Life sucks

[Lordhavemercy_onme]

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yesterday it sucks today it sucks and tomorrow it sucks. Which one sucks more? to be rejected by all medical schools or to be dumped by your soulmate or to be insulted by your parents or to be taken for a fool?
he thinks am a fool, he takes all my money, he always says he has a problem i give him all my money and then he disappears then he comes back after a week saying he loves me and asks for more money and sleeps with me when I don t give he refuses to sleep with me and abuses me and my parents insult me i moved out because i couldnt take it anymore and all my friends think am stupid am not stupid and all the medical schools think i don' deserve i deserve and my God is not saying anything when the whole world is abusin me like this i deserve to be happy am crying I DESERVE TO BE HAPPY

 

[tiedyeddog]

yesterday it sucks today it sucks and tomorrow it sucks. Which one sucks more? to be rejected by all medical schools or to be dumped by your soulmate or to be insulted by your parents or to be taken for a fool?
he thinks am a fool, he takes all my money, he always says he has a problem i give him all my money and then he disappears then he comes back after a week saying he loves me and asks for more money and sleeps with me when I don t give he refuses to sleep with me and abuses me and my parents insult me i moved out because i couldnt take it anymore and all my friends think am stupid am not stupid and all the medical schools think i don' deserve i deserve and my God is not saying anything when the whole world is abusin me like this i deserve to be happy am crying I DESERVE TO BE HAPPY

Sorry for the problems you are having in your life right now.

Sounds like whatever relationship you are in is not a healthy one....

 

[JubalHarshaw]

 

[sinombre]

Sorry you're having such a hard time right now. Remember that most people who apply to med school don't get in, and that there are many med students who had to apply more than once to get in. Keep your head up, get the hell out of that relationship, and try and surround yourself with positive people (if a "friend" is calling you stupid, they probably aren't really your friend).

 

[KungFuPanda123]

First of all, I'm sad to hear that your friends are distancing themselves from you or are not being the friends they should be. I hope there is someone in your life who you feel like you can lean on right now, despite so much of your support disappearing.

Second of all, life does have plenty of crap. I know that my relationship with someone ending was one of the crappiest feelings in my life (both of us felt like it should end, but it didn't make it any easier), so I cannot imagine how hard it is for you to have so many hardships falling your shoulders all at once.

That is not to say that you have nowhere to go from here. If you still work, keep working there and show that you care about your job. Demonstrate effort and the ability to overcome challenges. Your supervisor/boss will see your hardwork and see what you are capable of; this will pay off for your letter of recommendation in the future.

If you are not working right now or hate your work, start applying to other jobs so you can jump ship. Become part of a group/company that you could see yourself being passionate about. From there, you'll be able to meet plenty of people who care about you and who you will care about as well.

Build yourself from the ground up. It's not all over. No one, including you and I, DESERVE to be happy. We all DESERVE the OPPORTUNITY to become happy. Whether or not you choose to grab that opportunity is up to you, and if you do take the time and effort to grab ahold of those changes, happiness will come. If you need to, take a few days off of work/commitments and go to the beach (if you live nearby one) or go for a long hike. Just reflect on life and take in the natural beauty that is out there; it'll help re-center you.

 

[Lordhavemercy_onme]

Sorry you're having such a hard time right now. Remember that most people who apply to med school don't get in, and that there are many med students who had to apply more than once to get in. Keep your head up, get the hell out of that relationship, and try and surround yourself with positive people (if a "friend" is calling you stupid, they probably aren't really your friend).

Thank you for your reply. I had 3 interviews and they all rejected/deferred me whatever deferred means it hurts me so much. I want to leave this guy but I love him so much I can't. The other day he punched me on the face and threw boiling water on me I had to go to the hospital and had to lie that i was trying to make my hair curly and placed it in hot water and it burned me. Why is life so hard and painful and unfair at least if I got in medical school I would be comforted tremendously. I try so hard I work so hard but my life is so miserable.

 

[NontradCA]

You should seek professional help.

 

[sinombre]

Agreed. There's nothing wrong with venting online (although I'm pretty sure this isn't the correct place to do it), but it sounds like you really should seek professional help.

 

[Mad Jack]

 

[JP2740]

yesterday it sucks today it sucks and tomorrow it sucks. Which one sucks more? to be rejected by all medical schools or to be dumped by your soulmate or to be insulted by your parents or to be taken for a fool?
he thinks am a fool, he takes all my money, he always says he has a problem i give him all my money and then he disappears then he comes back after a week saying he loves me and asks for more money and sleeps with me when I don t give he refuses to sleep with me and abuses me and my parents insult me i moved out because i couldnt take it anymore and all my friends think am stupid am not stupid and all the medical schools think i don' deserve i deserve and my God is not saying anything when the whole world is abusin me like this i deserve to be happy am crying I DESERVE TO BE HAPPY

Where's your god now

 

[Lordhavemercy_onme]

You should seek professional help.

Ok I will though I can't afford it right now he takes all my money and leaves me with just enough for groceries. he always says he has a big project that will make him a millionnaire and he needs to invest im left with nothing. I had to cry for days for him to let me interview for medical school he wanted me to give him all that money so he could invest in his project.

 

[Lordhavemercy_onme]

Where's your god now

I don't know why my God has deserted me 🙁

 

[CircadianRhythm]

Ok I will though I can't afford it right now he takes all my money and leaves me with just enough for groceries. he always says he has a big project that will make him a millionnaire and he needs to invest im left with nothing. I had to cry for days for him to let me interview for medical school he wanted me to give him all that money so he could invest in his project.

