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how should I handle this? I fibbed and dug myself into a deeper hold
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This happens all the time. People lie about all sorts of things like repeating years, starting late, etc. Just don't talk about it unless some real grade A ass**** confronts you directly and forces you to mention it, at which point you should just blush, quietly say you lied because you were embarrassed , and move on. Enough people have been there to relate to you so it'll be fine.
As for really good friends, I think you owe them an explanation. I hate it when the people who like to consider themselves my friend go MIA only to find out their circumstances are completely different from when I last talked to them. It makes me feel like either I was not important enough for them to tell or they thought I was not trustable to be supportive. It's your decision to decide who's close and who's not.
I came into this thinking I'd be reading some juicy story about cheating medical students.
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Well, I *actively* crafted and perpetuated this lie. I lied about said rotation, and then described it, though I tried to minimize it as much as possible. One of my friends told another person to ask me about it since that person would be starting it soon, I actually was upfront with that person and said I didn't do the rotation. Now, if she goes back and tells my friend, my friend will be confused and probably pissed.
I don't even know how to start telling people. Ugh.
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Who cares? Chances are they already know
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Exactly, people have already inferred the truth. All you'd do is draw further attention to it.
The explanation should be given to those who care about you.
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Pack your things OP, the Caribbean is your only remaining option to escape such an embarrassment
Okay, probably. I've been anxious lately that I don't have very many friends and stressed that this will be another reason for them to dislike me/not trust me as a friend.
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This is the smallest deal ever. Now go talk to your friend, put on a sheepish smile, raise your hands in the air, admit your lie, and exclaim, "darn, you caught me!"....Hopefully he or she will not judge you too hard.
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Maybe you shouldn't lie and just let people accept you for who you are. People don't harshly judge others for failing a class or delaying step 1, and if they do, you probably shouldn't be friends with them anyways
As mentioned earlier, you should tell the ones you care about the truth. You'll feel a lot better.
If anyone, fellow med students will understand the pressures and reasons you felt you had to lie about it. If they're you're friends, they will understand.
Be humble and genuine. Good luck.
If anyone, fellow med students will understand the pressures and reasons you felt you had to lie about it. If they're you're friends, they will understand.
Be humble and genuine. Good luck.
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You shouldn't lie. You should tell your friends the truth. If someone else is asking about it who you don't consider a friend, you should also tell them the truth. You were an embarassed D-bag who lied.
People will understand why you lied, but it is not okay to be untrustworthy. At least fess up to what a jerk you were.
Edit: I know people are making light of it. It's not like you will be kicked out of school or anything, but you need to get out of the habit of instinctually lying which is what too many of us want to do. We all make mistakes. You will make more mistakes on the wards. You will screw things up time and time again as a med student, and as a resident. These things are ok, but you need to be someone who is honest to the other people you are with about your shortcomings, and about what really happens. Lying to make yourself look better is not a good thing.
People will understand why you lied, but it is not okay to be untrustworthy. At least fess up to what a jerk you were.
Edit: I know people are making light of it. It's not like you will be kicked out of school or anything, but you need to get out of the habit of instinctually lying which is what too many of us want to do. We all make mistakes. You will make more mistakes on the wards. You will screw things up time and time again as a med student, and as a resident. These things are ok, but you need to be someone who is honest to the other people you are with about your shortcomings, and about what really happens. Lying to make yourself look better is not a good thing.
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As others have said tell those who care about you and thank them for their understanding, and only open up if needed to the rest.
More importantly, please try to forgive yourself for taking Step 1 a bit later given your circumstances and also forgive yourself for lying - don't let something like this weigh on you out during 3rd year, because every second you spend thinking about this is a second you could be reading about your patients or prepping for your shelf. Try to let it go and it will serve you well, because in the grand scheme of life it does not matter! In my opinion, if you had to be a bit selfish in lying to others in order to cope with the situation you were in and the embarrassment you felt, AND you have made it through that difficult time successfully, then you actually did the right thing for you, which is good and commendable. best of luck with M3 year
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I think that it's best to just let you wallow in your awkward shame, given that you haven't already realized just owning up to the truth would have been the easiest solution.
Lies always come out. Always. I know someone who lied about their step 1 saying they got in the 260s when they got in the 240s. Both a gunner and going for Derm. A lot of people know this person lied and I found out from them. This person is now going to take a research year to strengthen their app. Cause they realize their step 1 is super competitive enough to match in the places they want to. Just saying this happens sometimes.
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Who gives a flying ****? It's none of their business. You do you.
