Lying about your profession on a date?

[VendettaCross]

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I made a promise to not get into a relationship until after I finished all of my training before going to medical school and residency and I rightfully kept that promise untill I finished residency a couple of years ago. So now, I'm in my early 30's and single. I have to say I really enjoyed parts of it, but last year I decided to start dating again. That was when it started.

This is how the conversation went every single date..

-Small talk, but eventually we get to this question-

Woman: "So...what do you do?"

Me: "I'm a urologist."

Women: "What is that? Like a urine sampler" - (Really heard that once. Haha)

Me: "Ha-ha, no. I'm a medical doctor who specializes in treating diseases of the urinary track and other sexual organs with medicine and surgery"

Women: "Oh my god! That's so cool!"

Me:" Oh? Ha-ha its prett- (Starts cutting me off..)

Women: "I mean how awesome is it that you get to save lives every single day and do surgery! That has to be like the greatest job in the world!"

Me: "Well I do a lot of things but I don't save lives every-

Women: "God! Your patients are so lucky to have someone like you."

Me: "Oh thank-

Women: "Have you ever held a heart?"

And thats ALL we talk about for the rest of the evening. I mean I can understand the admiration for what I do, but if I wanted to talk about my surgeries I would have stayed in the hospital and talked to the other surgeons and urologist. I would much rather talk about the wine, your job, your aspirations in life, not my radical prostatectomy yesterday morning.

So, I decided to start lying about my profession. Maybe start claiming to be a engineer or accountant. I dunno, just something. Do any single resident/attending have this problem? I know most of you are married, but I would still like to here your take.

 

[Bartelby]

Why not just talk about it for a minute or two and then redirect the conversation? I imagine that girls would be a little put off when they later found out how easy it was for you to lie to them on a first date.

 

[MilkmanAl]

Like or not, medicine is pretty cool and foreign to a lot of people. While you might not want to talk about it, just go with it. Take it as a positive that she actually gives enough of a crap to figure out what you do professionally.

 

[Nomdeplume]

"What do I do for a living?" I am cleaner. I clean anything...

But on a more serious note, this 👍

Like or not, medicine is pretty cool and foreign to a lot of people. While you might not want to talk about it, just go with it. Take it as a positive that she actually gives enough of a crap to figure out what you do professionally.

Sometimes I do actually lie and say I'm an astronaut. I wish...

 

[Postal]

Don't lie about your profession. That's no way to start a relationship. Be flattered that people think what you do is so amazing. After the flattery, simply redirect the conversation to something else

 

[Untraditional]

Whats the point? If you're dating for the purpose of eventually cultivating relationships lying is a bad way to start...

 

[Lunasly]

Maybe she would have asked you to check out her sexual organ on the first date? 😉

 

[tiedyeddog]

Whats the point? If you're dating for the purpose of eventually cultivating relationships lying is a bad way to start...

haha, how does this stratergy work, longterm?

First date
Her: So, what do you do?
You: Uh, I am an entrepreneur.
Her: What exactly is that?
You: Well... I buy and sell stuff.

Three months later
Her: Honey, I'll meet you in thirty minutes at (insert fancy restaurant)
You: Uhm, well, I just a called in for a case of Fournier's gangrene at the hospital...
Her: What? Hospital? Why do you need to go to the hospital?
You: Oh, yeah, forgot to mention I am really a doctor. I work on the male genitourinay system to be exact. Sometimes I sell my used golf clubs on ebay, so I am an entrepreneur in my spare time....
Her: ....wtf?

 

[calvnandhobbs68]

Like or not, medicine is pretty cool and foreign to a lot of people. While you might not want to talk about it, just go with it. Take it as a positive that she actually gives enough of a crap to figure out what you do professionally.

Embrace the fact that you're a baller doctor. If that's what she wants to talk about, roll with it and get her excited enough to check out her sexual organ (as someone else already said). You're way cooler than an engineer (unless they work for Apple or Google or something) or an accountant or a consultant or whatever.

