Like, if I were to go to medical school in a state that's on the other side of the country from my home state, and if I wanted to come back to my home state every other weekend to spend the weekend there. Let's say I had enough money to buy the airline tickets. I would go to my home state on friday evening, and go back to medical school state on sunday afternoon, every other weekend via airplane.
What problems could arise with this? Will there be problems such as, if flight is delayed on sunday, I might not be able to show up to med school class on monday? I am really worried.
I wouldn't be able to afford first class/business class tickets, just economy tickets, if that matters. I am planning to take 2 years off after college to save up money for it, and if I get into my state med school, then I will just use that money to decrease my debt (to pay for some tuition or living expenses). If I get into an OOS med school, then I will use that money for airline tickets every other weekend.
But I am just wondering, what kind of problems would I have with this? Is it doable?
I hope you didn't spend a ton of time composing that, because you just responded to the infamous streampaw, who was banned long ago and is no longer even a pre-med.Ok, I'm not going to bash you because I have gone through this stage of being young and in love in a relationship, when I was really immature, naive, and dependent on my relationship; and trust me, this wasn't very long ago either and I have quite a few years on you. Let me give you a few words of wisdom and if they sink in great, if not, you will just have to go through it on your own and realize it yourself.
1.) This is SO SO SO far in advance. Your relationship may not last last 6 months down the road, forget that many years away. I **know** that's hard to see right now and you think " myyy relationship" isn't like that. But, not to be sexist and please no one bash me for this, many boys at this age are not ready for commitment like the kind you're thinking of and they're also not mature enough to handle it. I would advise you to stop thinking so long term because it will put a lot of pressure on both of you and it might actually lead to a break up more than anything else.
2.) If you keep being dependent on him as your sole source of happiness YOU WILL BE MISERABLE. Don't do it. I know it makes you happy now but what if you break up right before the MCAT ? then what? you are going to be so depressed because you'll feel like your world was destroyed and you will screw yourself over. This happened to me and my MCAT average was a 35/36 and I ended up with a 32 . i will seriously never forgive myself. It's taken me over a year then to realize that I need to find things that make me happy on my own. It will also make any relationship you're in so much better, but more importantly you will be happier.
3.) You will grow and change like everyone else has said. Both of you. You may find you're no longer compatible.
4.) Long distance is ridiculously hard. I have done it for over a year now and especially with one person being super busy and not having much time for you it gets very hard. We've almost broken up multiple times because of that since sometimes we won't be able to have a proper conversation for weeks, given how busy he is. Don't bank on it working. I always thought with us it would be different, but it isn't. I think long distance is much easier for girls because they are much more emotionally attached and in tune but guys are different. Sometimes they just want to play xbox or go watch a movie, and its easy to be offended by things like that.
5.) It's always best to settle on the view that you want this relationship now and to be with this person now, but you accept that you may not know what the future holds. Keep working on your own life such as school, friends, family, hobbies and you'll find that you will be a much more emotionally healthy person that has things to bring to a relationship. Just generally, it will also mean you are putting less pressure on yourself and enjoying life all the time. Don't forget that what's important is YOU.
I'd say # 5 is the most important if you don't feel like reading the lot of it. I understand that you may not see and understand these things yet and maybe you will need to be screwed over and hurt before you do. And that's ok too. That's how I learned and I'm still not perfect. I still fall in the trap of trying to fix things and make them work and I catch myself and realize what's really important. It takes time and everyone has a different pace at which they grow. but just try and keep these things in mind.