Getting your act together post match

[Hard24Get]

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Anyone have tips for moving, coordinating job transfers with the spouse, etc for students married to normal people after the match?

My hubby and I have been talking it over but since he won't know until March where I'm going, he may not be able to put in/obtain a transfer or new job by then. In fact, the more I think about it, the more it feels like a logistical nightmare. Thoughts? Ideas? Personal stories?



P.S. I'm lovin' the new "search for similar threads" feature but nothing came up for me, even after trying several different titles

 

[gutonc]

Anyone have tips for moving, coordinating job transfers with the spouse, etc for students married to normal people after the match?

This was the hardest part of the post-Match process for my wife and I. There are lots of threads out there on the physical moving process itself (which I'm too lazy to look up right now). The most important thing is that moving, no matter how far you go and how you and your belongings get there, will be way more expensive than you think it will be.

My hubby and I have been talking it over but since he won't know until March where I'm going, he may not be able to put in/obtain a transfer or new job by then. In fact, the more I think about it, the more it feels like a logistical nightmare. Thoughts? Ideas? Personal stories?

As far as getting a new job, this will all depend on what you spouse does now and what the business climate is where you end up. For the most part, this shouldn't be a huge problem but my wife and one of my intern classmate's husband had significant issues with this (they both work in non-profit development of which there was a lot less than in NYC and LA). If your spouse works in more mainstream business and you're going to a city of any size, hopefully there will be work. Be prepared for there not to be though, have some savings set aside or perhaps a residency relocation loan. Then, if your spouse doesn't have a job lined up when you get where you're going, give 'em a kick in the shorts before they get too excited about sleeping in and exploring your new city. My wife was out of work for 7 months which put a big crimp in our financial well-being...try to avoid that if you can.

 

[Hard24Get]

Right, the physical stuff is a known (though expensive) quantity, it is the coordinating with my spouse that makes me feel there isn't a lot of time. He is an engineer with a good job and quitting that job without another lined up is not a possibility. Since he has recently switched departments, he may have to stay where we are now for a few mos before leaving, as well. I'm just not sure we have money to maintain two households and coordinate two moves. What did you do to save money/get by? And when do you usually get your first residency check? thanks!

This was the hardest part of the post-Match process for my wife and I. There are lots of threads out there on the physical moving process itself (which I'm too lazy to look up right now). The most important thing is that moving, no matter how far you go and how you and your belongings get there, will be way more expensive than you think it will be.



As far as getting a new job, this will all depend on what you spouse does now and what the business climate is where you end up. For the most part, this shouldn't be a huge problem but my wife and one of my intern classmate's husband had significant issues with this (they both work in non-profit development of which there was a lot less than in NYC and LA). If your spouse works in more mainstream business and you're going to a city of any size, hopefully there will be work. Be prepared for there not to be though, have some savings set aside or perhaps a residency relocation loan. Then, if your spouse doesn't have a job lined up when you get where you're going, give 'em a kick in the shorts before they get too excited about sleeping in and exploring your new city. My wife was out of work for 7 months which put a big crimp in our financial well-being...try to avoid that if you can.

 

[Winged Scapula]

In regard to when you get your first residency check, it depends on whether you are paid every two weeks or once a month.

If its the former, you can expect to get your first check around the 15th of the month; since you will have only worked 1 week by the end of the pay period (usually the Friday before payday), your first check is generally a little "short" of a full pay period. If your program pays you for orientation, it may or may not appear on your first check.

If you are only paid once a month, you won't be paid until you have worked about 3 weeks.

As you can see, it depends on the program but I'd venture most do the first scenario.

 

[JulianCrane]

I've been a student for years and need some guidance. How do you garner the money to pay for housing and living incidentals when starting as a residents since I haven't been able to work? More loans???

