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[daniel2311]

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Hello guys i just registered here this is my second post. I posted the same post in med forums now i post this in dental forums to get the opinions of both worlds now i need you guys to help me take the right decision asap cause my life is consumed thinking about this situation. I hope you guys before you read what i have to say take into consideration that everything you say will affect me.. I am seriously in a frustration period and desperate for a wise help.. It may seem to you that maybe its not that bad.. but it really got me good please help me I am desperate.. It would be nice if you read my article carefully before giving me advices.. Thanks.. :") PLEASE TAKE TIME TO READ THE WHOLE POST BEFORE COMMENTING <3

So long story short I live outside the uk and I am already accepted in "dental school" actually im in the third year now only couple of years remaining till my graduation cause where i live dent school takes 5 years and med school takes 6 years. Also education is free here so I dont have any debt. So my problem is i got accepted in med school and dent school but i chosed to pursue dent i was 18 by the time i made that choice now im 21. I made that choice with little knowledge about actually the difference between dent school and med school i didnt really think that there were a difference I thought they were both actually ''Doctors'' if you know what I mean? The thing is when people started saying like ''oh man you really left med school for dent school etc" you know that bull**** and every now and then people tell me you are not a real doctor. That really destroyed my motivation about dental school like 50%. You know i thought at the beginning there were no difference between the two schools in prestige and how community respect them i thought it was equal! I know guys many of you will think im so silly and kid to think about a career for the amount of prestige it carries but seriously its stuck in my mind that i did a bad decision and I am not studying for my exams anymore due to my mental status right now.. idk what to do i feel stuck in that idea that i am pursuing a useless career that not respected like med career. Though I liked dental school what made me choose it was it really fits my life style i like to have a good salary and a good schedule and I shadowed dentists and shadowed meds but i liked to be a dentist way more I am really not into the med school life style if you know what I mean. Now alot of you guys will tell me so if you like the work of a dentist you shouldn't pursue med school and stick to dent school. But the truth about me is i wouldn't have gone in dent school path if i thought they weren't equal in social status with doctors even though i liked it. I know i got a $!%@ up personality to think like that but i tried to change that feeling through that 3 years of dental school but I cant. I still can pursue med school after dent school though just to obtain the degree.. Guys please have patient on me you don't know how frustrated I am. The feeling of regret is consuming the best out of me I really need help from you. I need you all read my words with heart like I am your brother and give me advice that "FITS" my personality type that would somehow make me start studying again to even just finish what i started because I think its too late to quit now right ? It would only be waste i mean i dont feel like quitting but i just need to satisfy my self just to keep going... PLEASE I NEED ALL YOUR ADVICES... I will read all the replies carefully thanks!

*Concluded questions* Do you think as a 3rd year student only 2 years left to graduate is it wise to keep going or to quit and pursue medicine? According to my situation. Because as i mentioned in my post i already got accepted into both.

#Note: Education in my country is free so i don't have to care about debt.

2. I just feel like doing medicine to satisfy my self only though i don't think i will work as a physician but in dentistry i don't get that whole satisfaction and i've been in doubt since my decision when i choosed dentistry over medicine but i kept saying its okay. Now it really gets to me that i would feel satisfaction if i do medicine and i will never feel it even though i dont hate dentistry i know it fits my lifestyle.. but meanwhile i will never feel satisfied as a dentist you know what i mean?

3. One of the main reasons that made me didn't choose medicine over dentistry was that i know its a long road and i know it won't fit my lifestyle but when i choosed dentistry i knew i wouldn't feel satisfaction and here I am 3 years later still in so much doubt and feel like a big hole in my soul not fulfilled i just don't feel whole and regret about my decision. -_-

I think i just admire the prestige and the direct help on someone's life you put on if you are an physician and i don't forgive my self for missing that opportunity. I know alot of you people would be bothered by the way i think but i really need serious help from you please be PATIENT on me <3.
HELP ME OUT BROS !! every comment will be appreciated.

 

[predent2151]

Hello guys i just registered here this is my second post. I posted the same post in med forums now i post this in dental forums to get the opinions of both worlds now i need you guys to help me take the right decision asap cause my life is consumed thinking about this situation. I hope you guys before you read what i have to say take into consideration that everything you say will affect me.. I am seriously in a frustration period and desperate for a wise help.. It may seem to you that maybe its not that bad.. but it really got me good please help me I am desperate.. It would be nice if you read my article carefully before giving me advices.. Thanks.. :") PLEASE TAKE TIME TO READ THE WHOLE POST BEFORE COMMENTING <3

