Leaving a significant other behind

[River5]

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Hello all! I am going to KSU in the fall and as excited as I am, I will have to leave my husband behind. We have done the long-distance thing before so I feel confident we will be fine but I wanted to start a support thread for those who are leaving a significant other behind when they start school. To everyone out there in a similar situation, I send a hug!

 

[dyachei]

I'm in the same boat. My fiance just got a job in Atlanta but I'll be starting vet school in Tennessee this fall. At least it isn't too far away (a short 3.5 hrs)

 

[critterfixer]

I'm sort of in the club. I'll be bringing my daughters with me to Knoxville, but my husband will be remaining at his job in Nashville for the time being. Our goal is to have him move out to join us by the end of first year, though. Since it's just a 3.5 hour drive between the cities, I hope we'll see him on weekends.

 

[wildfocus]

going to csu - leaving husband behind in seattle, though he'll hopefully join me early january, unless he decides to do grad work here. i vacillate b/w being excited living on my own (when i come home and he has left a huge mess for me to clean) and being absolutely devastated. over the last decade we haven't spent more than a week apart at a time. i know this will be good for me, and that studying is to be top priority, but, man i will miss him so much. i figure when i am not studying, i am going to hit the gym like never before and become more serious about my karate lessons. how are others going to cope?

critterfixer - have your girls finally resigned to moving?

 

[critterfixer]

critterfixer - have your girls finally resigned to moving?

My 13-year-old is kind of excited. My 16-year-old has stopped being angry, and she is now just plain old terrified. I've home schooled them for the last 7 years and this will be her first time back in public school since 5th grade.

It's just going to take time. Thanks for asking.

 

[bubbles525]

I'll be leaving my boyfriend of 4.5 years in Boston while I move all the way to Perth, Australia. We've done long distance before, even trans-pacific long distance (he was in Japan for 15 months), but it still scares me and makes my heart ache. The past 12 months have been so hard, for other reasons, and we finally feel like we're back to a "normal" relationship. And here I am moving away... He's coming over in January, possibly sooner. We just both want so much to start our life together... I have faith it will all be alright, I just also know it will hard.

 

[Max Power]

I'll be leaving my sig other behind as well-my dog Sophie lol...just kidding, not in a beastiality way...just pathetic my dogs my best friend sort of way

 

[AuburnPreVet]

Ya'll are great. Reading this thread about what everyone is going through to become vets is really great. The dedication is amazing.
👍

 

[cubs11]

Ya'll are great. Reading this threading about what everyone is going through to become vets is really great. The dedication is amazing.
👍

i agree!!!

 

[jfitzpatri8]

I was shocked when we started last year and I talked to all of the married folks in our class who left spouses behind to come. I couldn't have done it... but then again, hubby has followed me twice- first 500 miles then another 2200. I am not sure how he has done it- I'm not so terribly sure that I could have, were the roles reversed.

None of those in our class have broken up, so apparently it is do-able for the first year, second year may be harder... third year would be crazy-hard, but then in clinics, nobody but your clinician knows that you are still alive (and I am told that you wish you weren't), so it won't matter much.

Just a view from the other side for y'all. Good luck to those of you headed out this year- and even more luck for those still in vet-school-application hell.

J

 

[JIKJen124]

Even though there's a vet school in the town where my SO lives, I just wasn't comfortable enough with the program to want to go there. I just plain like OSU much better. It's scary to think about doing 3.5 hours of distance for the forseeable future, but I'm a big believer that if it's meant to work it will. If not, I will be able to rest easy that at least I made the best decision for my career.

 

[dandyandy]

My boyfriend of three years decided to not move (not even to another state even though he is not committed to a job) so I decided to go to New Zealand. My family says he doesn't care for me enough, but I can't admit that to myself just yet. It really really hurts!

 

[flokemahe]

I thought my SO was going to stay behind for 1yr to finish up the MA program she's in. But she's decided that 1) we can't afford to maintain two households, especially with one of them being here in the bay area where the cost of living is so high, and 2) this will be one of the best, but also one of the most stressful, times in my life. So *yay* she's coming with me! But *boo* she's leaving everything behind. She has to find a new grad program (ISU doesn't offergrad degrees in her field), a new mentor, hopefully a graduate assistantship, and she's super sad to be leaving her sister (she lives 5 blocks from us). Stressful, to say the least, but I'm really grateful that our family doesn't have to split up!

