Hi all,
I would like to have some advice from others who have been in similar situations as I am.
I am a 28-year old bisexual (closeted) male resident in a clinical specialty. 5 months ago, I had a young gay male patient who came to 3 consultations with me. We had a nice chat and a pleasant informal contact on the first consultation. However, the second consultation, I noticed he was getting too curious about my personal life for my liking. He asked me where I would be going on holidays. And if I would bring a present (?!) for him. That one really was a red flag. The last time he even didn't bring any money to the consultation and he suggested me to walk with him to his home, which was only a block away. Every inappropriate question of his, I politely declined.
He has sent me 3 facebook friend requests, each of one I have politely declined. The first time, I said I never accepted patients' friend requests. The second time, I had changed my rotation place, so he sent a new friend request 1 day (!) after I had finished on my previous rotation. He said 'Now that you are no longer my doctor, I send you a new friend request'. I admit that I was too much in shock that that I just ignored his message and deleted the friend request.
Yesterday, two months later, he sent me a third facebook friend request. Again, I politely declined, mentioning that I have changed my mind and am now only using social media for close friends and family. A few minutes after that, he sent me a facebook message with his telephone number. Signing off with an 'x' (can you imagine? It probably sounds untruthful, but I swear I didn't give any hints to this guy, on the contrary, I've had to ignore so many signs he has been giving me to make the situation less awkward).
Important detail to mention: through a mutual acquiantance this guy knows that I am bisexual. I am afraid that if I decline, he will spread that information to my collegues. Something I really want to avoid. But I fear it is probably going to happen anyway.
I feel very uncomfortable and intimidated with this whole situation and would like to politely but firmly make an end to this. I would like to do it as 'nicely' as possible not to stir up negative/revengeful feelings with this guy.
How to go about this? It sounds quite an overreaction to this situation probably, but I'd really like to hear some advice.
Thank you very much in advance!
I would like to have some advice from others who have been in similar situations as I am.
I am a 28-year old bisexual (closeted) male resident in a clinical specialty. 5 months ago, I had a young gay male patient who came to 3 consultations with me. We had a nice chat and a pleasant informal contact on the first consultation. However, the second consultation, I noticed he was getting too curious about my personal life for my liking. He asked me where I would be going on holidays. And if I would bring a present (?!) for him. That one really was a red flag. The last time he even didn't bring any money to the consultation and he suggested me to walk with him to his home, which was only a block away. Every inappropriate question of his, I politely declined.
He has sent me 3 facebook friend requests, each of one I have politely declined. The first time, I said I never accepted patients' friend requests. The second time, I had changed my rotation place, so he sent a new friend request 1 day (!) after I had finished on my previous rotation. He said 'Now that you are no longer my doctor, I send you a new friend request'. I admit that I was too much in shock that that I just ignored his message and deleted the friend request.
Yesterday, two months later, he sent me a third facebook friend request. Again, I politely declined, mentioning that I have changed my mind and am now only using social media for close friends and family. A few minutes after that, he sent me a facebook message with his telephone number. Signing off with an 'x' (can you imagine? It probably sounds untruthful, but I swear I didn't give any hints to this guy, on the contrary, I've had to ignore so many signs he has been giving me to make the situation less awkward).
Important detail to mention: through a mutual acquiantance this guy knows that I am bisexual. I am afraid that if I decline, he will spread that information to my collegues. Something I really want to avoid. But I fear it is probably going to happen anyway.
I feel very uncomfortable and intimidated with this whole situation and would like to politely but firmly make an end to this. I would like to do it as 'nicely' as possible not to stir up negative/revengeful feelings with this guy.
How to go about this? It sounds quite an overreaction to this situation probably, but I'd really like to hear some advice.
Thank you very much in advance!