Is it possible to have be married and have children during an OBGYN residency?

[tonguetalker]

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For a woman with small children, would it be difficult to raise children during that time, especially if her husband was also in residency. Would it be most advised to wait until she finished?

 

[tonguetalker]

Does no one have any opinions?

 

[EEL08]

I'm only a med student but this is one of my concerns also. My husband and I are both in med school and we have a 3 year old and almost five year old. An OB/Gyn resident came to talk to us from one of the local programs and said that about half of their residents have families. He strongly recommended against having children the first two years of residency because of how intense it is. I think it depends on a number of factors when you should have kids, including your age. Are you premed?

 

[THP]

This topic has been discussed a lot. It is definitely possible to have kids while in residency but you need the support of your spouse. Its my opinion that you can't put your life on hold because you are a med student or a resident. If your husband is a surgery resident it may be very difficult. Do you have family near by? If you don't I would consider waiting but this also depends on your age.

 

[tonguetalker]

Yes we are both still premed and would like to go to medical school together. I want to pursue something non surgical and she wants to focus on surgery. If we did wed, it would most likely be the year before med school

 

[MJB]

Yes we are both still premed and would like to go to medical school together. I want to pursue something non surgical and she wants to focus on surgery. If we did wed, it would most likely be the year before med school

My totally blunt and honest advice is to worry about getting into school first, then worry about whether you can handle having kids during school/residency.

The funny thing is, you can almost always make it work.

I guess my point is this...it appears you're not married yet, haven't been accepted (or even applied?) to med school yet, and you're already worried about whether or not you'll be able to have kids during residency? First things first my friend.

Good luck to you and your significant other! You never know what will happen. I'm strongly considering one of the 2 fields I said I would "never" do a residency in when I started med school.

 

[MeredithGreyMD]

Ive been doing it for the last two and half years. Its tough, and impossible without a supportive spouse IMO

 

[Diane L. Evans]

For a woman with small children, would it be difficult to raise children during that time, especially if her husband was also in residency. Would it be most advised to wait until she finished?

If you have a supportive family anything is possible. Everything in terms of family also depends on what program you decide on. Residents who have children also have to sacrifice a lot mainly social activities ,sleep, and possibly extension of time in residency. It is possible but difficult I started residency with a 4 year old and finished residency with 4 children. I can say that now in practice I am happy I planned as I did as many fellow attendings have had a harder time trying to keep from losing monetary gains. Also as an attending there is no 80hr work week rule

 

[priinzeznisha]

If you have a supportive family anything is possible. Everything in terms of family also depends on what program you decide on. Residents who have children also have to sacrifice a lot mainly social activities ,sleep, and possibly extension of time in residency. It is possible but difficult I started residency with a 4 year old and finished residency with 4 children. I can say that now in practice I am happy I planned as I did as many fellow attendings have had a harder time trying to keep from losing monetary gains. Also as an attending there is no 80hr work week rule

Sounds like you were able to get alot done😉 lol but what tyoes of things do you do in residency??/ i want to become and OB/GYn so if any one knows, what wypes of things would I do?