So long story short I live outside the uk and I am already accepted in "dental school" actually im in the third year now only couple of years remaining till my graduation cause where i live dent school takes 5 years and med school takes 6 years. Also education is free here so I dont have any debt. So my problem is i got accepted in med school and dent school but i chosed to pursue dent i was 18 by the time i made that choice now im 21. I made that choice with little knowledge about actually the difference between dent school and med school i didnt really think that there were a difference I thought they were both actually ''Doctors'' if you know what I mean? The thing is when people started saying like ''oh man you really left med school for dent school etc" you know that bull**** and every now and then people tell me you are not a real doctor. That really destroyed my motivation about dental school like 50%. You know i thought at the beginning there were no difference between the two schools in prestige and how community respect them i thought it was equal! I know guys many of you will think im so silly and kid to think about a career for the amount of prestige it carries but seriously its stuck in my mind that i did a bad decision and I am not studying for my exams anymore due to my mental status right now.. idk what to do i feel stuck in that idea that i am pursuing a useless career that not respected like med career. Though I liked dental school what made me choose it was it really fits my life style i like to have a good salary and a good schedule and I shadowed dentists and shadowed meds but i liked to be a dentist way more I am really not into the med school life style if you know what I mean. Now alot of you guys will tell me so if you like the work of a dentist you shouldn't pursue med school and stick to dent school. But the truth about me is i wouldn't have gone in dent school path if i thought they weren't equal in social status with doctors even though i liked it. I know i got a $!%@ up personality to think like that but i tried to change that feeling through that 3 years of dental school but I cant. I still can pursue med school after dent school though just to obtain the degree.. Guys please have patient on me you don't know how frustrated I am. The feeling of regret is consuming the best out of me I really need help from you. I need you all read my words with heart like I am your brother and give me advice that "FITS" my personality type that would somehow make me start studying again to even just finish what i started because I think its too late to quit now right ? It would only be waste i mean i dont feel like quitting but i just need to satisfy my self just to keep going... PLEASE I NEED ALL YOUR ADVICES... I will read all the replies carefully thanks!

*Concluded questions* Do you think as a 3rd year student only 2 years left to graduate is it wise to keep going or to quit and pursue medicine? According to my situation. Because as i mentioned in my post i already got accepted into both.

#Note: Education in my country is free so i don't have to care about debt.

2. I just feel like doing medicine to satisfy my self only though i don't think i will work as a physician but in dentistry i don't get that whole satisfaction and i've been in doubt since my decision when i choosed dentistry over medicine but i kept saying its okay. Now it really gets to me that i would feel satisfaction if i do medicine and i will never feel it even though i dont hate dentistry i know it fits my lifestyle.. but meanwhile i will never feel satisfied as a dentist you know what i mean?

3. One of the main reasons that made me didn't choose medicine over dentistry was that i know its a long road and i know it won't fit my lifestyle but when i choosed dentistry i knew i wouldn't feel satisfaction and here I am 3 years later still in so much doubt and feel like a big hole in my soul not fulfilled i just don't feel whole and regret about my decision. -_-
HELP ME OUT BROS !! every comment will be appreciated

This is a no brainer. Dental school. One it’s better in my opinion in the first place because of the lifestyle. You’re already almost done. You can even pursue an MD through OS if you’re dead set on being “a real doctor”. If everyone opinion of your career influences your decision then you should probably drop both and be an astronaunt. Dentistry is a highly respected profession. I once told a primary care physician I was going to dental school and he responded with if you got into dental school you should have just gone to med school. My response was well instead of having a boss like you do id rather make the rules, make more money, and do more than prescribe antibiotics. His response. “Well played”.

 

[887194]

Who exactly are these "people"? Soon enough, you will realize that these "people" will try to bring you down regardless of what you do; to try and make up for their own short comings. I think you should focus on what you like more and go with that.

 

[daniel2311]

This is a no brainer. Dental school. One it’s better in my opinion in the first place because of the lifestyle. You’re already almost done. You can even pursue an MD through OS if you’re dead set on being “a real doctor”. If everyone opinion of your career influences your decision then you should probably drop both and be an astronaunt. Dentistry is a highly respected profession. I once told a primary care physician I was going to dental school and he responded with if you got into dental school you should have just gone to med school. My response was well instead of having a boss like you do id rather make the rules, make more money, and do more than prescribe antibiotics. His response. “Well played”.

Thanks for the words bro. But I keep asking my self If Im so dead to pursue MD why did i do dentistry first then try to pursue MD through dentistry. If i could reach a conclusion to justify this process i think i will have a big relief.. I mean was my reasons enough to pursue dentistry first and i shouldn't feel regret? please try to help me out on this particular thing.. thanks again bro so appreciated.

 

[daniel2311]

Who exactly are these "people"? Soon enough, you will realize that these "people" will try to bring you down regardless of what you do to try and make up for their own short comings. I think you should focus on what you like more and go with that.

