I've got 99 problems but she's not one..

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...actually she is. I'm supposed to be studying for my exam tomorrow and another one on Monday, and another paper due Tuesday. instead I'm being a loser and worrying about this breakup (which was on/off to begin with). I wouldn't have cared but I was supposed to MARRY her, and I broke her heart, and she won't forgive or talk to meblahblah.

she's actually not the most important thing in my life right now, school is. but it's driving me crazy thinking about her. I think I need a slap in the face.

but how do you guys deal with this when you're studying? or supposed to be studying?

sorry in advance that this thread might go absolutely nowhere and is completely utterly pointless. maybe i just needed to vent..
 
I've been there: even though you realize fully that school is much, much more important, that feeling in your gut and those recurrent regrets just pop up as soon as you get to the third line in your text. It's impossible to study with that going on.

You're in good company; if it weren't for a certain girl driving me nuts I'd be a full 30 places higher in my class rank.
 
I'm dealing with a girl that's across the country and it's driving me nuts. For now, allocate some time to wallow in your pity; it's normal, buddy. Just keep in the back of your mind that whatever worrying or time-wasting you do thinking about her will be a huge regret in 3-5 months when you're over it.
 
Get over her. It's not worth the dip in your grades.
 
qualityhealth said:
...actually she is. I'm supposed to be studying for my exam tomorrow and another one on Monday, and another paper due Tuesday. instead I'm being a loser and worrying about this breakup (which was on/off to begin with). I wouldn't have cared but I was supposed to MARRY her, and I broke her heart, and she won't forgive or talk to meblahblah.

she's actually not the most important thing in my life right now, school is. but it's driving me crazy thinking about her. I think I need a slap in the face.

but how do you guys deal with this when you're studying? or supposed to be studying?

sorry in advance that this thread might go absolutely nowhere and is completely utterly pointless. maybe i just needed to vent..
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Guys suck:laugh:
Why worry about it now? A relationship is not worth salvaging once someone has cheated. So forget it, she was obviously not the one, let it go.
 
breaking up with my girlfriend made school so much easier schedulewise.
 
If you're an active person, go out for a run or lift some weights for an hour. It'll get your mind off of her and it's a good way to vent. You have to not think about her while studying and if she does pop in, you have to block her out and not dwell on it (easier said than done I know). Say to yourself that you can think about her all you want when you get done with your exams, but in the meantime you got stuff to do.

my $0.02
 
I broke up with my girlfriend at 1am the night before I had a microbiology final at 8am. I was up past 4 just cause I couldn't get to sleep from thinking about it. Took the test the next day on no sleep. But, when it came down to it, I was able to completely block her out of my mind. Rocked the test with a 96% 🙂 If school is your priority, then treat it like one. you'll be fine.
 
From a logical stand point you should have broken up with her after the test block.... I'm just saying.
 
LittleRocker said:
Oh this was inevitable. I wasn't the instigator anyways.
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Well suck it up then. You're only sad about the death of the dream, not the death of the relationship.

And with that said, the dreams not dead. You'll go get another one, get married, blah blah blah....
Or when I'm done with med school and residency you and I can go open a bad ass clinic in miami and do boob jobs all day while driving Lamborghinis, deal? I mean, that's what doctors do!!
 
I know where you are coming from- just broke up with my gf about a week ago. We were dating for a year and it was pretty serious. It has been affecting my studying and I've been feeling like crap.

I think I'm just going to take a break from relationships for a while and focus on academics. If I can.
 
soo.... judging by this thread, i think i'll try to schedule my breakups for the summer....?
 
Kill a bottle of Jack and move on. Relationship problems is not a good enough excuse for failure.
 
NurbekIL said:
Kill a bottle of Jack and move on. Relationship problems is not a good enough excuse for failure.
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Yeah bro, suck it up and move on. Girls come and go, always remember that. Having your grades dip will be like a bad, permanent memory of this day.
 
I feel your pain.. right now I am stuck between two girls...not fun for me, and more stressing than I could have ever imagined... At least I got a 92 on my anthropolgy quiz.. but if this isnt figured out by tri/chem exam (three weeks).. I'll probally wont be looking to good.
 