Are you still a student? If so your school might offer free counseling. You need to leave your boyfriend, he's not going to change. If he loved you he would have never abused you, he's got serious issues that you cannot fix.

 

[LONG WAY]

IF SOMEONE TOLD YOU ... you r STUPID specially if that one is your friend then there is a one reason !
that reason is (YOU) !! ......yes you !
cuz u still let them close to you rather than leave them !!! and u still told them Friends ?!

and about that guy how abuse u ... NO ONE CAN ABUSE YOU UNTIL U LET HEM ABUSE U

so all that what happened to you ، It happened because of you

rethink again please

and try to find what u r deserve and draw your life again

 

[CircadianRhythm]

My mom was pre-med in college and was dating a medical student. He was very bright but abusive, and in her junior year she got pregnant with my brother. Her boyfriend left her and my grandmother kicked my mom out. It took her an extra year to finish school because of the maternity leave, and everyone told her that a single mother from an uneducated family would never be a physician. She worked as a medical assistant and her attendings would say "Come now, nursing is the better option for you". She eventually got into UMD and has been a practicing internist for the last 30 years.

Don't let other people determine yourself worth or what you can do. If this is your dream then go get it.

 

[JP2740]

Ok I will though I can't afford it right now he takes all my money and leaves me with just enough for groceries. he always says he has a big project that will make him a millionnaire and he needs to invest im left with nothing. I had to cry for days for him to let me interview for medical school he wanted me to give him all that money so he could invest in his project.

lol

 

[sinombre]

lol

I know it seems like a troll thread, but it's a common enough situation to warrant serious responses. Probably best to not reply at all rather than mock someone potentially in a ****ty situation.

 

[Lordhavemercy_onme]

Are you still a student? If so your school might offer free counseling. You need to leave your boyfriend, he's not going to change. If he loved you he would have never abused you, he's got serious issues that you cannot fix.

No unfortunately am no longer a student am working full time. Yes you are right but I love him so much I can't live without him he is the only person who tells me I love you even though he abuses me he s my only love. My parents insult me all the time and my friends say am stupid he s the only one who cares for me.

 

[CircadianRhythm]

No unfortunately am no longer a student am working full time. Yes you are right but I love him so much I can't live without him he is the only person who tells me I love you even though he abuses me he s my only love. My parents insult me all the time and my friends say am stupid he s the only one who cares for me.

You can live without him. One of my professors use to say "If you wage a war against reality you will always lose." The reality of your situation is that your boyfriend is abusive, and this hurts you deeply. By staying with him and trying to make it work you are fighting against the reality that is your boyfriend's abusive nature. No good can come for this, you gotta get help and get out.

 

[Lordhavemercy_onme]

IF SOMEONE TOLD YOU ... you r STUPID specially if that one is your friend then there is a one reason !
that reason is (YOU) !! ......yes you !
cuz u still let them close to you rather than leave them !!! and u still told them Friends ?!

and about that guy how abuse u ... NO ONE CAN ABUSE YOU UNTIL U LET HEM ABUSE U

so all that what happened to you ، It happened because of you

rethink again please

and try to find what u r deserve and draw your life again

I just pray he changes and he promised he would but he always does the same thing. But I will continue to pray so he will change he promised.

 

[Shjanzey]

Where's your god now

lol

Dick move man. Usually you are on point, but today, wow.

 

[Wordead]

I hear religious people say God helps those who help themselves, so maybe stop complaining on SDN and go do something about your situation

 

[NontradCA]

I just pray he changes and he promised he would but he always does the same thing. But I will continue to pray so he will change he promised.

This thread is more appropriate for another forum if you are looking for a social support group. This has nothing to do with medical school. But, you should seek professional help. We're not qualified to give you advice and dont know you or your situation enough to help you with it. Mods, can you please close this thread? Or move it?

 

[agilevin]

yesterday it sucks today it sucks and tomorrow it sucks. Which one sucks more? to be rejected by all medical schools or to be dumped by your soulmate or to be insulted by your parents or to be taken for a fool?
he thinks am a fool, he takes all my money, he always says he has a problem i give him all my money and then he disappears then he comes back after a week saying he loves me and asks for more money and sleeps with me when I don t give he refuses to sleep with me and abuses me and my parents insult me i moved out because i couldnt take it anymore and all my friends think am stupid am not stupid and all the medical schools think i don' deserve i deserve and my God is not saying anything when the whole world is abusin me like this i deserve to be happy am crying I DESERVE TO BE HAPPY

I'm really sorry life feels so hard for you now, but try to think about what loves means to you and to everyone else: would you ever punch, throw scalding water on, or in any other way abuse someone you love? You wouldn't, I wouldn't, and nobody else--no man or woman--would ever do it. Think about your family and friends--are they speaking to you or treating you this way because they cannot stand to see you abused this way, throwing your life away for some abuser? How would you feel if someone you love (a friend, a little sister, your mom) would allow herself to be the punching bag of someone?! They might be suffering too...You are stronger than you think, and you can be happy--but you have to open your eyes and stand up for yourself. You will find love and you will find friends--but you have to love yourself enough to step away from your abusers.

 

[touchpause13]

I highly suggest getting in contact with your local women's shelter they will be able to provide you resources for the help you need.
Sorry some people here are being jerks, and I wish you the best

 

[Ismet]

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