Actually bro. I know you are right, everyone who tried to advice me said that but it doesnt work with me i think what works with me is trying to justify my decision or i won't feel any relief my mind is solid as rock i can't change it without logical reasons. I keep hearing you shouldn't care about people perceiptions bla bla bla though they are deadly right. its not how my mind works man i am struggling with my mind since i was born -_- overthinking is killing me and if i don't logically justify my decisions I am afraid i would wind up in a severe depression and anxiety. Thats why I am reaching out to you. Help me guys before my mind takes over me i seriously need you guys i hope you give me the best advice of this situation that really helps me i would gladly owe that to you man. Thanks

 

[2TH MVR]

Its obvious you want to be a physician. Just change course and pursue your dream. Life is too short for regrets.

 

[daniel2311]

I mean is it "pointless" to feel agony about my decision now ? if its pointless why? because i will lose even more if i quit dentistry? maybe if that right i will feel a relief but i don't know. I think the big question here is whats wiser Keep pursuing dentistry or quit and pursue medicine? what decisions carries the minimal loss

 

[daniel2311]

Its obvious you want to be a physician. Just change course and pursue your dream. Life is too short for regrets.

Do you think my reasons for being a physician are enough to pursue it specially when im in 3rd year of dental school?

 

[2TH MVR]

ETA:

The tone of your post is peculiar. Such dire straights and overly emotional.

 

[Osminog]

OP, in your original post, you included the word "patient" twice. In both cases, you used the word as an adjective, not as a noun. If that's not telling, I don't know what is.

Contrary to what you seem to think, neither dentistry nor medicine is about prestige and social status. When a patient comes to you, he won't care about your the prestige of your profession or how much money you make. Here's what he's usually going to be thinking: "I'm suffering, and I hope this person can help me feel better."

If you care more about social status than you care about serving members of your community and relieving human suffering, then drop out of dental school and become a CEO, corporate attorney, or movie star.

 

[daniel2311]

OP, in your original post, you included the word "patient" twice. In both cases, you used the word as an adjective, not as a noun. If that's not telling, I don't know what is.

Contrary to what you seem to think, neither dentistry nor medicine is about prestige and social status. When a patient comes to you, he won't care about your the prestige of your profession or how much money you make. Here's what he's usually going to be thinking: "I'm suffering, and I hope this person can help me feel better."

If you care more about social status than you care about serving members of your community and relieving human suffering, then drop out of dental school and become a CEO, corporate attorney, or movie star.

"you included the word "patient" twice. In both cases, you used the word as an adjective, not as a noun. If that's not telling, I don't know what is." can you elaborate what do you mean? my english is not too good further explaination would be appreciated. But doctors specially surgeons are believed to be the most prestigious job around the world according to many resources and to how the public treat them. I always wanted to be that person who ppl look up to but same time i value my life and i cant see my self spending all these years in medicine. Yet, i feel unfulfilled and i feel like i missed the opportunity for a greater purpose that will have meaning to my life. Thanks for your response dude again really appreciated

 

[daniel2311]

ETA:

The tone of your post is peculiar. Such dire straights and overly emotional.

Sorry what do actually need to point out ? elaboration will be appreciated <3

 

[Osminog]

"you included the word "patient" twice. In both cases, you used the word as an adjective, not as a noun. If that's not telling, I don't know what is." can you elaborate what do you mean? my english is not too good further explaination would be appreciated. But doctors specially surgeons are believed to be the most prestigious job around the world according to many resources and to how the public treat them. I always wanted to be that person who ppl look up to but same time i value my life and i cant see my self spending all these years in medicine. Yet, i feel unfulfilled and i feel like i missed the opportunity for a greater purpose that will have meaning to my life. Thanks for your response dude again really appreciated

You didn't mention patients in your post. Instead, you focused on prestige and social status. Why are you pursuing a healthcare career if all you care about is prestige?

Do you want to spend decades of your life listening to people's problems and trying to help them feel better?

 

[daniel2311]

You didn't mention patients in your post. Instead, you focused on prestige and social status. Why are you pursuing a healthcare career if all you care about is prestige?

Do you want to spend decades of your life listening to people's problems and trying to help them feel better?

I keep thinking that my love of prestige and social status will justify anything i go through in medical school. But im afraid it won't be the reality and if i quit dentistry i would regret it rest of my life for wasting 3 years of dental school without finishing it.

And to answer your question. I love to be the one who helps when someone need help but meanwhile i can't see my self crushed by the long years of medicine and rough residency hours and years.

In the end i value lifestyle and my life as a whole. And i value helping people and prestige that i get out of medical career so much that it makes me feel agony right now about my decision. I need a the wisest decision out of my situation I can't be responsible for bad decisions again thats why i reached out for help. Thanks

 

[oralcare123]

I can't really write here what I thought when I read your post. So, here is a politically correct version
It is unwise to choose the profession based solely on prestige and, it seems, that this is what you deep down want to do
Again, it is unwise to pay that much attention to what others think about your profession
Maybe you need to combine dentistry and medicine. OMFS?

 

[schmoob]

Crossposted.

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