How much does looks matter at your school?

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Srs thread is srs.

I ask this because a preceptorship I had ended. Me and my classmate both sent the attending physician a thank you email. I literally received a one word "okay" while my classmate who definitely fumbled and stumbled more, received a paragraph long email thanking HER for her attendance and offering her help and advice with anything she wants in the future.

I mean even I asked her out when we partnered up, so this doesnt seem like a coincidence. Have y'all ever noticed the same?

 

[Jabbed]

This is real life.

 

[FFH]

So in a MCAT class that I attended which was taught by a guy who also did application consultation, someone raised a question about what kind of photo they should use when the school asks for one before interview.
"Glamor shot".
"Seriously?"
"Seriously!"

People have a harder time to say no to attractive, tall people. Human nature that's all. There could be many reason for your (presumably male) attending to treat you differentially in his reply though.

 

[Snivellus]

It doesn't have to be looks. He could've just liked the other student more.

 

[Kelevra]

It doesn't have to be looks. He could've just liked the other student more.

That's true! She could have been way better in bed than OP.

But, while looks aren't left out, there are many things that come into play, especially behavior. In fact, even your behavior may have turned negative simply because of her looks (ie asking her out, acting unlike yourself, etc) and you may not even have realized it. Unfortunately, they do matter, and they do affect behavior, often significantly.

 

[harvestor]

Not just at school. At work, on the street, in the military, everywhere.

 

[nap$ter]

Srs thread is srs.

I ask this because a preceptorship I had ended. Me and my classmate both sent the attending physician a thank you email. I literally received a one word "okay" while my classmate who definitely fumbled and stumbled more, received a paragraph long email thanking HER for her attendance and offering her help and advice with anything she wants in the future.

I mean even I asked her out when we partnered up, so this doesnt seem like a coincidence. Have y'all ever noticed the same?

were grammar and punctuation any part of your grade?

j/k, this is real life.

 

[FFH]

or maybe your attending wanted to ask the girl out...but you are in the way...😛

 

[colbgw02]

36.73%

As long as we're being serious.

 

[Kaustikos]

Srs thread is srs.

I ask this because a preceptorship I had ended. Me and my classmate both sent the attending physician a thank you email. I literally received a one word "okay" while my classmate who definitely fumbled and stumbled more, received a paragraph long email thanking HER for her attendance and offering her help and advice with anything she wants in the future.

I mean even I asked her out when we partnered up, so this doesnt seem like a coincidence. Have y'all ever noticed the same?

Pics or it didn't happen. To the bolded and to your classmate. Since this is a serious thread and we obviously need to start collecting data sets/patient population in order to accurately get the best answer and we all know the higher the population, the better the accuracy! And this assessment is completely objective.

 

[JimmyB123]

So jealous of pretty people. They get everything

 

[drjay16]

..

 

[ERK123]

Maybe she just wrote a much better thank you note than you did.

 

[Psai]

Sounds like you mad at getting rejected

 

[Mad Jack]

I've had one unsuccessful interview in my entire life and I'm average as ****. Never had trouble in school or at work. It's certainly easier if you are attractive, but you won't get held back by a lack of good looks if you know how to talk to people.

 

[AnonymousD.O.]

Maybe you complined about something trivial (kinda like you are now) and the preceptor annoyed

 

[deleted500612]

While looks do certainly tend to factor into our subconscious (or conscious) impression and treatment of someone, it could have also been other factors like your personality that simply didn't jive with him.

 

[Eokpar02]

Srs thread is srs.

I ask this because a preceptorship I had ended. Me and my classmate both sent the attending physician a thank you email. I literally received a one word "okay" while my classmate who definitely fumbled and stumbled more, received a paragraph long email thanking HER for her attendance and offering her help and advice with anything she wants in the future.

I mean even I asked her out when we partnered up, so this doesnt seem like a coincidence. Have y'all ever noticed the same?

Never underestimate the value of attractiveness ESPECIALLY for women. Men just can't help themselves. Everyday you will hear about some powerful man (think Eliot Spitzer) who destroys the life for some crummy woman. I was in the corporate world before medical school and I saw men fold themselves into pretzels just so they can work on a project with a woman they knew to be married.

 

[TheShowGoesOn]

I thought everybody knew the ol' saying "looks matter". It's true, just a reality of life.

 

[Kaustikos]

Never underestimate the value of attractiveness ESPECIALLY for women. Men just can't help themselves. Everyday you will hear about some powerful man (think Eliot Spitzer) who destroys the life for some crummy woman. I was in the corporate world before medical school and I saw men fold themselves into pretzels just so they can work on a project with a woman they knew to be married.