LittleRocker said:
I broke up with my girlfriend at 1am the night before I had a microbiology final at 8am. I was up past 4 just cause I couldn't get to sleep from thinking about it. Took the test the next day on no sleep. But, when it came down to it, I was able to completely block her out of my mind. Rocked the test with a 96% 🙂 If school is your priority, then treat it like one. you'll be fine.
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I like that, you are my hero.
 
qualityhealth said:
...actually she is. I'm supposed to be studying for my exam tomorrow and another one on Monday, and another paper due Tuesday. instead I'm being a loser and worrying about this breakup (which was on/off to begin with). I wouldn't have cared but I was supposed to MARRY her, and I broke her heart, and she won't forgive or talk to meblahblah.

she's actually not the most important thing in my life right now, school is. but it's driving me crazy thinking about her. I think I need a slap in the face.

but how do you guys deal with this when you're studying? or supposed to be studying?

sorry in advance that this thread might go absolutely nowhere and is completely utterly pointless. maybe i just needed to vent..
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I know what I wouldn't do:

Ask anyone on here for relationship advice.
 
Daydreamer2008 said:
Sheesh. Seriously. No wonder I'm not dating a premed/med student/doctor.
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Pretty funny when people are discussing the merits of breaking up with someone else and one of them is "now you have more time to study!".

They are all in for a rude awakening when they get hitched and their significant other actually *gasp* wants to spend time with them.
 
Old Grunt said:
Pretty funny when people are discussing the merits of breaking up with someone else and one of them is "now you have more time to study!".

They are all in for a rude awakening when they get hitched and their significant other actually *gasp* wants to spend time with them.
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LOL. I think I would be burned alive for mentioning.....omg....possibly doing a DO program so I could stay close to my significant other b/c we plan on getting married. Maybe they just haven't found love? :biglove:😍😛
 
Daydreamer2008 said:
LOL. I think I would be burned alive for mentioning.....omg....possibly doing a DO program so I could stay close to my significant other b/c we plan on getting married. Maybe they just haven't found love? :biglove:😍😛
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Funny that.

I am essentially doing the same thing since there my wife is in Law School and there are two good M.D. and one good D.O. option here. I'll be happy to go anywhere that will take me that won't require her to move or us to separate.

Things and priorities change when you aren't just worried about yourself.
 
your life is actually more important than your grades. are you kidding me? so glad that i am in the over 21 club.... five years ago....
 
This is exactly why I am with several women at the same time. Guys, this is America.... AMERICA. We have the freedom... no! the RIGHT to date several attractive women simultaneously. So judge me as you will but when **** hits the fan I still have 3 or 4 other girls to ensure I keep my A's.
 
'Ya hate to see her leave ... but you love to watch her walk away.' 👍
 
That's a rough situation to be in. Thinking about her this much means that you care this much and that's not a bad thing. Focus on your work for now, but the next free moment you get, go patch things up. If you were thinking about marrying her, then she's just a big part of your future as med school is.
 
The people in this thread that say relationships are more important than grades are only partially correct. If your significant other is not willing to give you enough space to achieve your dreams, well that right there is a huge red flag. If your dream comes at the cost of a relationship, then that was a messed up relationship anyway.


Your dream is more important than an early 20's relationship.



For the vast vast majority of cases. Pretty much nobody finds their soulmate in their early 20s, sorry.
 
I totally agree with the VoiceofReason.

It is hard to have that perspective now, but you will be grateful later on.

In terms of your specific circumstance, think about it this way...

If you want her back, is it more likely to happen if
(a) you are a ghost of your former self drowning in your sorrows and letting your work go or
(b) moving on, working hard, trying to be happy.

Girls/women want someone that is going somewhere and is willing to focus and attain their dreams during hard times (even a break-up).

Worse case scenario: you will never get her back, but you'll get someone else who will help you realize your dreams. Either way you win...strong GPA, med school, etc....

Good Luck!
 
1) Don't ask a bunch of premeds that haven't seen the light of day or any action outside of the stacks in the last 6 months. 🙂

2) You're screwed - just try to salvage. The only thing you can do is try to distract yourself - group study helps. Make sure your friends refuse to let you bitch & whine instead of study.
 
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