I don't get it, do you never get past the first date with these girls? By the second or third, they're not gonna be asking what you do anymore and they're not going to bring it up out of the blue. If they ask how work was a simple answer and deflection about how their day/work/trip to the mall was will get her talking about herself again. This is really a first date kind of problem...move a little further forward and I think you'll find that this should resolve itself.

 

[Alby]

Why don't you just date another medical professional? She will likely be less awe-struck and probably won't want to talk medicine during off hours. Bonus: she will be more understanding of your hours.

 

[Smurfette]

I made a promise to not get into a relationship until after I finished all of my training before going to medical school and residency and I rightfully kept that promise untill I finished residency a couple of years ago. So now, I'm in my early 30's and single. I have to say I really enjoyed parts of it, but last year I decided to start dating again. That was when it started.

This is how the conversation went every single date..

-Small talk, but eventually we get to this question-

Woman: "So...what do you do?"

Me: "I'm a urologist."

Women: "What is that? Like a urine sampler" - (Really heard that once. Haha)

Me: "Ha-ha, no. I'm a medical doctor who specializes in treating diseases of the urinary track and other sexual organs with medicine and surgery"

Women: "Oh my god! That's so cool!"

Me:" Oh? Ha-ha its prett- (Starts cutting me off..)

Women: "I mean how awesome is it that you get to save lives every single day and do surgery! That has to be like the greatest job in the world!"

Me: "Well I do a lot of things but I don't save lives every-

Women: "God! Your patients are so lucky to have someone like you."

Me: "Oh thank-

Women: "Have you ever held a heart?"

And thats ALL we talk about for the rest of the evening. I mean I can understand the admiration for what I do, but if I wanted to talk about my surgeries I would have stayed in the hospital and talked to the other surgeons and urologist. I would much rather talk about the wine, your job, your aspirations in life, not my radical prostatectomy yesterday morning.

So, I decided to start lying about my profession. Maybe start claiming to be a engineer or accountant. I dunno, just something. Do any single resident/attending have this problem? I know most of you are married, but I would still like to here your take.

I don't tell people what I do unless they work with physicians or have physician friends. I've learned that otherwise I get reactions that simply make me uncomfortable or comments that make me mad. Sometimes I say I'm a surgical tech or am just evasive "I work in the OR at the hospital" and test the waters. Obviously, at some point you need to fess up if you are going to continue dating the person.

Then again, I'm female. Most men find what I do intimidating.

 

[st0w]

Embrace the fact that you're a ball doctor.

There, I fixed it for you.

 

[calvnandhobbs68]

There, I fixed it for you.

Touche

 

[235009]

I made a promise to not get into a relationship until after I finished all of my training before going to medical school and residency and I rightfully kept that promise untill I finished residency a couple of years ago. So now, I'm in my early 30's and single. I have to say I really enjoyed parts of it, but last year I decided to start dating again. That was when it started.

This is how the conversation went every single date..

-Small talk, but eventually we get to this question-

Woman: "So...what do you do?"

Me: "I'm a urologist."

Women: "What is that? Like a urine sampler" - (Really heard that once. Haha)

Me: "Ha-ha, no. I'm a medical doctor who specializes in treating diseases of the urinary track and other sexual organs with medicine and surgery"

Women: "Oh my god! That's so cool!"

Me:" Oh? Ha-ha its prett- (Starts cutting me off..)

Women: "I mean how awesome is it that you get to save lives every single day and do surgery! That has to be like the greatest job in the world!"

Me: "Well I do a lot of things but I don't save lives every-

Women: "God! Your patients are so lucky to have someone like you."

Me: "Oh thank-

Women: "Have you ever held a heart?"

And thats ALL we talk about for the rest of the evening. I mean I can understand the admiration for what I do, but if I wanted to talk about my surgeries I would have stayed in the hospital and talked to the other surgeons and urologist. I would much rather talk about the wine, your job, your aspirations in life, not my radical prostatectomy yesterday morning.