 

[Wahimsa]

Best of luck to you all!! I am still a few years from applying to vet school, but I just recently left everything behind to move 3500 miles with my S/O so he can attend anesthesia school. It's been hard not having family and friends close, but I am hoping that when the time comes for me, he will remember the sacrifices I made for him and will support me in a move if it's necessary. Just a word of advice for those who do have S/O moving to your new location with you....HAVE A BIG TALK!! He sat me down and explained that the next few years were going to be very tough. We have always spent all our time together, and now I hardly ever see him, he is always either at the hospital, or home studying. It is very hard to feel like you are being put on the back burner, and if it would have been devastating to our relationship if we hadn't discussed it many times before we moved.

Congrats to everyone who is starting a new adventure this fall, and props to all your friends and family for supporting you.

 

[JumptheMoon]

I am going to Penn in the fall and my SO of 4.5 years is staying here in Boston. He's applying to med school for fall 08, and yes he's applying in Philly, but not ONLY in Philly - we sort of have a mutual agreement to never hold each other back from our own goals, and he did not try to influence my vet school decision at all. Luckily for me it was not as cut and dry as a decision between school and him, because even if I stayed and went to Tufts, he doesn't know where he will be in another year. But it still wasn't easy, and I feel for you all!

 

[twosoakers]

i'm leaving mine here in indiana. he followed me out to purdue from eastern pa so that i could do the phd thing. and now he's staying here while i head out to so cal (with my three dogs and umpteen cats--i'm bringing two with me, though). but he jumped into the engineering program at purdue, so he'll be fine for awhile. and i'll be studying sixteen hour days. sigh.

 

[linzucf]

Mine is staying here in Florida while I move to Kansas. I don't know how well it is going to go. We have been dating 3.5 years. We had a lot of trouble earlier this year and worked everything out and now are better than ever. It hurts me to leave, but it hurts more that he won't come with me.

 

[Spartanvet4cows]

Well, we haven't had to move away from eachother yet, but come the end of my 3rd year some tough decisions may need to be made. My husband is a PhD student (theoretical chemistry, I think he spends more time at school than I do). He's a year ahead of me, and so he will have to find something to do for a year before I graduate. Also, I'm joining the army and will have at least a one year overseas commitment that he may not be able to join me for.
For those of you who have had to leave your s/o, best of luck. Sometimes when you're extremely stressed, it will almost be a blessing because he or she is not there to snap at. (I have lots of experience with that, it sucks). But then sometimes you'll need a shoulder to cry on. I find that fellow vet students can be wonderful sounding boards, and many of them have been through the same thing or worse. Don't be afraid to talk to people about your feelings! If anyone is coming to MSU, and needs someone to talk to, I'm available, just send me a PM so I can let you know who I am.

 

[hopefulinPA]

I just wanted to add a little hope for those living apart as well 🙂

Although I won't start at Penn until this fall, SO and I have been living apart since last June. He took a banking job in Manhattan (always been his dream) but I needed to keep my PA residency and rent was free at home. So, for the last year we haven't been together for more than 4 consecutive days (now that I type it out it makes me 😱) He will finish up another year in NY, then at the end of my first year will be moving to Philadelphia.

Honestly the living apart was much harder for him than it was for me. I was super busy, and had lots to worry about. I would wager it might be the same for those of you moving away for vet school. But he was used to me always being home when he was home, and there with him every weekend. At first what I perceived as his clinging really annoyed me, it seemed like he called all. the. time. Later I realized he was just as scared then once we were actually 3 hours apart as I had been before we moved apart, so I tried to be more understanding.

Now we balance honesty about when we feel like talking on the phone and when we actually have time to talk on the phone and travel to visit. That was the hardest for us, and I strongly rec. having an honest discussion about your time constraints (ie. "Sometimes I will want to visit you or want to talk to you, but I just cannot do it. It doesn't have anything to do with you personally, it is my work as a student/tech/whatever.") We see eachother about 2x a month or more if schedules allow. He's taking a "slower" (haha it's all relative on Wall Street I suppose) job starting in December because he knows I will not be traveling to NY at all on weekends of my first year.

In the long run this has made our relationship stronger I think - it's been really great to have him be so supportive of me and my goals. When I could easily get a job in NY and we could be together he has never once thrown it in my face when I get upset about us being apart. So it can be done - have faith and get on a good wireless plan so you can talk a lot without running up the bills 😀 😛

 

[alliecat44]

Wow, reading this thread has been extremely helpful. Thanks to everyone for sharing their own personal situations. It's really nice to have a support group here for folks like us!

