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Hello everyone,
So I have a lot of things going on in my life right now and it's driving me a bit crazy, so I'd greatly appreciate everyone's advice on what I should do:
I currently live in Chicago with my boyfriend who is a 1st year medical student here. We have discussed getting married for about a year now and he actually just bought a ring today so I assume the proposal will come anytime now! This semester I started taking a few public health classes and applied/was accepted to the school of public health here in Chicago (I didn't know if I'd get into vet school this year). Well, I was accepted to several vet schools and have accepted a spot at CSU. Medical students can transfer after their 2nd year, but the only med school is Univ. of Denver which is extremely good, thus there is a very slim chance that my soon to be fiance/husband will not get in, and then we will be in a 3 year long distance relationship (chicago to ~denver).
I love my SO very much and I have no regrets at all marrying him, but now that marriage is a certainty, I am getting scared about leaving just as we get engaged. I know it will be extremely difficult and hard on the relationship to undergo this long distance for at least 1 if not 3 more years. The other option is to finish off a degree in public health to "buy" us a year, but more importantly so that next year when I would apply, he could be applying for a transfer at the same time so that we could decide where to go based on where we both get into school. This way, there would be no uncertainty, and we could essentially avoid any long distance.
I did pretty well in the application process, so I am fairly confident that I would be able to get into a few schools next year, but I do not want to make a careless decision. Both the relationship and vet school are very important to me, I am just having difficulty deciding which to give priority to right now. It could even be that I wait a year, apply again, and he doesn't get into any med school near the vet schools I do. I think sacrifices are important in relationships, but I also know that you cannot sacrifice too much because then you will have regrets (esp if it is a temporary situation). I just really want to give this relationship/marriage the best chance possible, while not messing up my life plans and goals. If I go to CSU, we could fly to see each other every month (alternating), and he could do some clerkships at hospitals for a couple of months 3rd and 4th year at least in Denver for sure. And then there is always the chance he could get into Denver and it'd only be 1 year long distance (I know there would be 1 hr commuting too b/w Denver and Ft Collins, but I'm not worried about that).
Ok now that I'm starting to repeat myself, please help me! I'm desperate for some good SDNer advice! (PS sorry for this being I'm sure unnecessarily long winded..)
So I have a lot of things going on in my life right now and it's driving me a bit crazy, so I'd greatly appreciate everyone's advice on what I should do:
I currently live in Chicago with my boyfriend who is a 1st year medical student here. We have discussed getting married for about a year now and he actually just bought a ring today so I assume the proposal will come anytime now! This semester I started taking a few public health classes and applied/was accepted to the school of public health here in Chicago (I didn't know if I'd get into vet school this year). Well, I was accepted to several vet schools and have accepted a spot at CSU. Medical students can transfer after their 2nd year, but the only med school is Univ. of Denver which is extremely good, thus there is a very slim chance that my soon to be fiance/husband will not get in, and then we will be in a 3 year long distance relationship (chicago to ~denver).
I love my SO very much and I have no regrets at all marrying him, but now that marriage is a certainty, I am getting scared about leaving just as we get engaged. I know it will be extremely difficult and hard on the relationship to undergo this long distance for at least 1 if not 3 more years. The other option is to finish off a degree in public health to "buy" us a year, but more importantly so that next year when I would apply, he could be applying for a transfer at the same time so that we could decide where to go based on where we both get into school. This way, there would be no uncertainty, and we could essentially avoid any long distance.
I did pretty well in the application process, so I am fairly confident that I would be able to get into a few schools next year, but I do not want to make a careless decision. Both the relationship and vet school are very important to me, I am just having difficulty deciding which to give priority to right now. It could even be that I wait a year, apply again, and he doesn't get into any med school near the vet schools I do. I think sacrifices are important in relationships, but I also know that you cannot sacrifice too much because then you will have regrets (esp if it is a temporary situation). I just really want to give this relationship/marriage the best chance possible, while not messing up my life plans and goals. If I go to CSU, we could fly to see each other every month (alternating), and he could do some clerkships at hospitals for a couple of months 3rd and 4th year at least in Denver for sure. And then there is always the chance he could get into Denver and it'd only be 1 year long distance (I know there would be 1 hr commuting too b/w Denver and Ft Collins, but I'm not worried about that).
Ok now that I'm starting to repeat myself, please help me! I'm desperate for some good SDNer advice! (PS sorry for this being I'm sure unnecessarily long winded..)