As a Program Director, I can only say that I am horrified that any program would behave in such a manner. Obviously, programs change over time and a statement made prior to match (i.e. "Drug reps supply lunch every day to noon conference") might become void due to a change in policy (i.e. the institution bans all drug reps). The examples you give, however, are unacceptable -- if a program states that they have paid time off for meetings, interviews, books, etc, then they should be held to that standard. Personally, I think that these types of things should be applied to all residents in the program or none, to avoid the appearance of favoritism, but that is clearly an arguable point both ways.
What can you do about this? Honestly, not much. Some ideas:
1. You can discuss this with your PD, and hopefully get them to agree to honor it. You should also check your contract, and GME's policies -- perhaps you can find something in writing to help. Sounds like you've done this already, but it's clearly the first place to start.
2. You can talk to the GME director (also called the "DIO") informally. This is the person who is the director of all the program directors. In a big institution, they have a significant amount of influence and can be your advocate. Hopefully they can do so in a quiet, behind the scenes way.
3. You can file a grievance with the GME office. All programs are required to have a grievance process to address conflicts, usually around the termination or non-promotion of a resident. The actual process is variable, but it should be in your housestaff manual.
4. Failing the above, you can report it to the
ACGME. It's deceptive and unethical behavior. Sadly, it doesn't violate any of the 40+ pages of rules programs have to follow, so I don't know that the ACGME can do anything about it.
Anything beyond #2 is certain to cause fricition between you and your PD, and you'll have to decide how important this is to pursue.
There are always two sides to every story, and I'm sure the person who promised this remembers things differently. Assuming your retelling of the situation is accurate, I am truly disappointed by my colleague, and you have my support. I would hope that the "Theives" are a small minority in the universe of program directors.