesser support system for your spouse, or choosing your #2 school where your spouse will be around friends and family for help (in my case, I have 2 kids)?

I have 2 kids and I only applied to the school that would allow my wife to have the support of our families.

 

[dentalman]

ONLY your #2 choice? As long as it is not your #10 choice, you will probably be happier if you wife has her network of friends and family for four years. (Because she will be happier.) But you should talk to her about it.

 

[WSDriller]

All good advice. Thanks!

 

[Blando]

military scholarship! 😀 school's free and you get money each month 😀

 

[I'mFillingFine]

…all of the lunches made for you to save you time, laundry cleaned so they can spend quality time with you, bills paid because you are broke, maybe even movies they will take you to, or at the least that shoulder to lean on when things are getting a little tough etc.

This is absolutely true, and I hope that no one takes a significant other's support for granted (or assumes that the money earned in 10 years will make up for a crappy 10 years waiting for it.)

HOWEVER, what about the support that YOU can give back?? I'm in dental school right now, and the way I make sure I don't lose appreciation is by being an equal partner back...if you can't find time for that, you're either not doing something right as a dental student or are not invested in the relationship.

I cook dinner every night (he does the dishes), we bring each other out on dates and choose the movies together...I don't study 2 or 3 days out of the week and we hang out...I visited him at his new job.

I totally agree with what you're saying, but dental school should NOT be the partner taking care of the dental student in the hope that the dentist can take care of the spouse. The whole process should be both leaning against each other.

We are also able to do this because I'm not relying entirely on him for funds...I took out my own loans for a lot of my expenses. He's the main supporter for daily expenses, but the tuition is all in my name.