So, I decided to start lying about my profession. Maybe start claiming to be a engineer or accountant. I dunno, just something. Do any single resident/attending have this problem? I know most of you are married, but I would still like to here your take.

with all due respect, you, my friend, are a *****.

this is a perfect example of what happens when someone puts their social life on hold in their 20s ...they become socially stunted and no longer know how to talk to women.

Here let me help you out with some pointers:


Woman: "So...what do you do?"

Me: "I'm a doctor." (why on earth would you start with urologist?! i can understand if you were a neurosurgeon [brain surgeon] or plastic surgeon, people are very familiar with those and would find them even more impressive than just plain old doctor. it's like telling a woman you're an "intern" or "resident" ...hardly anyone knows much of anything about medicine, especially healthy people in their 20s and 30s who have had zero exposure to medicine.)



Women: "I mean how awesome is it that you get to save lives every single day and do surgery! That has to be like the greatest job in the world!"

Me: talk about how you love your job and how you're super important to your patients, in a humble but not self-deprecating fashion.




Women: "Have you ever held a heart?"

Me: No, but this one time I.... (tell your most awesome girl-friendly patient story from med school/residency/whatever...doesn't matter when it happened as long as it's cool/interesting. and by girl-friendly i mean, no **** or death!)



it's insane that you think any woman would be more interested in an engineer or accountant. yea... those are total panty-drenchers! 🙄

 

[Dr Love]

Tell her you are a cab driver. Then stick your head up high and mention that you only drive "in very exclusive neighborhoods". Make sure you project a sense of undeserved pride.

That will end her inquiring more into your work life. Take it from me, the love doctor.

 

[thomprya]

Not a doc yet but I feel for you. Of all the problems in the world to have this is a pretty good one but I definitely understand. I hang around my non medical friends of friends quite a bit and honestly it gets somewhat tiring to have the same conversation over and over again when they find out you are going to be a doc (or are a doc in your case). For me I just drop the "I'm in grad school" line and then redirect and that works pretty well. For you just say I work at the hospital. If they press me, I of course answer and have a brief q and a session with them about what I do then just redirect to them and what they do. Works fine for me. Don't lie unless you are not looking for something long term.

 

[JP2740]

Do the deed in your white coat

 

[Rollo]

Why jump straight to "I'm a urologist"?

Keep it vague, have an air of mystery about you. Let the women fish out what it is that you do. Think of yourself as a riddle that they have to solve. Try this next time..

"What do you do?"
"I help people. So what do you think of this part of the city?"
....blah blah 15 minutes later and she's curious....
"So how do you help people?"
"With my hands...sometimes I use my brain and sometimes a shiny metal object...so tell me more about your hometown"
....blah blah 15 minutes later and she's more curious....
"What exactly do you do for people with your hands?"
"Well, I listen to them, the problem they're having, and provide reassurance that things will be ok and sometimes that requires the use of my hands and that shiny metal object I mentioned earlier."
...blah blah 15 minutes later and now she's getting horny...
"No really, you're being really vague now. Can you at least tell me where you work?"
"It's a place where some go to die, some go to live. It's a place where others receive hope, yet some don't. It's a place filled with paradoxes. Tell me about your last out-of-country trip you took."
.
.
.
and so on...

At some point, you will have to cave, of course. But by then, you will have built up her expectations of what you do and you will not disappoint seeing how being a doctor still makes people go, "Ooohh...that's interesting..."