I'll be leaving my boyfriend of 11 months (by then) behind in DC while I go to Kansas. We're about to move in together (this week!) for the last couple of months before my big move, and then he and I are driving cross-country on an extended vacation as he helps me get settled. We met two weeks before my application was due, and he helped me finalize my personal statement, prepare for my interview (and flew out there with me), and dozens of other things to help me get ready. I feel so fortunate that he genuinely supports my goals and when I get worried, he tells me to follow my dreams and the rest will fall into place. He's looking into telecommuting one week a month from KS; with my spending one weekend a month at home, we're hoping that'll sustain us pretty well. Still, it's going to be hard...

On the other side of the coin, though, I would never ask him to move out there at this stage in our relationship. On the one hand, I respect him and his own career far too much to do that; on another, I know it would be so detrimental to studying. I'd constantly feel guilty and like I have to entertain him as he searches for his own social base...and probably not spend nearly as much time on my studies! So, there IS a bright side...

I really admire and respect all of you dealing with this bittersweet issue. I really hope people continue to post thoughts and ideas!

How lucky are we to have both a great relationship AND our dream coming true? At the end of the day, these are the good kinds of problems to have... 🙂

 

[JumptheMoon]

How lucky are we to have both a great relationship AND our dream coming true? At the end of the day, these are the good kinds of problems to have... 🙂

Thank you, Allie, for the gentle nudge out of the self-pity party! So true. To be actively pursuing your own goal while being supported by someone who loves you enough to brave the distance, and is also ambitious and driven enough to chase his/her own dreams...lucky indeed! 😍

 

[jnt179]

My boyfriend of 1 1/2 years was the one to convince me to go on to vet school. We have done the long distance thing even though he goes to the same University. We were apart for 6 months while he was training to go to Iraq. He is back now, but his family is 3 1/2 hours away. He usually goes there for a week and then comes back home for a week. I think I have seen him for 12 hours in the past 3 weeks. It has been kinda sucky. I am really glad to have him though. I called him last night crying because I had a Microbiology test that I was so stressed out about. (gotta love those wonderful 2 1/2 week mini summer classes.) He made everything better. He is also going to move with me if and when I get into vet school.

 

[doxiepup]

Thanks for starting this thread. I have been dealing with this bittersweet issue for a while and it is really helpful to know that other fellow students are going through the same thing. I am going to Kansas and leaving my SO behind in California. He just started his phD and won't be finished with his program for 3...4....5... more years. We are just taking it one step at a time.

 

[wildfocus]

wow - there's a whole bunch of you at KSU (i remember cookiebear saying she may be in the same situation herself). you all just may be the majority there and can have a whole club or something. 😀

 

[River5]

My boyfriend of three years decided to not move (not even to another state even though he is not committed to a job) so I decided to go to New Zealand. My family says he doesn't care for me enough, but I can't admit that to myself just yet. It really really hurts!

I hear you there dandyandy. My husband and I faced a similar issue not too long ago. I don't know your relationship of course, but I can tell you that even though it hurts and it makes you wonder why he won't move, sometimes, the other person has good reasons and it doesn't mean that he doesn't care about you enough. My husband is going to stay here in DC because he's a writer and his career is just starting to take off here. He's worked for this his whole life so he's going to stay and pursue it for a couple of years. But the compromise is that he will come join me for at least my last 2 years. 🙂

Btw, I thank everyone for sharing their stories. It is nice to have a chance to see how others have handled a similar, difficult, situation. And for those of us going to KSU, we should start a club...or something. (at least commiserate)

 

[CookieBear]

I definitely think us KSU'ers will need to start a club. Anyone going to begin the contest for naming it?

My fiance and I have been together for 16 years now, since high school. He has finally stopped showing lots of anger about me going, and I think he's now come to accept it alot better.

He'll be staying here in our house in NJ with his job that he enjoys, and I'll be 18 hours away in Kansas!

For all of you who will only have to deal with a 3.5 hour ride, you have it much better than I!

I don't know how he and I are going to do it, but we will. We've never been apart. He plans on coming to see me whenever we can work that, and I figure this may actually give me more time to hit the books and study the way I should.

 

[sofficat]

wow- you all deserve an award. i just finished celebrating my 1 yr with my husband this weekend (today actually... if you all are in FL camping- go to ginnie springs... it is amazing!). he is halting his career (he is in college too) to follow me to AL. i couldn't imagine what you all are going through. good luck!!

