Poety said:
MBK2003, did you feel like that about leaving your little ones?
I started PGY-1 on maternity leave, so when I came back I was over the top nervous, not sleeping due to a VERY colicky baby and nervous I'd kill someone the first day.
Honestly, intern year it rarely seemed worth it leaving the house at 5:10am everyday. There were a few nicer months (ahh... geriatrics,
🙂 ), but for the most part it sucked. Yeah, yeah, I know learning medicine the hard way so I can be a competent psychiatrist, but why did I have to spend 90 hrs a week in the hospital?
PGY-2 was better (except for a grueling 4 month experience on a certain inpatient unit), definitely better to see the light of day once in a while.
PGY-3 has been surprisingly busy, but the ability to have large chunks of weekends free (this year and last) to spend with the kids more than makes up for the twice to three times a week staying until 8:30pm to see pts.
I'm looking forward to PGY-4 (except for 4 months of C/L, god help me
😱 ), lower patient load, more free time for reading, and more time with the kids.
Looking back, I'm still surprised my marriage survived intern year (perhaps my husband shares my masochism). I was never home and when I was I wasn't mentally there or just crying in a corner from sheer exhaustion. OTOH, the interns who followed me and this year's PGY-1s report that work hours and working conditions have SIGNIFICANTLY improved in the light of my year's meticulous recording of work hours and the ALMOST DAILY work hours violations. The moral of the story, it gets better every year, and if it doesn't YELL and SCREAM until the administration makes changes so it does get better.
Leaving the kids is never easy, however, at times during the intern year (by the end) this gets compensated by a feeling of mastery in what you do on the medicine wards or ICU. Nothing beats the feeling of leaving your last call at the end of PGY-1, signing out your patients to the incoming PGY-1 thinking, "God what they have ahead of them" and "Gosh they look so young, and I look so old now."
Sorry to be a downer, I was never able to look back upon my intern year fondly. Probably others had much better experiences, I was stuck in a malignant medicine program which was an inch away from ACGME fines for work hours violations.
MBK2003