 

[235009]

"What do you do?"
"I help people. So what do you think of this part of the city?"
....blah blah 15 minutes later and she's curious....
"So how do you help people?"
"With my hands...sometimes I use my brain and sometimes a shiny metal object...so tell me more about your hometown"
....blah blah 15 minutes later and she's more curious....
"What exactly do you do for people with your hands?"
"Well, I listen to them, the problem they're having, and provide reassurance that things will be ok and sometimes that requires the use of my hands and that shiny metal object I mentioned earlier."
...blah blah 15 minutes later and now she's getting horny...
"No really, you're being really vague now. Can you at least tell me where you work?"
"It's a place where some go to die, some go to live. It's a place where others receive hope, yet some don't. It's a place filled with paradoxes. Tell me about your last out-of-country trip you took."

wow way to combine tool, douche, creep, and troll (the kind that lives under a bridge) into one conversation! this is so astonishingly condescending and holier than thou...and i really hope you see that. "I help people" *BARF* "shiny metal object" ....u sound like a serial killer

 

[MilkmanAl]

wow way to combine tool, douche, creep, and troll (the kind that lives under a bridge) into one conversation! this is so astonishingly condescending and holier than thou...and i really hope you see that. "I help people" *BARF* "shiny metal object" ....u sound like a serial killer

Yeah...that would not exactly be my first choice of approaches.

 

[C5toC9]

wow that was creepy

 

[YH5]

Why jump straight to "I'm a urologist"?

Keep it vague, have an air of mystery about you. Let the women fish out what it is that you do. Think of yourself as a riddle that they have to solve. Try this next time..

"What do you do?"
"I help people. So what do you think of this part of the city?"
....blah blah 15 minutes later and she's curious....
"So how do you help people?"
"With my hands...sometimes I use my brain and sometimes a shiny metal object...so tell me more about your hometown"
....blah blah 15 minutes later and she's more curious....
"What exactly do you do for people with your hands?"
"Well, I listen to them, the problem they're having, and provide reassurance that things will be ok and sometimes that requires the use of my hands and that shiny metal object I mentioned earlier."
...blah blah 15 minutes later and now she's getting horny...
"No really, you're being really vague now. Can you at least tell me where you work?"
"It's a place where some go to die, some go to live. It's a place where others receive hope, yet some don't. It's a place filled with paradoxes. Tell me about your last out-of-country trip you took."
.
.
.
and so on...

At some point, you will have to cave, of course. But by then, you will have built up her expectations of what you do and you will not disappoint seeing how being a doctor still makes people go, "Ooohh...that's interesting..."

 

[Valadi]

wow way to combine tool, douche, creep, and troll (the kind that lives under a bridge) into one conversation! this is so astonishingly condescending and holier than thou...and i really hope you see that. "I help people" *BARF* "shiny metal object" ....u sound like a serial killer

Lol agreed. Very serial killer to continually throw out riddles. "Some people go there to live, some go to die..." LOLOL

As a generally rule, you can be vague in response to a question once, but next time they ask just tell the truth..

And honestly, if the girl you were on a date with was an astronaut, would you start asking her about wine preferences or be like, "HOLY ****! What's space like?"

It's normal to get excited about things that are foreign to you. I think the best response is to share that excitement for a little while (you probably are a little excited about your job too, right?) and then transition.

 

[pkwraith]

I see your conundrum. The solution: for dates, wear your white coat and bring a copy of your CV for her. Also a personal statement (you can probably rehash your old AMCAS application if you still have it).

Have her review your history and professional goals and have a quick one minute Q & A session. After that you can move onto a conversation of your choosing with very little time wasted. That should take care of your problem.

 

[upright]

I work with dicks alright. I work with dicks!!!

 

[upright]

Consider the OP's "problem" Exhibit Q12.34 in my long case against the medical student and resultant physician. A bunch of ****ing weirdos.

Hey bro, tell her you're a doctor.

Jesus Christ.

 

[FIREitUP]

"Hey, Paul?"

 

[Freakfarm0]

I made a promise to not get into a relationship until after I finished all of my training before going to medical school and residency and I rightfully kept that promise untill I finished residency a couple of years ago. So now, I'm in my early 30's and single. I have to say I really enjoyed parts of it, but last year I decided to start dating again. That was when it started.