 

[Schmoe]

The "boyfriend" is an Air Force man currently stationed overseas. Right now he's in Germany and has 2 years left there. Hoping at that time he's done and will go civillian. He's thinking about it.

His family is supportive of everything. In fact his sister-in-law just offered me furniture for the new apartment. I hear from his folks frequently and they are almost as supportive as my folks. So that aspect is great to have.

bubbles525 - if you need a great chiropractor, my former one moved his family to Perth to teach at the University there. Let me know and I can get you his name. He's great!

 

[philomycus]

*IF* (and a strong if), I get into OK state, my hubby is coming with me

But like another person said in their situation, he'll be leaving his job that he absolutely loves behind and it pays well too. It makes me very nervous about being in college again after 7 yrs.

 

[mochavet]

Hi guys! I am in the same situation except I am moving 10,000 miles from my husband and two dogs. I'll be starting at Murdoch in Perth, Western Australia in July and my husband will be staying in Minnesota until his work visa is granted. We are hoping he will be able to come by February but it could take up to three years to get his visa granted. We have been together since we were freshman in high school (~13 years) and have only been separated by 3 hours at the most. This is gonna be hard🙁 . It is great to have the support here though. I wish everyone the best and we will make it work somehow!

 

[wildfocus]

bumping....

i was in fort collins by myself for the whole weekend to find a place to live and look around. at first i was so lonely, and called my mom nearly crying (weird, because usually i am excited about even 5 minutes to myself). then, i started feeling resentful - like how dare my husband not come with me. then, a little guilty b/c he needs to live his dreams too. now, i'm back home, back to a messier house than what i left, and back to daydreaming about me time again....

 

[fromjersey]

I just wanted to add a little hope for those living apart as well 🙂

Although I won't start at Penn until this fall, SO and I have been living apart since last June. He took a banking job in Manhattan (always been his dream) but I needed to keep my PA residency and rent was free at home. So, for the last year we haven't been together for more than 4 consecutive days (now that I type it out it makes me 😱) He will finish up another year in NY, then at the end of my first year will be moving to Philadelphia.

Honestly the living apart was much harder for him than it was for me. I was super busy, and had lots to worry about. I would wager it might be the same for those of you moving away for vet school. But he was used to me always being home when he was home, and there with him every weekend. At first what I perceived as his clinging really annoyed me, it seemed like he called all. the. time. Later I realized he was just as scared then once we were actually 3 hours apart as I had been before we moved apart, so I tried to be more understanding.

Now we balance honesty about when we feel like talking on the phone and when we actually have time to talk on the phone and travel to visit. That was the hardest for us, and I strongly rec. having an honest discussion about your time constraints (ie. "Sometimes I will want to visit you or want to talk to you, but I just cannot do it. It doesn't have anything to do with you personally, it is my work as a student/tech/whatever.") We see eachother about 2x a month or more if schedules allow. He's taking a "slower" (haha it's all relative on Wall Street I suppose) job starting in December because he knows I will not be traveling to NY at all on weekends of my first year.

In the long run this has made our relationship stronger I think - it's been really great to have him be so supportive of me and my goals. When I could easily get a job in NY and we could be together he has never once thrown it in my face when I get upset about us being apart. So it can be done - have faith and get on a good wireless plan so you can talk a lot without running up the bills 😀 😛

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[wildfocus]

maybe we could start sharing recipes for cooking for one?? i don't know how to cook only for myself any more.

 

[CookieBear]

maybe we could start sharing recipes for cooking for one?? i don't know how to cook only for myself any more.

No, no. We keep cooking the same, but we just end up eating twice as much.

Or, you only cook half as much as you did previously, because every night after you cook, you eat the remaining half of left-overs!

Alright, alright. Everyone, start posting recipes please.

 

[bubbles525]

No, no. We keep cooking the same, but we just end up eating twice as much.

Or, you only cook half as much as you did previously, because every night after you cook, you eat the remaining half of left-overs!

Alright, alright. Everyone, start posting recipes please.

I don't know how to cook for one..... I still live with my family right now so I'm cooking for FIVE at home and two when with my SO.... I'm doomed to eat left overs all of the time....

 

[CookieBear]

I think I'm going to live on cereal while in school.

