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Yeah I am with you, it's a little below the belt and I would hate for it to happen to anyone. But I don't see how it's unethical. Most of communication is nonverbal, which is why you should listen to more than the words being said. "Letter of recommendation" is used more often than w/"Letter of evaluation" but they are supposed to be synonymous. Maybe a professor can comment
It is lying if they say yes to a "strong" letter request and write a bad letter. There isn't too much gray area there. I know what you're saying though and your argument is logical.
I also agree with the body language part, the only person who's body language I couldn't read was my PI's, but he has told me in the past that he won't write LOR's if he can't write good ones, so that alleviated my concern. Body language is the only thing I look for. I'm pretty certain that I don't even hear their initial response because I'm so intent on the body language being portrayed.
Solid advice.