How is that relevant?

 

[Redpancreas]

Srs thread is srs.

I ask this because a preceptorship I had ended. Me and my classmate both sent the attending physician a thank you email. I literally received a one word "okay" while my classmate who definitely fumbled and stumbled more, received a paragraph long email thanking HER for her attendance and offering her help and advice with anything she wants in the future.

I mean even I asked her out when we partnered up, so this doesnt seem like a coincidence. Have y'all ever noticed the same?

Other than poking fun at this preceptor all in good fun to vent (understandable, I'd be furious too even though preceptor impressions hardly matter...so you have my sympathy), asking this question serves no purpose but to simply question yourself and lose confidence. The reason could have been anything from her sleeping with him 20 times a day to him mixing up your names when sending the email.

MadJack's post's got the right idea in terms of the attitude you should have towards this.

 

[Wordead]

I'll be grading hot chicks on an easier scale, sorry bro.

On the other hand, I'll be sending the guys home early and keeping the girls around, so ya know it evens out.

 

[slopes23]

Maybe your perception that she stumbled more than you did is unfounded. It's possible that you automatically thought she was less apt than you since she was apparently so pretty. In reality however, the preceptor could have seen things you didn't, and you may be blind to your own weaknesses.

The other option is that she gave him a good hummer and it was game set and match after that.

 

[giantswing]

I'll be grading hot chicks on an easier scale, sorry bro.

On the other hand, I'll be sending the guys home early and keeping the girls around, so ya know it evens out.

This will make them hate you.

 

[Wordead]

This will make them hate you.

Haven't you heard of stockholm syndrome?

 

[JP2740]

I am really starting to dislike the new generation of sdners

 

[Cyberdyne 101]

I've had one unsuccessful interview in my entire life and I'm average as ****. Never had trouble in school or at work. It's certainly easier if you are attractive, but you won't get held back by a lack of good looks if you know how to talk to people.

I disagree. You're definitely above average.

 

[touchpause13]

I disagree. You're definitely above average.

Srsly.
You're at least underestimating the respect that a beard of your caliber commands

 

[charmiedermie]

Srs thread is srs.

I ask this because a preceptorship I had ended. Me and my classmate both sent the attending physician a thank you email. I literally received a one word "okay" while my classmate who definitely fumbled and stumbled more, received a paragraph long email thanking HER for her attendance and offering her help and advice with anything she wants in the future.

I mean even I asked her out when we partnered up, so this doesnt seem like a coincidence. Have y'all ever noticed the same?

Looks matter, but not as much as you think it matters. The End. Brush your teeth, brush your hair, keep your skin clean and clear, and your face shaved, and a nice Axe body spray that isn't too strong on the nostrils.

Never underestimate the value of attractiveness ESPECIALLY for women. Men just can't help themselves. Everyday you will hear about some powerful man (think Eliot Spitzer) who destroys the life for some crummy woman. I was in the corporate world before medical school and I saw men fold themselves into pretzels just so they can work on a project with a woman they knew to be married.

You're like a Wolf on Wall Street character, but not as cute. And she wasn't entrapping him - Eliot Spitzer was the one who willingly patronized an escort service.

 

[wiggitywack12]

Looks matter, but not as much as you think it matters. The End. Brush your teeth, brush your hair, keep your skin clean and clear, and your face shaved, and a nice Axe body spray that isn't too strong on the nostrils..

I'll second this. I think when most people say "looks matter", what they really mean is presentation matters. Few people can't improve their look with a good grooming and fitness routine (and a lil' surgical help if you bout it bout it).

At my school a lot of people are really good looking to me but all of them are at a healthy BMI, in reasonable shape and wear clothes and hair cuts that compliment them.

 

[wiggitywack12]

There is no such thing as a nice axe body spray

Yea axe smells like body odor to me. Even worse after a few hours of wear when it gets stale. Fellas if you're gonna wear cologne don't get one from the grocery store.

 

[touchpause13]

I'll second this. I think when most people say "looks matter", what they really mean is presentation matters. Few people can't improve their look with a good grooming and fitness routine (and a lil' surgical help if you bout it bout it).

At my school a lot of people are really good looking to me but all of them are at a healthy BMI, in reasonable shape and wear clothes and hair cuts that compliment them.

I think not looking like a slob is a lot more important than whether or not you could be a model on the side. 👍

 

[Eokpar02]

You're like a Wolf on Wall Street character, but not as cute. And she wasn't entrapping him - Eliot Spitzer was the one who willingly patronized an escort service.

Ms. Lack of Reading comprehension strikes again! I never said he was entrapped. I said he threw his life away for a crummy woman.