 

[GallopRealyFast]

I know a vet is what I want to be...but my boyfriend of 3 years (since i was a senior in high school) made the ultimatum that he'll break up with me if I go away...We have a loving relationship other than that....These last two years in undergrad I have been torn by deciding between getting a degree in something I don't want because it dosen't require me to go away or go away to vet school.

I just made the decision to puruse my everlasting veterinary interest. He can take it how he wants to, whatever I am tired of being confused. If he stays with me great, if not, oh well it wasn't meant to be....I just needed to vent and I feel a lot better after making this decision.

Did anybody go through something similar to this how did it turn out? Anyway good luck to everybody starting in the fall!!

 

[bubbles525]

I know a vet is what I want to be...but my boyfriend of 3 years (since i was a senior in high school) made the ultimatum that he'll break up with me if I go away...We have a loving relationship other than that....These last two years in undergrad I have been torn by deciding between getting a degree in something I don't want because it dosen't require me to go away or go away to vet school.

I just made the decision to puruse my everlasting veterinary interest. He can take it how he wants to, whatever I am tired of being confused. If he stays with me great, if not, oh well it wasn't meant to be....I just needed to vent and I feel a lot better after making this decision.

Did anybody go through something similar to this how did it turn out? Anyway good luck to everybody starting in the fall!!

Vet med is a path that is often filled with choices that force you to compromise. You did the right thing in my opinion, a person, no matter how great otherwise, that will not compromise or move with you won't make a good partner to a vet. If this is really what you feel called to you'd be unhappy for the rest of your life with any other decision. Good luck!

 

[Max Power]

I've given up on men...so far all I see are ball-scratching ignorant perverts...I quit...I'm fine just being alone the rest of my life...my standards are just too high! Maybe it's just the Americans that are like that...I'll have to see what happens in Grenada

 

[JumptheMoon]

I know a vet is what I want to be...but my boyfriend of 3 years (since i was a senior in high school) made the ultimatum that he'll break up with me if I go away...We have a loving relationship other than that....These last two years in undergrad I have been torn by deciding between getting a degree in something I don't want because it dosen't require me to go away or go away to vet school.

I just made the decision to puruse my everlasting veterinary interest. He can take it how he wants to, whatever I am tired of being confused. If he stays with me great, if not, oh well it wasn't meant to be....I just needed to vent and I feel a lot better after making this decision.

Did anybody go through something similar to this how did it turn out? Anyway good luck to everybody starting in the fall!!

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Gallop, hugs to you for making a difficult decision! In my experience, an ultimatim like that does not usually result in a healthy relationship...one person always ends up resenting the other. But I feel for you, it feels terrible to have someone put you in that situation!

 

[philomycus]

I know a vet is what I want to be...but my boyfriend of 3 years (since i was a senior in high school) made the ultimatum that he'll break up with me if I go away...We have a loving relationship other than that....These last two years in undergrad I have been torn by deciding between getting a degree in something I don't want because it dosen't require me to go away or go away to vet school.

I just made the decision to puruse my everlasting veterinary interest. He can take it how he wants to, whatever I am tired of being confused. If he stays with me great, if not, oh well it wasn't meant to be....I just needed to vent and I feel a lot better after making this decision.

Did anybody go through something similar to this how did it turn out? Anyway good luck to everybody starting in the fall!!

This is what my EX-hisband said. I didn't apply 7 years ago, and we got divorced anyways. Never put a relationship above your dream job. My 2 cents

 

[CookieBear]

I know a vet is what I want to be...but my boyfriend of 3 years (since i was a senior in high school) made the ultimatum that he'll break up with me if I go away...We have a loving relationship other than that....These last two years in undergrad I have been torn by deciding between getting a degree in something I don't want because it dosen't require me to go away or go away to vet school.

I just made the decision to puruse my everlasting veterinary interest. He can take it how he wants to, whatever I am tired of being confused. If he stays with me great, if not, oh well it wasn't meant to be....I just needed to vent and I feel a lot better after making this decision.

Did anybody go through something similar to this how did it turn out? Anyway good luck to everybody starting in the fall!!

You're not alone at all. Follow your passion, and if it's meant to be with the guy, it will be, and if not, what did he expect? You to choose him and to forever regret not following your dream? You'd be an old lady, with or without him, always thinking, "I wonder if I could've been a vet..."

My husband has made a real big turnaround and has stopped complaining and making misery about this. We're going to be 18 hours apart soon, but I know we will make it work.

