My husband and I are trying to figure out if it is feasible to have a child during residency. Would other residents mind sharing their opinions or experience?
My husband and I are trying to figure out if it is feasible to have a child during residency. Would other residents mind sharing their opinions or experience?
I think having ababy during residency is VERY challenging. You have to compromise one of the two jobs. And you if you are kind of a person not able to compromise your baby, your mum duty you may end up in some trouble as I did.
I am doing fine now, but I had more than a year leave and when I got back I had some challenge and I had extension of residency... I am fine now and I am happy that I put as much time as I could for my baby as that time will never come back but it's impossible to fulfill the residency duty...
Hope you do well anyway...
Thank you very much for sharing your experience. I am trying to balance the desire to have a family with that of my education/profession. I am starting to realize that you only live once, and family will undoubtedly come first. If I have to take a year off, so be it.
What I found impossible was leave my daughter ( and imagine still I was with her until age of 16m ) early morning and come back late afternoon and send her to bed 1-2 hours after. I couldn't handle that! So what I did was asking the sitter to send her to bed for a second nap a bit late in afternoon ( ~4ish) so when I was back from hospital, she was fresh and ready to play with me! I however got quite exhausted as I didn't send her to bed earlier than 9:30pm! Just because I really wanted to be with her and see her growth...
You can imagine this is not compatible with waking up early in the morning and studing and other duties... If I hadn't had her during my residency I would have finished 2 years earlier... I am not unhappy at all, but my point is I could do it differently too...
I think when you are staff it should be easier as at leats you don't need to do call or study as much...
All the best.
That is at least 5 years away for me. I am definitely not willing to wait that long. Is there a time in residency when it would be better? i.e. second year, etc.
hmm hard to say... I did it in the worst time I guess... In the middle and being away for a long time + some baby brain, I forgot almost everything I had learned from Rad Onc and I had to re-do it!
It all also depends on what kind of support do you have? Your parents? Who is going to take care of baby? How long you plan tp stay away with your baby?
If you really don't want to wait, maybe sooner rather than later. As your child grow up and gradually ( after 3-4 ) it starts to become easier... At least for your exam you have some smoother time...
If you can wait maybe last year being pregnant and have the baby after?!
All the best. It is the best thing being a mother... I know you can't wait