If you have an acceptance, are you feeling like I am?

[Amy B]

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Is anyone else feeling like I am? Ok, I have my acceptance and I am very very happy for that. I even turned down an acceptance to an MD school (Drexel). However I still have my application out there and although I am turning down interviews I still feel funny inside everytime I open a rejection letter.

Today I was rejected by CCOM. I was born in Chicago so I guess I am feeling sad that my own state school turned me down preinterview, post secondary). Granted I have lived in Virginia now for a long time which is why VCOM is my first choice.

I guess being rejected without being offered an interview still hurts even though I have already been accepted. I know there are plenty of SDNers who have no offers and believe me I really feel badly for them all.

I guess it makes me feel like maybe I shouldn't be accepted elsewhere because these other schools don't think I am capable of being a successful med student. And what if thy are right and VCOM is wrong about me. Sigh, I guess I am having a bad day.

I don't want to come off like I am whinning, but I was wondering if anyone else is going through the same feelings as I am.

😳 😳 😳

 

[crazy250]

Yes. I feel the same way. Once you get accepted, you start to think you're da **** and every school should accept you. Every still rejection hurts, especially if the school is better than the ones you have. It's human nature to get greedy and want more and expect more.

 

[jonb12997]

I definetly agree with you. I got accepted at UNE and that's where I'm going, 1 week later I got rejected by WVSOM. It was still kind of a let down. It's like I paid for a plane ticket and rented a car and all that and then they just reject me. Oh well. Just my $0.02

 

[turkdlit]

Yes I feel the same pain...wait, crap. I haven't been accepted 😡

C'mon guys, you got in! Think of how this thread sounds to all those struggling...I dunno, I understand it would suck to be rejected in any sense, but you're at your #1 school. Please spare the rest of us of the

 

[VentdependenT]

Enjoy your acceptances and this time in your life because the real pain begins soon. Classes, massive tests, whiners, stress up the wazoo, all culminating in class rank and THE BOARDS. Once you finish taking your step I's then you have to sweat gettin a residency, hopefully it will even be in the field you want....then step II's....and the final death experience the Intern year...then step III's. Now you can finally screw up properly in your residency. Oh yeah, then you can take another set of boards...if you want to practice.

Think big picture. Congratulations, but quit harpen on yourselves. You will have plenty of time later down the road for self deprecation. For now please concentrate on maintaining a positive attitude. Keep that pressure off yourselves because it will turn you into an ever lasting jerk. For now take solace in that you have NO IDEA what you have truly gotten yourselves involved in.😛

 

[LP1CW]

I've gotten 2 rejections so far and 3 acceptances and I'm still scheduled to interview. I'm okay. I feel great. I'm glad that I'm in. So, the rejections don't bother me. It's their loss.

 

[XCanadianRagwee]

Nope. I more relieved than anything (3 years takes a toll). I've since declined any interviews and withdrew all my applications, so I won't be receiving any rejection letters anytime soon.

 

[jbernet1]

Amy-

I don't think that a school rejecting you means they think you wouldn't suceed at medicine. I have recieved an acceptance also, and I feel grateful but rejections still are a blow for sure for me to. I just try and remember that schools don't accept applicants they think will .succeed, but who they think will succeed *the most* at their med school.

If you got in without faking anything, then you definitely have what it takes- don't worry about it. It's all about being confident and knowing you can do it. VCOM wouldn't have accepted you if they didn't think you could cut it in medical school.

-Jbernet1

 

[Doctor Bagel]

yep, i get how you feel. when i was applying to law school, i got rejected by one school (a really, really good school, but still), and i threw away the letter as soon as i opened it. i just couldn't deal with it existing. mind you, at this point, i had already received acceptances from everywhere else and scholarships and other good stuff, but it still bummed me out.

i don't deal well with rejection. it's irrational, i know.

 

[Runtita]

How about that "after-the-wedding" letdown? Like when you get married and then (in the car on the way to the honeymoon), you suddenly get disappointed that you got so hyped up over the details and now it's all happened, bam, it's gone, and you can't redo it, so you really shouldn't have worried so much about the details anyway. And you'll never get to wear your beautiful wedding dress again anyway, and even if you wanted to later, you're going to be too fat then...but I digress...

Or the "after-Halloween" letdown when you are all excited 'cause your mom made you a Legolas costume COMPLETE with pointy ears and braided wig and you are SO hyped and you put it on Halloween night and go trick-or-treating to a few houses and then just want to go home and hang out because you discover it's really not all that comfortable to run around with fake ears and a long girly wig.

My point is, sometimes we get ourselves all hyped up over something and then WHEN WE GET IT we are left bereft, disappointed, thinking "is that all there is" when it's not what we expected.

Man, when I got my KCOM acceptance I was so happy but I had expected nothing less from myself, so I wasn't that excited, just relieved. And then I got a massive frontal sinus infection that week and couldn't enjoy it and I then had sinus surgery so I STILL have my champagne sitting on the kitchen table waiting to be consumed.

