I prob. could not have tried to make this month more stressful

[HoboDeEsquiar]

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I moved my family of me, my wife, and my two-year-old daughter from Idaho to Iowa a month before med school starts, and my wife is due for our second a week after school starts. I never get stressed, but right now is one of the most stressful times in my life. I'm excited for our baby to be born and for school to start, but I don't think I could have made it much more stressful if I had tried.

 

[C5toC9]

congratulations

 

[swamprat]

congrats, lucky man... thats my gameplan eventually but not until I am done with my training 👍

 

[GoSpursGo]

WOW. On the plus side, at least you have that out of the way before school starts! 👍

 

[long]

You'll be ok, man. I'm in almost the exact same situation, except my second kid was born a couple weeks before school started. Just keep pushing on, don't get down, and be supportive of your wife and everything will work out.

 

[MsKrispyKreme]

Please. There are people who move clear across the country where they don't know a soul with no money in their pocket and survive on Ramen noodles until they finally get their financial aid money. There are also single moms who do the entire process alone.

You already have one child, and you aren't even the one who is pregnant. Being a parent is not some new, scary experience for you. Quit being so melodramatic, and just be thankful that you got accepted into medical school and have a family.

 

[The Poet Sings]

it could be worse. you could be the one popping out this kid a week before you start school! congrats!

 

[da8s0859q]

Please. There are people who move clear across the country where they don't know a soul with no money in their pocket and survive on Ramen noodles until they finally get their financial aid money. There are also single moms who do the entire process alone.

You already have one child, and you aren't even the one who is pregnant. Being a parent is not some new, scary experience for you. Quit being so melodramatic, and just be thankful that you got accepted into medical school and have a family.

For ****'s sake. Nobody's gonna argue what you're saying, but the dude's talking about moving his family / family-soon-to-be-plus-1 a few states over, new surroundings, just about to start medical school. It can be stressful, you know?

 

[280224]

Please. There are people who move clear across the country where they don't know a soul with no money in their pocket and survive on Ramen noodles until they finally get their financial aid money. There are also single moms who do the entire process alone.

You already have one child, and you aren't even the one who is pregnant. Being a parent is not some new, scary experience for you. Quit being so melodramatic, and just be thankful that you got accepted into medical school and have a family.

The guy is just venting. No need to be so rude. Obviously his situation isn't the worst that anyone has ever experienced coming into med school, but that doesn't mean he isn't allowed to feel stressed.

 

[theVster]

please. There are people who move clear across the country where they don't know a soul with no money in their pocket and survive on ramen noodles until they finally get their financial aid money. There are also single moms who do the entire process alone.

You already have one child, and you aren't even the one who is pregnant. Being a parent is not some new, scary experience for you. Quit being so melodramatic, and just be thankful that you got accepted into medical school and have a family.

stfu

 

[FuturaDocta]

it could be worse. you could be the one popping out this kid a week before you start school! congrats!

worse would be if the baby came out right before a test and he misses it to pop the baby out himself. But, that's not going to happen *knock on wood

OP, I wish you the best and I hope you can breathe through all your grief for the next couple of months.

 

[Lacheln]

Please. There are people who move clear across the country where they don't know a soul with no money in their pocket and survive on Ramen noodles until they finally get their financial aid money. There are also single moms who do the entire process alone.

You already have one child, and you aren't even the one who is pregnant. Being a parent is not some new, scary experience for you. Quit being so melodramatic, and just be thankful that you got accepted into medical school and have a family.

So unnecessarily harsh, so very SDN.

 

[KeyzerSoze]

Please. There are people who move clear across the country where they don't know a soul with no money in their pocket and survive on Ramen noodles until they finally get their financial aid money. There are also single moms who do the entire process alone.

You already have one child, and you aren't even the one who is pregnant. Being a parent is not some new, scary experience for you. Quit being so melodramatic, and just be thankful that you got accepted into medical school and have a family.

The OP made it quite clear that he is thankful, so I'm not sure what you're complaining about. No one said this was a "new, scary experience". It's simply far more of a time commitment to (help) take care of a newborn and a two year old than just a two year old, especially when you've just started medical school.

