Adimelon was not the op of this thread. That guy stopped posting in this thread in 2012. You will be the second thread jacker
haha, fair point. I missed that!
Mine is a little...frustrating.
If I'm vague about it, it's simply "freshman year alcohol violation", which is survivable.
If you put the official wording, it's "Alcohol intoxication and repeated serious concerns over disruptive behavior" which sounds
terrible and would likely sink me.
If the Dean actually writes a letter over it, it becomes clear that there had been many concerns over my mental health freshman year, I was resistant to counseling, and the Deans gave up and used an alcohol situation as a way to require follow-up given that none of my 'concerning' behavior was actually against the rules in any way. People were just worried about me, which unfortunately tends to be disruptive. This one is...well, correct me if I'm wrong, but it seems better than the official one-liner, but far, far worse than an alcohol violation.
Furthermore, I was
really hoping to avoid discussing mental health in my app. It was something I had huge struggles with in undergrad, but I worked through it on my own and am a completely different person than I was back then. I am incredibly grateful that I went to school where I did, because I really honestly think that the people I met and the administration I worked with are the reason I am the awesome, happy person I am today. Unfortunately, it's also the reason that my GPA is low. I don't want to make excuses and I don't want the stigma of the mental health aspect, even though it explains the IA and my bizarre GPA patterning. This isn't so much because I want it to be secret - on the contrary, I don't really keep secrets about myself in reality - I just don't think it's appropriate for an application. It's not something I see as defining me, it's not something that reads well on paper, there is HUGE stigma (especially in healthcare), and I don't want to 'that kid' with all of the excuses, especially since if the mental health aspect comes up, there are other events which are likely to be relevant/included (again, something I'm comfortable discussing in person, but not in an app, even though it played a HUGE factor in my grades).
I graduated several years ago, so the IA will be 6+ years behind me when I apply. Am I better off avoiding schools which require a Dean's letter? Is the official wording required? I'm meeting with them this month...if they change the official wording, would it be acceptable to use the alternate phrasing? They straight-up offered to write me a letter explaining things, but then never got back to me...I think because the letter is weird here. It requires bringing in a huge amount of context and follow-up that the school has in its unofficial records, and completely changes the face of things. I'm just concerned that doing so makes things worse rather than better.
I recognize that I'm fairly vague here, but it's a little dicey being too specific on public forums...if anyone has any particular insight on this sort of situation please let me know!