Long distance relationship n PT school

[futuredpt2017]

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Hey there,
I have just been accepted into PT school to my top choice and am so excited but the only downside is that it is an 8 hour drive from where I currently have been living/attending my undergrad. I have been in a serious relationship for 3.5 years now and my boyfriend was just offered a job here, therefore our plan of moving together is no longer an option. Just wondering if anyone out there has made the long distance for 3 years work and if there are any tips to surviving the distance while I will be in school? Thanks!

 

[scrawnyguy]

Hey there,
I have just been accepted into PT school to my top choice and am so excited but the only downside is that it is an 8 hour drive from where I currently have been living/attending my undergrad. I have been in a serious relationship for 3.5 years now and my boyfriend was just offered a job here, therefore our plan of moving together is no longer an option. Just wondering if anyone out there has made the long distance for 3 years work and if there are any tips to surviving the distance while I will be in school? Thanks!

It's possible but rough. I'm married now, but back in my Army days I had long distance relationships during a couple of my deployments. Each of those was for about a year at a time. It wasn't the 3 years of PT school, but I was halfway across the world, internet access was intermittent at best, and people were trying to blow me up so it had its own challenges. The first time it killed my relationship. The second time it made it stronger and that girl ended up being my wife. We made it work by communicating in every way possible: phone calls, letters, emails, Skype, you name it. It was definitely hard at times but we made it work. I think a lot of if not only has to do with your individual relationship but on where you and your significant other are in life. At 22 I never would have been able to make something like that work, but at 32 I was slightly more mature and patient.

In my program now I would say about 1/3 of the class started in long distance relationships. Of that 1/3 I would say close to half are actually engaged now so their relationships are probably stronger as well. The other half seem to be having issues. A couple of relationships are on the rocks and it wouldn't be a shocker if they didn't last until summer.

Honestly though, 8 hours isn't all that far away. You could probably take turns making the drive on the weekends if you wanted. Possibly even every other weekend if that's too much. It's definitely doable.

 

[l3orecl]

Hey there,
I have just been accepted into PT school to my top choice and am so excited but the only downside is that it is an 8 hour drive from where I currently have been living/attending my undergrad. I have been in a serious relationship for 3.5 years now and my boyfriend was just offered a job here, therefore our plan of moving together is no longer an option. Just wondering if anyone out there has made the long distance for 3 years work and if there are any tips to surviving the distance while I will be in school? Thanks!

I am halfway through my 2nd year of DPT school. Long story short, my wife and I were living in Utah when I got my acceptance in May 2015 to goto PT school in Los Angeles. Awesome! Yay! etc etc. ...We found out In June 2015 we're going to be parents...Yikes! Financially for us, we knew it would be difficult to up root, move to LA, pay rent for a family of 3. So my wife stayed in Utah where she had a well paying job while I went to LA by myself to start school. Month-ish before the baby was due, she moved to Arizona to live with family (free healthcare since she's Native---so $0 Baby bill). We long-distanced it while she was in Utah, and now are still doing it while she is in AZ with the baby now. She's about 8hrs away and I try to make the trip as much as possible. Once I start my clinical rotations, so plan on being together my final 3rd year of PT school. It has been ROUGH for her as you can imagine. Raising a child by herself while I'm out here in LA LA Land. Communication, making the effort to see each other, we do what we can, but without much income other than loans, it has been challenging. IM me and I can give you more personal, deeper perspective, but I know in the end, a DPT degree in the end will make this hell worth it.

 

[Kinesio19]

I am almost done with my first year of PT school and I'm in a long distance relationship with a medical student three hours apart, that I've been with for two years. It takes sacrifice and patience, he does most of the driving but he is perfectly willing to do it so it works for us. We are both busy and the time between weekends flies by. We see each other about 3 out of 4 weekends each month.

 

[truthseeker]

if it is right, it will work out

 

[preptkittty123]

Hey there,
I have just been accepted into PT school to my top choice and am so excited but the only downside is that it is an 8 hour drive from where I currently have been living/attending my undergrad. I have been in a serious relationship for 3.5 years now and my boyfriend was just offered a job here, therefore our plan of moving together is no longer an option. Just wondering if anyone out there has made the long distance for 3 years work and if there are any tips to surviving the distance while I will be in school? Thanks!

Hi, I am not in PT school nor ever done a long distance relationship.

But I do know plenty of people who have made long distance work. My roommate in undergrad was long distance for 4 years about a 3 hour drive and now they are engaged and long distance again for grad school (idk too many details, we don't talk anymore.) I also have a good friend who is in a long distance relationship he lives in Sweden and his bf lives in the UK and they seem to be making it work. I also had a friend who was engaged after undergrad living in VA, and her fiance lived in CA for a year and now they are married! I definitely think it is possible! Most people who I know who were long distance only had to be for a year or so, so I know 3 years seems rough. But hey if you get your clinical experiences placed near them it will only be 2 and 1/2 years!!!

I think as long as you both can compromise on how much you need to see eachother, and talk via skype, messaging, etc. then things will work out 🙂. Anyway, I'm sure you will have lots of fun times together during breaks. Also, idk where you are but flights for a weekend can be affordable depending on where you are going. I flew from VA to my interview at URI roundtrip for less than $100.00 and it was like a 1 hour flight.

& honestly you will probably do better in school since your bf is further away (I assume that will be less distracting for the most part, since he can't bug you to hangout when you should be studying!)

I am currently on 5 waitlists for PT schools ranging from 2-6 hours away & RECENTLY like a month ago got into a relationship. So at least you guys have been together for a while and will have a strong relationship going into the long distance thing.

Good luck 🙂