I don't know you so I can't say for certain, but to me this post reeks of someone who was handed an advantageous hand in life. I'll bet if you look at those top ten schools, the backgrounds of a lot of those students are from wealthy and educated families. Of course there are exceptions. I come from a poor family with almost no higher education and no physicians or connections to medicine. I had to figure a lot out on my own, didn't even know to study for the SAT in high school, worked full time through college, received zero quality advising in early college, and yet I figured out how to finally be a strong student and got a good app together. It was fairly late in the game by that point and most medical schools were incapable of looking past my early college performance, and the context from which it was derived, to see my current level of academic performance. I took a DO acceptance, which was honestly more than I deserved given my record, and now I am at the top of my class and on track for a very high board score, have research done, lots of extracurriculars, honor society etc. Do you think it's fair that when we get to the great equalizer that is medical school and the boards, that past performance (prior to medical school) should ALWAYS matter? I think there should be more consideration of the hurdles that others have had to overcome. You wouldn't truly understand unless you come from where I do.
Self-pity is never a good look and you couldn't be more wrong about me, but none of that really matters.
The first lesson is that life isn't fair, and expecting life to be fair will only lead to frustration and anger. We can already see many instances of this attitude in this thread. Would strongly recommend dropping this attitude ASAP and instead use your frustration to propel yourself forward.
And let me ask you a question in return: given the fact that medical school and residency seats are a limited resource, do you think it is right to give that top spot to yourself and your hurdles versus someone who had it together during your struggles? Are you going to hold it against a candidate that they are from a well-off family of physicians and have connections?
You are essentially weighing your struggles versus another candidates past performance.
Problem is, past performance can be objectively measured whereas your struggles are very subjective. Your struggles are likely to be interpreted (for right or wrong) as less of a barrier than they seem to you.
Second life lesson: Everyone's personal trials and tribulations seem more momentous and important compared to ourselves than others. We as humans are selfish at baseline and anything that impacts us directly is magnified in importance.
And for all the complaining, keep in mind that medicine is as good as it gets. While not perfect, the medical school/residency system is far more generous than almost any other field in terms of holistic measures. Look at any private business/finance/engineering/politics etc...
This is coming from someone who has survived the gauntlet and has seen the inner workings of medical school and residency program applications at one of the "prestigious" institutions everyone in this thread is salivating over.
I appreciate your legitimate response rather than lashing out. Past performance always matters and is very important, but it's not everything. As we have seen in this thread even DO students make it to the top if everything aligns.