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Now that I am done with my own frantic search for a spot in the post-match chaos, I just wanted to take a few minutes to try to offer some encouragement to everyone out there who went unmatched or matched at a choice they're not happy with.
For one thing, no matter what happens with residency, keep in mind that we're all still going to be doctors! Becoming a doctor is a goal that many people dream about and never obtain. It's something to be proud of all by itself. Don't let the stress of this process diminish how far you've already come.
If I could go back in time and tell my younger self, "In the future, you WILL get to be a doctor. The bad news is that you won't get to train at your preferred program" I know that my younger self would not have cared one bit. My pre-med self would have jumped for joy just knowing that I would indeed get to be a doctor and "help people". After all, whether you end up in a prestigious residency or the residency of last resort, you are still getting the chance to make a difference in people's lives. There are a lot of jobs out there where people don't get the opportunities we in the medical field take for granted. It is important not to lose perspective.
I also think it's good to remember that sometimes what we think we want isn't always what's best for us in the long run. What we see of a program on interview day isn't necessarily enough to know for sure how we'd like being there for years on end. You could very possibly have gotten your #1 choice only to end up hating being a resident there. People do switch residencies quite often, after all.
Sometimes a change of plans turns out to be for the best and leads to unexpected good things later on down the road. At first I was devastated about not matching, but now I am at a program that I am very excited about that offers training that I think will suit me very well. It all works out somehow!
I hope we all wind up in the places that end up making us happiest, one way or another!
For one thing, no matter what happens with residency, keep in mind that we're all still going to be doctors! Becoming a doctor is a goal that many people dream about and never obtain. It's something to be proud of all by itself. Don't let the stress of this process diminish how far you've already come.
If I could go back in time and tell my younger self, "In the future, you WILL get to be a doctor. The bad news is that you won't get to train at your preferred program" I know that my younger self would not have cared one bit. My pre-med self would have jumped for joy just knowing that I would indeed get to be a doctor and "help people". After all, whether you end up in a prestigious residency or the residency of last resort, you are still getting the chance to make a difference in people's lives. There are a lot of jobs out there where people don't get the opportunities we in the medical field take for granted. It is important not to lose perspective.
I also think it's good to remember that sometimes what we think we want isn't always what's best for us in the long run. What we see of a program on interview day isn't necessarily enough to know for sure how we'd like being there for years on end. You could very possibly have gotten your #1 choice only to end up hating being a resident there. People do switch residencies quite often, after all.
Sometimes a change of plans turns out to be for the best and leads to unexpected good things later on down the road. At first I was devastated about not matching, but now I am at a program that I am very excited about that offers training that I think will suit me very well. It all works out somehow!
I hope we all wind up in the places that end up making us happiest, one way or another!
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