Sure, I feel disappointed with myself that I'm not more ecstatic over my acceptance. (I really am happy about it, btw.) But it's not the same thrill as getting two lines on the pregnancy test (I know, for some ppl this is NOT a good thing) or seeing my kid walk for the first time. Or read. Or ride a bike.

Or hearing my husband say, "Wow. You'd be a wonderful doctor!"

KWIM?

 

[Adapt]

What I like to do is after I get a rejection, I send them a letter saying I withdraw my application.

 

[Demosthenes_7]

Amy,

Don't even give it a second thought: CCOM favors those from Illinois and VCOM favors those from Appalachia-- it's all in the numbers. If you were still a IL resident there is a good chance you'd have been accepted by CCOM and maybe rejected by VCOM, or at least not received an interview in Blacksburg until they reached their 50% Appalachia quota.

By the way, how come you never put your acceptance notice to Drexel on the pre-allopathic thread?

 

[KUMC_MD]

Originally posted by Demosthenes_7
Amy,

Don't even give it a second thought: CCOM favors those from Illinois and VCOM favors those from Appalachia-- it's all in the numbers. If you were still a IL resident there is a good chance you'd have been accepted by CCOM and maybe rejected by VCOM, or at least not received an interview in Blacksburg until they reached their 50% Appalachia quota.

By the way, how come you never put your acceptance notice to Drexel on the pre-allopathic thread?

holy cow... you people are freakn weird... you follow every single post by her just to see if she posts that?? weird man... get a life....

 

[Febrifuge]

It's definitely a natural and normal phenomenon. As others have said, though, it doesn't mean anything in particular about the other schools' true assessment of you, and the important thing is you now have the means and the opportunity to become a physician. Which is what we premeds are killing ourselves for the chance to obtain.

But yeah, it's understandable to be bummed. As Neil Gaiman says, "The price of getting what you want is having what you once wanted."

 

[Amy B]

Originally posted by Demosthenes_7
Amy,

Don't even give it a second thought: CCOM favors those from Illinois and VCOM favors those from Appalachia-- it's all in the numbers. If you were still a IL resident there is a good chance you'd have been accepted by CCOM and maybe rejected by VCOM, or at least not received an interview in Blacksburg until they reached their 50% Appalachia quota.

By the way, how come you never put your acceptance notice to Drexel on the pre-allopathic thread?

I didn't realize CCOM favored state residents. That's good to hear.

Since I am sure I want to go the DO route I haven't kept up with interview offers, rejections or acceptances on the pre-allopathic board. I do post about applying to MD schools because I have been through it twice, about classes, or general information but that's all. I have emailed with the people that were at Drexel the day I interviewed, but none of them post on SDN.


Thanks for all the responses to my thread. Glad to hear I'm not alone in feeling badly about rejections. It is NOT greed like someone stated above. It is about uncertainty and feelings of inadequency that I have felt when I have been rejected somewhere.

I have decieded to follow XCanadianRagwee's advice and withdraw all applications still out there. I have kept them open thus far due to the difficulty with finding a job for my husband in a small town area. Chicago would have had lots of job potential in a city I love. I turned down Drexel because although Philly is a big city, I hated it.(no offense to those who love Philly).

Thanks for your kind words.

 

[Demosthenes_7]

Dear Amy B,

It's interesting to hear everyone's experiences, especially those who apply to both DO and allopathic routes. It gives people who are considering both some really good insight. Thanks for sharing the good (and the bad) with everyone.

Congrats on VCOM and keep looking forward!

 

[Adapt]

Originally posted by Amy B
I turned down Drexel because although Philly is a big city, I hated it.(no offense to those who love Philly).

Yea Philly is horrible. I'll probably turn down Temple because of it. I actually thought Drexel was in a nicer place than Temple for that matter.

 

[Amy B]

Originally posted by Slickness
Yea Philly is horrible. I'll probably turn down Temple because of it. I actually thought Drexel was in a nicer place than Temple for that matter.

I would have to agree with you about Drexel vs Temple locations. I just couldn't leave fast enough. I guess I am a rural girl at heart😎 😎 😎

 

[OSUdoc08]

I was rejected from CCOM also.

This came the day before my OSU-COM interview, and kind of made me feel bad.

I've already been accepted to AZCOM & KCOM.

I guess I just assumed they would interview me too, but I didn't even plan to go so I don't know why I let it bother me.

I'm from Texas anyway---never been in Illinois in my life. It's too cold up there anyway.

 

[BACMEDIC]

I got accepted into VCOM, and two weeks later got rejected from an MD school, which did not phase me a bit. In fact, knowing that I had a school in my pocket, a school that I wanted to go to, just made me smile at the rejection letter. If it was another DO school that was also one of my top choices, then I think I may have felt bad - but you must admit, knowing that your going to med school overshadows a lot of other negitive crap that comes your way.