 

[The Poet Sings]

worse would be if the baby came out right before a test and he misses it to pop the baby out himself. But, that's not going to happen *knock on wood

OP, I wish you the best and I hope you can breathe through all your grief for the next couple of months.

haha i love how you knock on wood, like they're going to do it seahorse style and he will have to carry the baby to term.

 

[smq123]

You already have one child, and you aren't even the one who is pregnant. Being a parent is not some new, scary experience for you. Quit being so melodramatic, and just be thankful that you got accepted into medical school and have a family.

Wow, this is a pretty ignorant and graceless thing to say.

Becoming a parent is ALWAYS scary, whether it's your first or your fifth. And the OP will be the one trying to keep the family financially afloat while his wife is recovering, so I think he has perfectly valid reasons to be stressed.

And it's so unfair to downplay the stress of pregnancy on the father. Just because he's not the one pushing the kid out doesn't mean that pregnancy isn't a stressful experience for the dad, too.

 

[CATrtb]

Went to Orientation today, now I am home holding my 1 week old son (he's awesome) while my 2 girls run around squealing (they're awesome).

I feel your stress, but I'm still excited. We are lucky as hell.

 

[Nanon]

I moved my family of me, my wife, and my two-year-old daughter from Idaho to Iowa a month before med school starts, and my wife is due for our second a week after school starts. I never get stressed, but right now is one of the most stressful times in my life. I'm excited for our baby to be born and for school to start, but I don't think I could have made it much more stressful if I had tried.

I moved my 3 year old son and husband half way across the country for medical school last year... 8 months pregnant. I had the baby 7 weeks before school started, and he had some health issues. Yep, it was intense.

Bad news - I really struggled, and it really pushed our marriage.

Good news - My marriage is now stronger than it ever has been, my kids are well adjusted and now that I've gotten a little sleep, my stress level about school is about 1000x less than it was last year. Dude, if you can do this, you can do anything. 🙂

 

[45408]

Please. There are people who move clear across the country where they don't know a soul with no money in their pocket and survive on Ramen noodles until they finally get their financial aid money. There are also single moms who do the entire process alone.

You already have one child, and you aren't even the one who is pregnant. Being a parent is not some new, scary experience for you. Quit being so melodramatic, and just be thankful that you got accepted into medical school and have a family.

why did you post this? what was the point?


for the OP - good luck! study as much as you can. one of my classmates got married a week before our first big biochem exam. things didn't go so well!

 

[clinicallabguy]

Please. There are people who move clear across the country where they don't know a soul with no money in their pocket and survive on Ramen noodles until they finally get their financial aid money. There are also single moms who do the entire process alone.

You already have one child, and you aren't even the one who is pregnant. Being a parent is not some new, scary experience for you. Quit being so melodramatic, and just be thankful that you got accepted into medical school and have a family.

Of course it's easier for the dad! However, the funny thing is you could similarly tell a widower "You aren't even the one who died! What are you complaining about?". The guy's stressed for his wife, and the stress that comes from uprooting his family and moving them.

Having a baby away from the support of family probably IS a new and scary experience by the way.

 

[Mr hawkings]

Of course it's easier for the dad! However, the funny thing is you could similarly tell a widower "You aren't even the one who died! What are you complaining about?". The guy's stressed for his wife, and the stress that comes from uprooting his family and moving them.

Having a baby away from the support of family probably IS a new and scary experience by the way.

👍

 

[twentyone]

I took boards, moved, started a job, and had a baby in about three months. You can expect some stress, but handle-able!

Good luck, study hard, get some sleep, and don't forget to annoy your classmates with pictures.

 

[clinicallabguy]

I took boards, moved, started a job, and had a baby in about three months. You can expect some stress, but handle-able!

Good luck, study hard, get some sleep, and don't forget to annoy your classmates with pictures.