This is how the conversation went every single date..

-Small talk, but eventually we get to this question-

Woman: "So...what do you do?"

Me: "I'm a urologist."

Women: "What is that? Like a urine sampler" - (Really heard that once. Haha)

Me: "Ha-ha, no. I'm a medical doctor who specializes in treating diseases of the urinary track and other sexual organs with medicine and surgery"

Women: "Oh my god! That's so cool!"

Me:" Oh? Ha-ha its prett- (Starts cutting me off..)

Women: "I mean how awesome is it that you get to save lives every single day and do surgery! That has to be like the greatest job in the world!"

Me: "Well I do a lot of things but I don't save lives every-

Women: "God! Your patients are so lucky to have someone like you."

Me: "Oh thank-

Women: "Have you ever held a heart?"

And thats ALL we talk about for the rest of the evening. I mean I can understand the admiration for what I do, but if I wanted to talk about my surgeries I would have stayed in the hospital and talked to the other surgeons and urologist. I would much rather talk about the wine, your job, your aspirations in life, not my radical prostatectomy yesterday morning.

So, I decided to start lying about my profession. Maybe start claiming to be a engineer or accountant. I dunno, just something. Do any single resident/attending have this problem? I know most of you are married, but I would still like to here your take.

If marriage is your goal:
First off, it sounds like you are dating the wrong type of woman. It may just be the way I'm reading your conversation, but interrupting people when they speak to say what you want is a terrible quality.
Secondly, you cannot start a relationship with a lie, especially about something as important as your career. Tell them you are a doctor. When/if they ask you what kind, briefly explain what you do. Then express interest in what they do. Then move on.

However, if just getting laid is your goal, tell them you are in plastics or neurosurgery. Chances are you know enough about it to fool just about any woman (not involved in medicine) into believing you.

Good luck!

 

[thomprya]

I see your conundrum. The solution: for dates, wear your white coat and bring a copy of your CV for her. Also a personal statement (you can probably rehash your old AMCAS application if you still have it).

Have her review your history and professional goals and have a quick one minute Q & A session. After that you can move onto a conversation of your choosing with very little time wasted. That should take care of your problem.

👍 That's why when I go out I don't just invite one girl; that's soooo 1960. Nowadays I invite 10 and have an MMI style format with the ladies. They all get my CV beforehand and are allowed to ask as many questions as they want in 10min. The romantic night ends with saliva samples from the lucky ladies to test for genetic compatibility. If in one week you receive a rose in the mail congrats you are in the top 5!

 

[ushush]

I don't think the op is an attending. He probably hopes that when he does become a 35yo attending women will finally recognize him. But in reality most drs are married to ugly women🙁 I think it's because most drs are cheap and attractive women see right through them.

 

[upright]

I don't think the op is an attending. He probably hopes that when he does become a 35yo attending women will finally recognize him. But in reality most drs are married to ugly women🙁 I think it's because most drs are cheap and attractive women see right through them.

Nice catch. The OP is a hyper-masturbatory virgin med student douche wondering how the rarified med student aire of UROLOGIST plays to the real world once attending life begins.

To answer: they don't know what a urologist is. You'll have to exlplain it to them. Somewhere in the explanation will come the word "expert" followed by "dick" or "penis". Enjoy.

 

[JP2740]

I don't think the op is an attending. He probably hopes that when he does become a 35yo attending women will finally recognize him. But in reality most drs are married to ugly women🙁 I think it's because most drs are cheap and attractive women see right through them.

lol is this true?

 

[VendettaCross]

Haha, this has become quite the interesting topic since I left. Keep the name calling to a minimum would you? I can see your points. No, I didn't cast away my social life I just did not get into any serious relationships. I'll ignore the ***** statement since your all still med students.