 

[165808]

On a similar note, my husband and I are trying to feel out our moving possibilities....we know we're going from Chicago to California, but I'd love to know some people's stories or ideas about the best way to get our stuff from point A to point B. We may have to camp out at our parents' houses for a couple weeks until our new apartment lease starts, so getting a moving truck isn't ideal for us since we'd have to park it outside our house for a couple weeks, and we're not too excited about moving all of our stuff into and back out of a storage facility either. What we're thinking is those pod thingies where you pack yourself into as many pods as you need, they ship it and store it for as long as you need (for a cost, of course).

Does anyone know of any good pod companies because I'm not sure where to start?? Or any moving ideas, tips, or tricks in general for someone like me?

Thanks, and Happy New Year!!

 

[Winged Scapula]

I've been a student for years and need some guidance. How do you garner the money to pay for housing and living incidentals when starting as a residents since I haven't been able to work? More loans???

Loans, money from family usually.

 

[sikegeek]

On a similar note, my husband and I are trying to feel out our moving possibilities....we know we're going from Chicago to California, but I'd love to know some people's stories or ideas about the best way to get our stuff from point A to point B. We may have to camp out at our parents' houses for a couple weeks until our new apartment lease starts, so getting a moving truck isn't ideal for us since we'd have to park it outside our house for a couple weeks, and we're not too excited about moving all of our stuff into and back out of a storage facility either. What we're thinking is those pod thingies where you pack yourself into as many pods as you need, they ship it and store it for as long as you need (for a cost, of course).

Does anyone know of any good pod companies because I'm not sure where to start?? Or any moving ideas, tips, or tricks in general for someone like me?

Thanks, and Happy New Year!!

I had those pods priced out once and they were extremely, extremely expensive. I think I was told they use UPS to move them. A pod for a small household would have cost us 5000 or something ridiculous. A full service move was less than 2000.

 

[Pir8DeacDoc]

you should really consider how much of your stuff is worth moving. When I moved from NC to NH I had some nice furniture that I ended up giving to my younger brother. The cost of getting it here wasn't really worth what it would have cost me. I was able to move all my stuff with a Durango and a large U-Haul trailer behind it along with my own car with some stuff in it. Really weight the cost of downsizing and reacquiring when you get to your new location.

 

[madtowngirl]

My boyfriend and I got rid of everything not worth moving across the country (which was a lot) and took an SUV plus UHaul trailer. Ended up being very cheap. Gas was by far the most costly, and it was still less than 1K total. If you don't have a place set up right away, getting a moving service to ship your things is probably the way to go. You can pack them and have them ready to pick up, and the movers will take them to your new location. Its pricey but it beats Pods in terms of price.

My boyfriend found a job (he's in IT) quite easily, but I had a couple of co-interns whose spouses stayed back at home until they had a job lined up in the new city. Both of their spouses, who were interns, stayed with other residents cheaply until they moved to avoid paying for two residences.

Oh, and I took out extra student loans to cover my moving costs and to ensure that I had 2 months of living expenses in savings before I moved, in case I didn't get paid until late July.

 

[gutonc]

I did a little searching and found 3 threads from last year about moving recommendations and experiences. Here they are:

http://forums.studentdoctor.net/showthread.php?t=366871
http://forums.studentdoctor.net/showthread.php?t=317229
http://forums.studentdoctor.net/showthread.php?t=273294

Also, I added a post to the classic threads sticky at the top of Gen Res w/ this info in case this thread gets buried again.

How awesome am I?

 

[Hard24Get]

How awesome am I?

EXTREMELY! 😀

But these threads don't seem to have the little spouse coordination things like madtowngirl gave out. I dunno, maybe I just wanna commiserate with someone about how rough it all is! 😛

 

[MeowMix]

I don't have any helpful ideas, but I feel your pain. I also have a partner who's an engineer with a great job in a highly specialized field. There is no residency program in the city he lives in, though there are lots of choices for me within a 45-min to 1.5-hr drive. He is absolutely unwilling to move and commute, let alone look for a job in another city. This means that I am stuck being the one to commute. You can imagine how pleasant this is to try to resolve.