You just have to do it, for yourself. It sounds selfish to other people, but we on here understand, and it's the truth.

 

[GallopRealyFast]

Thanks for the support everybody nothing like this is ever easy. 🙂

 

[mochavet]

I've given up on men...so far all I see are ball-scratching ignorant perverts...I quit...I'm fine just being alone the rest of my life...my standards are just too high! Maybe it's just the Americans that are like that...I'll have to see what happens in Grenada

Don't give up! There are some good ones out there, you just gotta find em. I'm not saying that that's easy to do, but they are out there. My husband has encouraged me to go after my dream and has stuck by me the entire time. Now I am off to attend vet school in Australia and he is stuck in the states for another 6 months before he can join me. Every time I have just about convinced myself that I can't do it, he has given me a pep talk and I am back on track. I agree that there are a lot of ball-scratching ignorant perverts out there, but there are a few good men as well. Don't give up!🙂

 

[dandyandy]

Mochavet....you are so encouraging!!!

And GallopReallyFast....I went through a similar situation.....my boyfriend of 3 years and I were really close and planning on getting married and such, and when I applied last year he said that he would move anywhere I ended up going (because he is not yet committed to a job, still doesn't know what he even wants to do, and is a senior)....then came January and he told me that he wants to stay in Houston.......so anyway, for a while I decided that I would try to do the long distance thing but after he called New Zealand "Hell" and was not being supportive of me as I have always been of him, I decided that no matter how much it hurt, I had to end it....luckily my family helped me through it. So yeah, we broke up a month ago and it almost killed me but I feel better now about my decision. True love has no boundaries (I think) and you should find someone out there that wants to be with you no matter where you go (as long as you would do the same for them).

 

[sofficat]

gallop- you definitely made the right decision. i know you loved him, but he has to realize that you have dreams and he should support you.

for those of you that believe good men don't exist- don't give up!!! especially now that some of you are going to vet school, you're bound to find some keepers (but don't let that get in the way of your studies! 🙂)

luckily my husband and i met when we were 15 and have been so in love ever since. he is halting his career to move with me and has never said a single bad word about it. he is so supportive and i am so glad to have him. however, i did tell him from the beginning (yeah- 15 yr old) that i was going to be a vet, so he knew that nothing would stand in my way.

good luck to everyone!

 

[bclover]

I admire those of you going off to pursue your dreams w/o your SO - good luck! My dilemma is a bit different, but has been alluded to in earlier posts in this thread...

I have been married nearly 17 years, and, as you know, I have been taking a few final pre-reqs while still working at my current career in order to apply this fall. My husband is VERY supportive and knows that this is a lifelong dream that I have had, but is also a bit set in his ways (actually we both are 😳). I have a just a little niggling fear that we will grow apart as vet school (once I get in) will take up so much time, and we are used to having time for just about anything the other wants to do. We do talk honestly about it, but I'm not sure it has really sunk in for him, yet. Thoughts anyone?

 

[CookieBear]

luckily my husband and i met when we were 15 and have been so in love ever since. .... however, i did tell him from the beginning (yeah- 15 yr old) that i was going to be a vet, so he knew that nothing would stand in my way.
good luck to everyone!

This sounds familiar!

My husband and I met when I was 14, and we've been together ever since too. And even back then, I said I wanted veterinary school. I guess because I gave up at some point between then, and five years ago, perhaps he thought it was in the past! But, dreams die hard, yanno?


Ah, Clover... I fear the same. Especially because he and I will be so far apart. But, I'm thinking that's what the Verizon Freedom plan is for (unlimited long distance) and email and snail mail...

 

[Lab]

My SO and I have been together 3.5 years and long distance 3 years of that. Honestly, school is much easier w/o the other person around. I had a killer undergrad major and I doubt I would have done as well if we lived in the same town. So for all you guys nervous about the long distance thing, it's painful emotionally but great academically. Now that I got into vet school, he's moving here with me and I'm nervous how I'll handle school + living with him. However, I'll take poorer grades anyday not to be long distance anymore. Thank the lord for Verizon's unlimited network calling or we never would have lasted!

 

[CookieBear]

I know this may sound dorky, but for those who are doing the long distance thing like I am: my husband bought web cams for us. As an IT manager, he gets to test 'computer toys' like the cams at work. He went with the Microsoft LifeCam VX-3000 - good features for the price. He's got a Logitech at work, but after trying both, he thinks the Microsoft one is better.

Just posting it in case anyone likes the idea too.