I don't automatically just give up after a first date. We keep in contact, but they always stress my job. I honestly couldn't care less about which career a woman prefers. I did not go into medicine to become a pimp. The problem arises when she automatically locks on to my job description and just can't look at anything else. Your right though, I may be dating the wrong type of women.

I see your conundrum. The solution: for dates, wear your white coat and bring a copy of your CV for her. Also a personal statement (you can probably rehash your old AMCAS application if you still have it).

Have her review your history and professional goals and have a quick one minute Q & A session. After that you can move onto a conversation of your choosing with very little time wasted. That should take care of your problem.

You sir, I owe a beer.

 

[Raryn]

Haha, this has become quite the interesting topic since I left. Keep the name calling to a minimum would you? I can see your points. No, I didn't cast away my social life I just did not get into any serious relationships. I'll ignore the ***** statement since your all still med students.

I don't automatically just give up after a first date. We keep in contact, but they always stress my job. I honestly couldn't care less about which career a woman prefers. I did not go into medicine to become a pimp. The problem arises when she automatically locks on to my job description and just can't look at anything else. Your right though, I may be dating the wrong type of women.




You sir, I owe a beer.

If I were you I'd describe my job as "urologic surgeon" or even just "surgeon". Most people have no idea what a urologist is, and that should cut a number of the questions off at the pass.

 

[upright]

I'll ignore the ***** statement since your all still med students.

Oh yes, because attending-hood clearly paves the road to social mastery.

 

[VendettaCross]

Oh yes, because attending-hood clearly paves the road to social mastery.

No. All attending are highly dysfunctional, psychopathic people. I thought this was already established.🙄

If I were you I'd describe my job as "urologic surgeon" or even just "surgeon". Most people have no idea what a urologist is, and that should cut a number of the questions off at the pass.

Oh god. That would just excite her more.. I need a calm person. Ha-ha. You will probably run into one of these people as you progress through your training. It won't bug you at first, in fact you'll see it as being part of your job. However, it wears down after some time.

It depends on the type of person you are in the end. Some want to constantly "enlighten" people on their job description, others want to get spend time doing other things like wine tasting while listening to Tony Bennett.

 

[armybound]

between the "urinary track" and "your all still med students" this is only slightly trollish.

 

[Valadi]

Oh god. That would just excite her more.. I need a calm person. Ha-ha. You will probably run into one of these people as you progress through your training. It won't bug you at first, in fact you'll see it as being part of your job. However, it wears down after some time.

It depends on the type of person you are in the end. Some want to constantly "enlighten" people on their job description, others want to get spend time doing other things like wine tasting while listening to Tony Bennett.

You've only -just- started dating again and you're already sick of people gushing over your job description.

Maybe you have some unresolved feelings of inadequacy which make you feel it is unwarranted and not commonplace for two individuals getting to know each other to ask about their careers.

Tell me that if she was a lion tamer, wartime photojournalist, fighter pilot, or had helped build spacestation Mir, you would not get a little excited and ask several sincere appreciative questions about her job? Shoot, if she were a librarian it's still polite to show an appropriate amount of enthusiasm and curiosity about what they do on a day-to-day.

I think you're reading way too much into this. I've seen young hotshot attending plastic surgeons meet women and after the usual 10 minutes of "oh wow" they graciously transition into deeper rapport. I assume you can do the same.

 

[Valadi]

between the "urinary track" and "your all still med students" this is only slightly trollish.

Agree. Let's get back to the gold on this thread, which is the enigmatic serial-killer killer dialogue.

No offense, Rollo!

 

[pupster]

I made a promise to not get into a relationship until after I finished all of my training before going to medical school and residency and I rightfully kept that promise untill I finished residency a couple of years ago. So now, I'm in my early 30's and single. I have to say I really enjoyed parts of it, but last year I decided to start dating again. That was when it started.

This is how the conversation went every single date..

-Small talk, but eventually we get to this question-

Woman: "So...what do you do?"

Me: "I'm a urologist."