In micro, I presented in a PBL about Gonorrhaeae and Chlamydiae. At the end of the presentation I told my PBL group to brace themselves for the images on the last slide, and then had pictures of my daughters on it. They thought it was mildly inappropriate to introduce my daughters in that context, but I thought I was pretty funny. Lame sense of humor I guess. 🙂

 

[astrocreep96]

Please. There are people who move clear across the country where they don't know a soul with no money in their pocket and survive on Ramen noodles until they finally get their financial aid money. There are also single moms who do the entire process alone.

You already have one child, and you aren't even the one who is pregnant. Being a parent is not some new, scary experience for you. Quit being so melodramatic, and just be thankful that you got accepted into medical school and have a family.

I'd say he's in a sufficiently stressful situation.

And the people in the scenarios you mentioned - I'll argue it: sounds like their own fault. To hell with them. I moved 1,600 miles from my family, I knew no one, and I saved up ahead of time to pay my bills as I was initially getting started.

 

[tkim]

Self-packed then drove cross-country MA -> CA with two dogs over 3 days, met the movers, moved our crap into our new apartment, then picked up wife and 3 week old at the airport because a three-day death drive cross-country with breast-feeding newborn with two dogs in one car was not doable.

Still don't recall those times with humor. Seven years, and still grimace a bit.

 

[HoboDeEsquiar]

Thank you all for the encouragement. We have had time to settle in now, and the baby is doing well and should be here in a couple more weeks, so I'm not feeling the stress as much. And I absolutely understand that others have been and are in more difficult situations than I am, but I really just needed to vent and it actually did help

 

[w00tz]

Congrats! Kinda reminds me of my boss' wife. Spent the past month moving from Colorado to Texas, while studying for her anesthesiology boards 8 months pregnant. She took her boards on Tuesday and had her baby the next day. There are some crazy people out there!

 

[Hextra]

Please. There are people who move clear across the country where they don't know a soul with no money in their pocket and survive on Ramen noodles until they finally get their financial aid money. There are also single moms who do the entire process alone.

You already have one child, and you aren't even the one who is pregnant. Being a parent is not some new, scary experience for you. Quit being so melodramatic, and just be thankful that you got accepted into medical school and have a family.

What a douche response. God forbid people have different notions of what's stressful for them and how they handle it.

OP, good luck with your new surroundings and soon-to-be-new kid. And to op/other posters in this thread, it's nice to know people make it through medical school with babies and young children. Gives me hope for me and my wife 🙂

 

[The Poet Sings]

Congrats! Kinda reminds me of my boss' wife. Spent the past month moving from Colorado to Texas, while studying for her anesthesiology boards 8 months pregnant. She took her boards on Tuesday and had her baby the next day. There are some crazy people out there!

this lady could probably use that story as an example!
http://forums.studentdoctor.net/showthread.php?t=753539

 

[w00tz]

this lady could probably use that story as an example!
http://forums.studentdoctor.net/showthread.php?t=753539

Haha, well on top of that, she already has a 1 year old girl. And the whole time she was pregnant/studying, her husband was 1200 miles away during the week! But...her mom helped out with the kid and her husband (yay for being a RadOnc) visited every weekend. And now they live in the same city, have two kids, and work in the same hospital, and will probably like happily ever after.

 

[ArcGurren]

Please. There are people who move clear across the country where they don't know a soul with no money in their pocket and survive on Ramen noodles until they finally get their financial aid money. There are also single moms who do the entire process alone.

You already have one child, and you aren't even the one who is pregnant. Being a parent is not some new, scary experience for you. Quit being so melodramatic, and just be thankful that you got accepted into medical school and have a family.

You're a douchebag.

 

[kaylak05]

👍

You're a douchebag.

 

[HoboDeEsquiar]

So, here's a little update. My wife gave birth to our second baby girl on the night of my first day of orientation! They are both doing great, and it really worked out well for me because it means that I won't be missing any school.

 

[Laryngophed]

So, here's a little update. My wife gave birth to our second baby girl on the night of my first day of orientation! They are both doing great, and it really worked out well for me because it means that I won't be missing any school.

Glad to hear it man! Bonus, when you take your share of middle of the night feedings, you can sneak in some time with flashcards!

^ Trying to be funny and put a positive spin on the impending sleepless nights.

Seriously, congrats and good luck!