 

[charmiedermie]

Ms. Lack of Reading comprehension strikes again! I never said he was entrapped. I said he threw his life away for a crummy woman.

And what I am trying to tell you is that she wasn't a crummy woman. Not by a long shot.

 

[charmiedermie]

There is no such thing as a nice axe body spray

What about the Axe shower gels? I'm sure some guys sweat right through them though.

 

[wiggitywack12]

I think not looking like a slob is a lot more important than whether or not you could be a model on the side. 👍

I hate to harp on this and derail but there are so many people who think attractiveness is this thing that's just bestowed on you at birth or its not, when for the great majority of people I believe that its definitely not the case. I haven't met a single attractive person who wasn't putting some type of effort into themselves. So many people just rule themselves out when they don't necessarily need to. If you want to look good, you definitely can or at least you can make a giant improvement from where you were before, lol, but maybe I'm just too easy to please in the looks department.

Its kind of like selling a home. If the owners put all the nice updates in the home (quartz countertops, stainless steel appliances, stone backsplashes, etc.) and stage the home correctly they often can increase asking price thousands over what they spent for the renovations.

 

[Jabbed]

And what I am trying to tell you is that she wasn't a crummy woman. Not by a long shot.

All those prostitutes with hearts of gold who were just trying to pay their way through law school...

 

[touchpause13]

All those prostitutes with hearts of gold who were just trying to pay their way through law school...

So you think just because someone is a sex worker they are a crummy person? Okay then.

 

[charmiedermie]

All those prostitutes with hearts of gold who were just trying to pay their way through law school...

Not all prostitutes/escorts have hearts of gold and not all are crummy people. The same way all physicians don't have hearts of gold and not all physicians are crummy people. They are people just like you and I.

Most women don't willingly choose to go into that line of work if they have other viable options.

 

[Eokpar02]

And what I am trying to tell you is that she wasn't a crummy woman. Not by a long shot.

While I am not judgmental of what people do as long as they are not harming others... allowing a man to insert his phallus into your vagina for some Benjamins? That is my definition of a crummy woman.

 

[touchpause13]

While I am not judgmental of what people do as long as they are not harming others... allowing a man to insert his phallus into your vagina for some Benjamins? That is my definition of a crummy woman.

That's pretty much the definition of judgemental

 

[giantswing]

While I am not judgmental of what people do as long as they are not harming others... allowing a man to insert his phallus into your vagina for some Benjamins? That is my definition of a crummy woman.

Same could be said for men stupid or desparate enough to pay for sex.

 

[touchpause13]

Same could be said for men stupid or desparate enough to pay for sex.

I don't really care either way. It's their life. But I find it interesting that the blame always tends to land on the woman

 

[Jabbed]

Oh SDN.. you amuse me so.

 

[Eokpar02]

Same could be said for men stupid or desparate enough to pay for sex.

I won't judge either in a voluntary transaction between consenting parties. As long as you aren't hurting anyone your actions are devoid of my umbrage.

That's pretty much the definition of judgemental

Indeed.

 

[touchpause13]

I won't judge either in a voluntary transaction between consenting parties. As long as you aren't hurting anyone your actions are devoid of my umbrage.


Indeed.

Don't say I'm not gonna judge then judge. Come on now, own your ****

 

[charmiedermie]

While I am not judgmental of what people do as long as they are not harming others... allowing a man to insert his phallus into your vagina for some Benjamins? That is my definition of a crummy woman.

You say you are not judgemental of what people do, yet in the same sentence you label the woman "crummy". That is a judgement. Yet, you don't call the man soliciting prostitution "crummy". Interesting.

I don't like prostitution because it exploits and can endanger the safety of women, but I can understand why women in that situation would do so to put food on the table, since minimum wage jobs pay ridiculously low.

 

[touchpause13]

Also at least in my area there are a lot of women who are trafficked and forced into it. Just something that people tend to forget happens in this country

 

[sinombre]

I've had one unsuccessful interview in my entire life and I'm average as ****. Never had trouble in school or at work. It's certainly easier if you are attractive, but you won't get held back by a lack of good looks if you know how to talk to people.

There is nothing average about that beard my friend.

 

[giantswing]

You say you are not judgemental of what people do, yet in the same sentence you label the woman "crummy". That is a judgement. Yet, you don't call the man soliciting prostitution "crummy". Interesting.

I don't like prostitution because it exploits and can endanger the safety of women, but I can understand why women in that situation would do so to put food on the table, since minimum wage jobs pay ridiculously low.

id like to see it legalized to make it safer for everyone.

Theoretically.