Women: "What is that? Like a urine sampler" - (Really heard that once. Haha)

Me: "Ha-ha, no. I'm a medical doctor who specializes in treating diseases of the urinary track and other sexual organs with medicine and surgery"

Women: "Oh my god! That's so cool!"

Me:" Oh? Ha-ha its prett- (Starts cutting me off..)

Women: "I mean how awesome is it that you get to save lives every single day and do surgery! That has to be like the greatest job in the world!"

Me: "Well I do a lot of things but I don't save lives every-

Women: "God! Your patients are so lucky to have someone like you."

Me: "Oh thank-

Women: "Have you ever held a heart?"

And thats ALL we talk about for the rest of the evening. I mean I can understand the admiration for what I do, but if I wanted to talk about my surgeries I would have stayed in the hospital and talked to the other surgeons and urologist. I would much rather talk about the wine, your job, your aspirations in life, not my radical prostatectomy yesterday morning.

So, I decided to start lying about my profession. Maybe start claiming to be a engineer or accountant. I dunno, just something. Do any single resident/attending have this problem? I know most of you are married, but I would still like to here your take.

Fark that...I'm banging 4 different women -- I pull a Christian Troy and once they hear I can do botox and fillers, they drop their panties in a wad.... God...life is good. Just had dinner w/ a hottie 9 years younger (I'm 35), and we made out on my couch for 40 minutes. Only the second date, and I'll probably bang her the next date.

Gotta admit..dermatology isn't "sexy" per se, but it gives me plenty of time to get some ass....

 

[VendettaCross]

Fark that...I'm banging 4 different women -- I pull a Christian Troy and once they hear I can do botox and fillers, they drop their panties in a wad.... God...life is good. Just had dinner w/ a hottie 9 years younger (I'm 35), and we made out on my couch for 40 minutes. Only the second date, and I'll probably bang her the next date.

Gotta admit..dermatology isn't "sexy" per se, but it gives me plenty of time to get some ass....

Well you are a trooper. God speed

between the "urinary track" and "your all still med students" this is only slightly trollish.

I'm sure most people understood I meant "tract". But I'll clear it up for anyone who confuses the two. Its tract, not track. A troll would come up with a much better story, but I'm not sure what his goal would be for doing so.

You've only -just- started dating again and you're already sick of people gushing over your job description.

Maybe you have some unresolved feelings of inadequacy which make you feel it is unwarranted and not commonplace for two individuals getting to know each other to ask about their careers.

Tell me that if she was a lion tamer, wartime photojournalist, fighter pilot, or had helped build spacestation Mir, you would not get a little excited and ask several sincere questions appreciative questions about her job? Shoot, if she were a librarian it's still polite to show an appropriate amount of enthusiasm and curiosity about what they do on a day-to-day.

I think you're reading way too much into this. I've seen young hotshot attending plastic surgeons meet women and after the usual 10 minutes of "oh wow" they graciously transition into deeper rapport. I assume you can do the same.

Lion tamer? That would be something else. Asking me about my career is fine. Bringing it up every conversation we have even when I try to sway the conversation into something else? Not so much.
Nothing wrong with curiosity or enthusiasm for my job. Not wanting to know anything else other that what I do in my office on a day to day basics however does tend to kill the romance. I think they put way too much emphasis on "aspiration" and enthusiasm of my job and not enough on the guy they're having dinner with.

 

[PrideNeverDie]

all i say is that i'm in the healthcare industry

then shift the topic to something 20 year olds find interesting

i don't date wifey material so if ur into banging hot, stupid girls use my strategy

 

[Coldsoldier]

Lets get back to the gold in this thread. Lets try something on the lines of

Her: So I hear your good with your...hands?
Rollo: Yeah, I occasionally...use machines to get a much better angle.

Her: Oh so like a graphic designer?
Rollo: Well graphic designers don't get to play with human skin...

Her: Oh! I see, so you work with skin?
Rollo: Oh I work with skin alright, and some organs here and there..

