I lost my virginity

[regretful]

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Hi,

I really would like someone to help me. Im in complete depression and I dont know how to overcome. I lost my virginity to someone i love very much, and I thought that we were going to spend the rest of our life together. In the duration of our relationship, 8 months of it we had sex. In the culture that im from loosing my virginity is a major issue. Things didnt work out in the end, he left me and didnt think twice about the state he left me in.

I regret it will all my heart, i tried to contact him to help me overcome but he didnt want anything to do with me. I cant talk to my family as I would shame them, and i shamed myself. I wish i could take it all back but i cant now.

Im really sorry for my innocent questions but i really do not know the answers to them. I was wondering if if my vaginal hole will ever go back to the way it was before i had sex with him. Is it true that it will get tighter if you dont have intercourse for a while? The men in our culture find it important that a girl bleeds during her first time. If i ever get married one day, will the man im sleeping with know that i am no longer a virgin just by having sex with me? I dont want to lie to him, but im scared of what the consequences will be for me if he knew. What if he wont understand.

If i was to have my hymen repaired will it last till the moment I have sex again? Will doctors be able to check whether or not I had my hymen repaired?

Please someone help me =( I really need some answers and im very lost. 🙁

 

[Dr. Dai Phan]

Hi there,

I am quite sure this thread will be closed the moment the moderator takes notices of it. There are plenty forums on the Net that can offer the answers you are looking for. DP

 

[regretful]

im sorry i didnt realize that im not allowed to speak to anyone about this here 🙁

im trully sorry i just needed help 🙁