LADoc, with all due respect, you sound like an ass. I seriously doubt for a moment you have any real sympathy for the poor female colleagues you see struggling to find meaningful relationships in the hospital.
A successful man confident with their status in life doesn't spend their time sharing their "pity" online with their poor, unloved women colleagues. A man who feels snubbed in their chosen profession might, on the other hand, attempt to compensate for his lackings with snide patronizing commentary. The fact that you've been passed up for residency, fellowship, or promotion by physicians without a penis obviously rubs you the wrong way... and you're trying to convince yourself this is acceptable, since at least you have the option of hooking up with physically attractive but intellectually under-achieving women.
Quite frankly, that option is certainly yours... but some of us are able to come to terms with the matter in a dramatically different way. Women and men in this field, just as in many others, is a meaningless distinction. Some women are uninterested in family, just as men are. Some women value professional satisfaction over relationships, just as some men do. And on the other side of the table... *some* men value professional achievement in their partners, just as women often do.
I'm the husband/spouse in my little medical marriage. I, in my non-medical career, make in one year what the typical attending will make in ten. In the years my wife will be in training, I will have made more than you will probably make over the course of your entire career in medicine. But even though I've reached the peak of my career... the last thing I wanted was a trophy wife who could decorate my house and breast-feed my babies. I wanted, and got, a doctor(-in-training) wife who will be successful at her career.
Frankly, I find the intellectual stimulation, the mutual career support absolutely thrilling... and in 5-10 years, after she finishes training, I'm hoping we'll be able to launch a new business that leverages both of our backgrounds.
When I was sitting in my luxury box with buddies + wifes/girlfriends this weekend, I personally was reveling in the fact that *my* wife was going to be a doctor... while their wives had little more than hobby careers, or were on the fast-track to soccer-mom status. That, to me, made her unbelievably sexy.
Now, I have little hope this splash of reality will actually mean much to you... whatever your psychosis is, it will most certainly take far more than the charity therapy I can throw out here to change your mind. (If I was going to dig deeper though, I'd probably want to start by digging into the poor example your mother set.)
But I do hope that the women doctors out there understand that we're not all dinosaurs out here... it's possible to have both professional and family success. Men or women, if you tackle your personal relationships with the same dedication and good judgment that you've used in your professional life, you really can have it all.
at LaDoc's post at pillow lmao
