Is anybody married?

[aileen]

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Hi, everyone. I just want to see how many of us is married and what their experiences are like. It hurts to read my bf's mind (he wants to get married and settle down) and ignore him. I know that I'm to make the final decision, but your opinions will definitely help me explore all aspects of being married while in school.

 

[UBTom]

Is he willing to be a "househusband" i.e. play second fiddle to you, take care of things while you are busy with school, and live with someone who will be cranky from back-to-back exams and late nights at the lab setting teeth for a denture?

The last thing a dental student needs is a non-supportive spouse.

 

[Dr.BadVibes]

Tom is right......and i dont want to pry into your personal life, but going to dental school is basically starting a new life.....new city, new school, new friends....new atmosphere.....try and open the possibility that you might meet someone else and the worse thing to do is to break off an engagement/marriage and have all that stress on top of school......just a thought.

 

[msummar_smc]

I'm happily married ... been so for almost 4 years (not to mention little rascals - I work quick). If you have found the one, then you'll have someone that will support you and help you through anything you want to do. That's not to say it will be easy ... but having 'the' one can make life much more enjoyable.

It sounds like you are unsure about your relationship. My advice would be to move on ... you would know if he meant that much to you. Just my 2 cents.

 

[sxr71]

Not to get into your personal business, but I think the real question is whether you want to marry him or not. Whether you want to be married while in Dental school is secondary.

 

[UBTom]

Oh yeah... And since you Columbia SDOSers are so hell-bent on specializing... Just wait until you get into an Oral Surgery residency. On call for 24 hours at a time, 3 times a week. And a typical day starts at 6:30AM when you report in for patient rounds and don't get home until after 7PM. And this goes on for 6 years! 😱

The househubby will need to be a saint! 😀

 

[robliski]

You both have to accept that in the next four or whatever years you cannot make any permanent plans like buying a house or having kids etc. You must both be committed enough to support eachother so that you can make it. If that committment is there, not only you wont have a problem but life would be so much more enjoyable. Remember, during your adacemic adventures, you will need emotional support as well. My girlfriend just got accepted to med school and I am applying to dental school and our mentality is 1000% committment. No expectations, just dedication.

Robliski

 

[RaiderNation]

You both have to accept that in the next four or whatever years you cannot make any permanent plans like buying a house or having kids etc. You must both be committed enough to support eachother so that you can make it. If that committment is there, not only you wont have a problem but life would be so much more enjoyable. Remember, during your adacemic adventures, you will need emotional support as well. My girlfriend just got accepted to med school and I am applying to dental school and our mentality is 1000% committment. No expectations, just dedication.

Robliski

I understand everyone has their own opinion...but the comment about not being able to have kids while in dental school is about as asinine as they come. Countless dental students have children and wives at home, many of whom do not work so as to stay home with the children. Of course, by doing this you might be taking on a heftier financial burden, but to say that you must make a commitment to refrain from reproducing just boggles my mind. Also, in many areas dental students take out loans to buy a house and sell it for much more after they graduate...ie Arizona or Las Vegas.

 

[Biogirl361]

what does everyone think of being married in dental school, to another dental student from the same school? my b/f and i are going to d school together next year and have been together for about 3 yrs in undergrad.

 

[Henna]

Not to get into your personal business, but I think the real question is whether you want to marry him or not. Whether you want to be married while in Dental school is secondary.

I couldn't have said it better myself. 👍
If you think he's the one then go for it, compatibility is key, everything else will follow.

 

[msummar_smc]

I understand everyone has their own opinion...but the comment about not being able to have kids while in dental school is about as asinine as they come. Countless dental students have children and wives at home, many of whom do not work so as to stay home with the children. Of course, by doing this you might be taking on a heftier financial burden, but to say that you must make a commitment to refrain from reproducing just boggles my mind. Also, in many areas dental students take out loans to buy a house and sell it for much more after they graduate...ie Arizona or Las Vegas.

I completely agree. My wife and I have 2 little rascals ... 2.5 years old and 7 months old. We plan on having rascal #3 in about a year and a half ... so they are all about 2 years apart. That will happen while I am in dental school. Not to mention #2 happened while I was attending school (second time around - nontraditional student) and running a small business to pay the bills and eat. Yes, everything in my world is time consuming ... but I love it. Go my children ... pro-create and flourish!

 

[pktchris]

My fiancee and I are getting married about three weeks before I will be starting Dental school this fall. I look forward to it completely, and I can't think of any reason for it to be another way. Her support has been crucial to me for the last three years and I only expect that to continue. With such a stressful thing as dental school about to take over your life, having a mate to share your ups and downs with is something that I would never give up. Having said all that, life doesn't stop becuase your in school. Would you marry this person if you weren't about to start dental school? The most important question is whether or not this is the person that you want to spend the rest of your life with, dentist or not...
good luck with everything

 

[Thaxil]

From the time I meet my future to be wife to the present day, my life had made a 180 degree turn about. She has been the single most important influence in my life. She has always had more faith in my abilities then myself and has always encouraged me to go after what I want. If she was not in the picture, I most like would have end college after receiving my AS. Finding the right person can only help you achieve your goals.

 

[LibertyB]

I am married.
I have a husband, a house and a dog. We are ready to give up our established, comfortable and fun life so that I can go to dental school. Our home was listed on the market yesterday, my husband is looking for jobs in NYC, and my dog (as pictured) hasn't told us if he is ready to be a big city doggie.

We know that there will be a lot of sacrifices, financial difficulties and general homesickness, but more importantly, we are excited to move and reinvent ourselves in the best city in the world. We are excited to have four more years of fun before we have children. We are excited that dentistry will afford us a comfortable lifestyle in the future. My husband is really pumped that he can become what he refers to as a "golf daddy" in the future.

I married my best friend (literally). This is why I am not worried about the future. Scared, you bet! But I know we have what it takes to make it. I wasn't worried about that for a second. A good relationship takes work. But true love means that your partner's dreams are your dreams.

I leave you with the best relationship advice my mother has ever given me: "If it was meant to be, it will work out."

Best of luck to everyone!

p.s. I feel very fortunate that I will have a "sugar daddy" to help with the finances through school!