Her: Um..with what?
Rollo: Well I can pick anything laying next to me. I have a special area just for that, I prefer sharp metals..Lots of sharp metals

Her: *gulp* You don't do anything radical with them do you?
Rollo: Oh, that's interesting. In fact, today a man came to me telling me he was in pain..so I had to do some radical things to him, buts its OK. After I was done with him...he didn't have any pain anymore.

Her: -Takes of running-
Rollo: WAIT!. (Make sure you sprint after her to make sure she sees you're really into her) I have my instruments here with me from my last operation! Let me show you how I take care of peoples pain! I can kill your curiosity!

 

[ronaldo23]

Why jump straight to "I'm a urologist"?

Keep it vague, have an air of mystery about you. Let the women fish out what it is that you do. Think of yourself as a riddle that they have to solve. Try this next time..

"What do you do?"
"I help people. So what do you think of this part of the city?"
....blah blah 15 minutes later and she's curious....
"So how do you help people?"
"With my hands...sometimes I use my brain and sometimes a shiny metal object...so tell me more about your hometown"
....blah blah 15 minutes later and she's more curious....
"What exactly do you do for people with your hands?"
"Well, I listen to them, the problem they're having, and provide reassurance that things will be ok and sometimes that requires the use of my hands and that shiny metal object I mentioned earlier."
...blah blah 15 minutes later and now she's getting horny...
"No really, you're being really vague now. Can you at least tell me where you work?"
"It's a place where some go to die, some go to live. It's a place where others receive hope, yet some don't. It's a place filled with paradoxes. Tell me about your last out-of-country trip you took."
.
.
.
and so on...

At some point, you will have to cave, of course. But by then, you will have built up her expectations of what you do and you will not disappoint seeing how being a doctor still makes people go, "Ooohh...that's interesting..."

 

[altered states]

Why jump straight to "I'm a urologist"?

Keep it vague, have an air of mystery about you. Let the women fish out what it is that you do. Think of yourself as a riddle that they have to solve. Try this next time..

"What do you do?"
"I help people. So what do you think of this part of the city?"
....blah blah 15 minutes later and she's curious....
"So how do you help people?"
"With my hands...sometimes I use my brain and sometimes a shiny metal object...so tell me more about your hometown"
....blah blah 15 minutes later and she's more curious....
"What exactly do you do for people with your hands?"
"Well, I listen to them, the problem they're having, and provide reassurance that things will be ok and sometimes that requires the use of my hands and that shiny metal object I mentioned earlier."
...blah blah 15 minutes later and now she's getting horny...
"No really, you're being really vague now. Can you at least tell me where you work?"
"It's a place where some go to die, some go to live. It's a place where others receive hope, yet some don't. It's a place filled with paradoxes. Tell me about your last out-of-country trip you took."
.
.
.
and so on...

At some point, you will have to cave, of course. But by then, you will have built up her expectations of what you do and you will not disappoint seeing how being a doctor still makes people go, "Ooohh...that's interesting..."

I think he's joking...You are joking, right?

 

[hematosis]

blonde: what do you do?

me: i'm a podiatry student.

Blonde: a what?

me: a podiatric medical student.

blonde: omg i love kids too!

me: ugh great. lets go to my place.

 

[Oxer45]

how is this even a problem? dont most people lie about being a doctor..you actually are one!!!

 

[235009]

I think he's joking...You are joking, right?

.....unfortunately i don't think so

 

[tiedyeddog]

I am going to bookmark this thread and look at it when I need a real pick-me-up.

 

[CaptainSSO]

Tell her you are a cab driver. Then stick your head up high and mention that you only drive "in very exclusive neighborhoods". Make sure you project a sense of undeserved pride.

That will end her inquiring more into your work life. Take it from me, the love doctor.

Hahahahaha

To OP: there's no need to ever lie on a date. I'm surprised you're in your thirties and asking this question.